For being upset

Thats not my opinion upon receiving a parcel. Thats my opinion upon hearing a friend is upset with me because I haven't had the time to collect to said parcel.

I think this might be one of the most dramatic drip feeds I've ever seen

I thought you were pretty unreasonable to get so weird about her not being able to collect a parcel as it is

Add in the newborn, very sick baby and the very sick DH and you're one of the most unreasonable people I've seen

Is this a reverse? And your the poor woman dealing with all this whilst a friend hassles you about not collecting the parcel? Because if so, they are no friend to you

Why are you telling people to read the whole thread when their comments were posted before OP’s massive drip feed? Reading the whole thread would make no difference to posting those comment because the OP hasn’t given that information yet.

However, it is still an insane reaction ti have when someone sends you a gift. I can’t think of any actual human being I know who would you say, “You sent a gift to me; you’re just so lazy.”

The choice made by the delivery driver is not the fault of the OP.
Most of us would shrug it off and go and Go and collect it, and if life prevented collection then so be it. But look at what you wrote about someone sending a gift… absolutely insane. To say that the sender is lazy and everything else you said? That is mad.

The OP had given a huge drip feed that makes her annoyance quite misplaced, but anyone receiving a parcel who then has your opinion about receiving a parcel is just nuts, rather than “oh well, I can’t get it so you’ll get a refund and we’ll find a time to see each other instead or something.”

A tough one.
You say the depot is 10 mins away. But that’s a 20 min round trip. Add on the 5-10 mins waiting in there and getting the parcel, and it’s a 30 min errand, not a 10 min one.

Her husband isn’t well and her new baby is poorly. There’sa LOT going on for everyone at this time of year. Perhaps she would’ve loved to collect the parcel but really hasn’t had a minute. You haven’t said if she’s hosting family over Christmas, but imagine if she is, just how busy things are for her. I can understand you feeling hurt though, but just think what she’s going through.

Read the whole thread! OP is being unreasonable or its a reverse!

Not at all, but its the OP who is upset at the friend not having time to pick up her gift. I think its a cheek to put an obligation on someone so you get to feel good about yourself.

Plus most deliveries are just left on doorstep now, i can't remember the last time I had an undelivered parcel.

Given all those things I think you are being massively unfair. Normally I'd say it's rather lazy just not to pick up a gift, but I think it's different here. Husband not well enough to look after baby, husband not well enough to go out into the cold. So she'd have to make the trip alone in the car with a baby who might go into a seizure - yes you are being massively unfair! Assuming the company have re-funded you, could you reorder the gift to yours and plan a time to pop round and see her? Or even don't reorder and just see if you could pop round and help her. Some groceries delivered or someone to hold the baby while husband is resting and she wants two hands to do some housework might be better than any physical gift.

Bloody hell @Kate8889your poor friend is really going through it at the moment. Don’t be surprised if she backs away from the friendship. Badgering her to collect a gift when she is probably stressed beyond belief isn’t the sign of a good friend.

Give yourself a shake.

Holy fuck OP, you know you're being incredibly unfair to her. That poor woman, she's got much bigger things to worry about than your parcel!

Apologise for hounding her and try to be a better friend. You were seriously thinking of ditching her? 😱

Reading this update, yes you are being massively unfair! Sounds like she has an awful lot on her plate and probably the last thing on her mind was running out to collect a gift during the busy Christmas period. Cut her some slack OP!

Yeah your further update changes things. It’s not surprising she couldn’t get to go

You think?

Given your update OP you are being massively unreasonable. Also, even the fact that you are considering ending the friendship over this is ridiculous

Blimey. That is a bit of a drip feed, OP. No wonder she struggled to collect the gift.

Bloody hell OP, that's quite a dripfeed. I think you know in your heart YABU. She's not rejecting you or your friendship, she's just maxed out right now.

Only you know what her lifestyle is like. Is she busy? I can totally see that collecting the present is an item on her to do list and she might prefer the 20 minutes plus waiting time to do other essential Xmas prep.

It's just one of those things. Yeah its a shame she won't get her gift and you did a nice thing but try not to feel upset about it.

You did everything you could in the situation...ie ordered a gift to her home in time for Christmas. She didn't get round to picking it up, maybe it was an oversight on her part

Our local in post can be an effort for me to get to. I work full time and if I want to drive there, the only times I can drive due to work are notoriously bad for traffic build up. And due to work, atm I would either have to walk early morning in the dark, or after work in the dark, when frankly, it's an effort. So I often put off going until I have to. Its one of those chores thats a pain.

It's unfortunate that it wasn't delivered, at such a busy time of year it can be hard to find the time for these extra errands. I don't think it's personal against you that she didn't manage it.

yeah, really bad to send her friend a present. What was she thinking? 🙄

As an absolutely insane way to look at someone sending a gift to your home. You must be an incredibly miserable person if that is the way you see a gift being sent.

There’s no way she couldn’t find 10 minutes to drive down and collect it. She clearly could t be arsed and couldn’t be bothered. It’s hurtful that she didn’t think you’re worth this trip so sod her. Don’t get a replacement gift.