Horror at sons "special" christmas present?

I know something far worse than hypocrisy. It’s knowing nothing about OP’s own situation and commenting like this. Just because she had her DS at a young age doesn’t mean she should be brimming with pride at what’s happened here. He sounds immature and irresponsible. Not exactly great dad material.

On a different forum? Or on this one? Would help me spot trolls in future…

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I wonder if she's told her parents yet, and how they reacted. The reaction to single mums is very different in S Korea and she may face being stigmatised/shunned even by her own family members

Uh oh, OP, you’ve left one of your Journo/ Annotation tags in. I’d just discard the lot to be honest bevause it’s meaningless pap.

Hope that helps

So.. You opened his present to find a photo of a pregnancy test? Not the actual urine soaked stick? 😬

Is it also not a bit hurtful for you to be complaining about your son and his future child on Mumsnet alongside not letting him move back home when he is only 20?

You sound about as unreasonable as I could imagine. At least he finished his teens before having a kid.

From your post, the maths makes you 18 when you had you ds? I wonder how your parents reacted at the time? Perhaps your ds is feeling your a bit of a hypocrite.

Well DUH yes if she wants to move back to be closer to her family! Not exactly difficult to work that out ….

Depends on whether she wrapped up the pregnancy test as a gift and forced them to open it in front of everyone on Christmas Day doesn’t it ?

I looked for a pot and the colour black but it wasn’t as punchy! OP is a hypocrite. HTH

Well, yes, I suppose so. But he's probably shitting himself and all sense went out of his head. Would you have considered yourself "mature" at 20? I mean, maybe you were; not everyone's as big as idiot as me, but most people aren't especially mature at that age.

Yeah South Korean people are just gagging for UK visas 🤔

Well she’s quite possibly not going to be allowed to stay in the country after her degree finishes if she’s on a student visa. So yeah it maybe does.

Even if OP let them move in, 1 of 2 things will happen ; the relationship with the mother isn't likely to last, or they may decide to move to Korea anyway. It's not a million miles away in this day and age.
D moved to America to get married, I'm in the same situation with any future dc.
The young people have to live their lives as they see fit, make their mistakes and learn from them. It's all part of being an adult.

This is a really weird take on it. I do not see OP talking about this at all.

They're on completely different levels in life experience
They've been together a short time
The OP was the one who mentioned where the woman was from originally ( the woman she hasn't met )
If the sexes were reversed no one would be congratulating

WTA has my comment got to do with Brexit ?
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Have to say I am horrified by the accusations of hypocrisy aimed at OP. If you have children at Uni, it is reasonable to anticipate that they won’t make any other life changing decisions ( such as having a child) until they’ve finished their degree. The relationship is only 6 months in (much too soon for a baby whatever the ages) and the partner is six years older and so much more mature than OP’s 20 year old son.
OP has probably missed out on a lot of freedom in her own early 20s and so now her son is an adult and studying, I can imagine she may have been looking forward to a bit less responsibility for a while - not moving a couple plus baby into her home.
If he is mature enough to be a dad, he should be mature enough to know how to share the news and make any requests for support privately and not put his mum on the spot.
I feel really sorry the news was given in this way OP and agree that asking to move in over christmas dinner just made it worse.
Really hope you can sort things and meet the girlfriend soon.

Cynical me says dna test.
Prafmatic me says, get him sheep shearing in Aus PDQ.
Fair me says, maintenance needs sorting out if one above is +ve.

if gf is 26, she knew exactly what she was doing and it was more about birthing a visa than a baby your poor ds.

How do you know that the OP got pregnant in a similar way?

That's a pretty vile thing to say when you don't know what circumstances resulted in the conception of the OPs son, you know?

It Isn’t ideal but it is not your life, I’d definitely let them move in if I had the space.

Wow. Almost unbelievable, OP. I hope you're able to come back and take on some of this advice.

Claiming to have ‘anxiety’ and then commenting something RUDE like this…unbearable 😡

No judgement from you then?
Smug and judgmental