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Horror at sons "special" christmas present?

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Becc91 · 27/12/2025 17:57

So my DS (20) came home for christmas from bristol uni with a "special" christmas present. Had me open it in front of everyone... only to find a positive pregnancy test 😱!
Turns out his new GF of 6 months, who he met online (discard?) , is an international student from Korea, studying "innovation" 🙄. I want so badly to be happy for him, but just feel he's far too young to be having a child with someone who'll be leaving the country come september.

I've always wanted to be a grandma, but not at 38!!
This, plus the fact she's 26 and we haven't even met makes me SO worried for my DS... but I'm fuming that he thought it was appropriate to give this as a present and make me open it in front of everyone.

DS now isn't speaking to me after I told him in no uncertain terms that the three of them couldn't move in when their degrees are finished- which he had the nerve to suggest over Christmas Dinner?! AIBU?

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Sleepasaurus · 27/12/2025 18:03

What would you like him to do?

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 27/12/2025 18:02

Christmaseree · 27/12/2025 17:59

How did your parents react when you were pregnant at 17 or 18, in a similar way?

Whilst there was probably a better way to tell you, I agree with this post.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 27/12/2025 18:02

I would let my son and the woman carrying my grandchild move in if they needed to. You don’t want her fleeing to Korea. If baby is born here your son will have more rights. but I’m confused you said she’s leaving the country, but they want to move in?
if her parents are kinder, strong chance your son will become a tefl teacher in Korea and they’ll both move out there

isyouready · 27/12/2025 18:02

How awful for you. I just wanted to post as I saw you had no response. They are people that care about your situation. I hope you get replies from people wiser than me.

Squirrelchops1 · 27/12/2025 18:01

Christmaseree · 27/12/2025 17:59

How did your parents react when you were pregnant at 17 or 18, in a similar way?

Ouch, but yes, a pretty relevant point!

Christmaseree · 27/12/2025 17:59

How did your parents react when you were pregnant at 17 or 18, in a similar way?

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