For being upset

You do you

Correct! Taking all of that information into account you are being totally unreasonable. I should imagine the poor woman is living on her nerves and very little sleep. You'll be lucky if she's remembering to eat!! She is doing well to survive right now. Give her a break! (From the perspective of a medical mum)

Its probably not just ten minutes though to get they're and back and wait in queues and these places often don't have long opening hours. We don't know anything about the recipients ordinal circumstances so really can't judge if she could find the time or not.

This is a reverse, the other angle was posted earlier last week.

If you see a gift as a chore that says far more about you as a person than the person who has taken the time and money to send it.

You're upset because 1) your friend doesn't have your standards 2) you didn't get the glory of hearing how they loved it and what an amazing friend you are. It is shoddy that she didn't pick it up after the effort you went to but she could have tons going on and adding to her to do list probably didn't feel like much of a gift. Perhaps send things that can fit through the letter box next time.

The OP has drip fed that there are huge problems for her friend.

My friend there wasn’t - I have a very busy life, 3 kids, full time job, elderly parents etc etc etc. I’ve never not found a time in two weeks to pick up a parcel delivered when I wasn’t home.

I love my friend - but she doesn’t prioritise gifts. That’s cool, I won’t send them.

Good, she'll know how much you actually value her

Ya think?

Hint - yes you are.

Considering ending the friendship? Oh my god

That’s good. Sending people a chore isn’t a present. I work full time and would find it a hassle to go and collect a parcel.

The collection point where I am is either open during g my working hours or before noon on Saturday. It’s not always convenient.

people have busy full lives.

My friend did this with a present for her daughter about 5 years ago. Have never sent her anything since.

It sounds more like she didn't have the headspace to take on another errand due to the strain she's under with all these health needs. In some ways I think that can be harder than finding time for a 10 minute walk when you're just busy in a practical sense.

thia is the most insane dripfeed I've ever seen on here and YES - of course you are being massively unreasonable. You actually sound like a psychopath that you are considering dropping a friend because she didn't have a spare 20 inutes in dire circumstances to go and get a gift from you! What the hell??

I was going to ask where she lived because the wind has been bitter here (NW England). Munich has been in the -1 to -4°. Your gifts shouldn't be about you, it should be about the person you were sending it to. You wanted her to take her baby out in -4°, or her partner go, with pneumonia? In theory I've had time to do things, but I'm recovering from the flu and it's just been too cold and I'm knackered. I've missed on on the Christmas markets/fair etc. She certainly doesn't need your pestering or guilt tripping.

You have her a present that turned into a chore at the busiest time of year when she has a huge amount on her plate.

you have made it all about you.

yes, I think this is a friendship not worth keeping. You are too much work:

Give that poor woman a break.
She sounds like she could be drowning with all that going on.

This is the kind of thing my Mum does and it drives me mad- obviously appreciate a card being sent for example but then don’t message me everyday asking me if I’ve received the card. This year she asked me everyday for 9 days (even Sunday even though there’s no post) and then finally send me a picture of what it looks like 😆. The card arrived the next day. Honestly- don’t send things if you’re then going to hassle the person imo, parcel or not. Especially if she has so many things going on- yabu

This has to be a reverse.

Did you send to be signed for @Kate8889 ? If so, that's on you. I haven't had to go somewhere to collect a parcel for years. Why was there only 1 delivery attempt too?

Without your update, you were being a drama queen to even think of dropping her as a friend over this. Christmas is a very busy time for people.

With your update, I think she should drop you as a friend. You are clearly a very self absorbed, immature person. She really doesnt need people like you in her life right now.

It’s self centred and presumptuous to think that anyone should prioritise collecting a parcel that they didn’t ask for at any time, never mind when it’s Christmas and they have issues.

Plus, if it’s anything like my collection centre their opening hours are ridiculous to none, and even with all the will in the world to collect a parcel, it’s difficult.

Wow.
She's going through a living nightmare and you were repeatedly pestering her to do another chore on top of all that she has to deal with? And are going to dump her?

Definitely end the friendship, she needs supportive people in her life.

I'm thinking reverse. Although I'll never understand why people post reverse if it is...you don't need to pretend to get honest responses on this site and it just annoys people!