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Argument with my DM over baby items

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Firsttimer266 · 26/12/2025 17:09

Hi, long time lurker first time poster.

I am expecting my first baby, my DH and I are thrilled!

We live in a rented older terest house and have been here for 4 months now. Lovely area and nice if a bit quirky home. Because of where we live being great and having recently moved I do not want to consider moving again to better 'accommodate' the baby.

We can have minimal baby 'furniture' without missing any of the important bits and get creative with storage for toys get old enough to play with them...

My mum, however, is quite keen for us to move and have a house better suited to having a baby. Says we wont be able to get all the stuff we need. Mostly, she's going on about the pram/pushchair because our front door is steep steps and back door hasn't anywhere to put the pram.

I think this is something we can deal with when we get there? And not a huge deal?

Shes angry with me now and says I dont know cause I've never done it. Am I underescting that this isn't going to be an issue? Any easily folding pram recs welcome 😉

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Nevermind17 · 26/12/2025 17:30

Millions of people have raised children in terraces and flats. You’ll be grand. Lots of terraced housing is quite roomy. I’d imagine it would be a lot more spacious than many pokey new-builds.

Strawberrycream123 · 26/12/2025 17:27

You just need a baby carrier and a backpack for when baby is tiny. When baby is a little bit bigger, get one of the fold up (mybabiie do a really lightweight one) pushchairs that you can strap them into… I used one from 5 weeks with no issues. You’ll be absolutely fine, but do NOT buy a traditional travel system it will be problematic

Sneesellsseashells · 26/12/2025 17:26

If you have a car this isn’t an issue. Our pram lives in the boot. Slings are fab and you can get strollers that are incredibly light.

mrssunshinexxx · 26/12/2025 17:23

I agree I couldn’t imagine not being able to get straight in the house with pram if baby sleeping without navigating steps but it’s your baby not hers so if you’re happy that’s all that matters

blubberyboo · 26/12/2025 17:22

If you have a car your pram/buggy will probably never be in the house. I had one of those systems where the car seat clipped onto the buggy frame for first months before baby moved to buggy. The buggy lived in the boot and i carried the car seat in and out. Even if you dont have a car you might have a shed to keep the wheels part in.

I bet if your terraced house is very old it has raised several generations of babies. Also if you soon get pissed off there is no reason why you cant plan to move later. You dont have to stay there permanently once you become a mum.

BabyHairs · 26/12/2025 17:19

Firsttimer266 · 26/12/2025 17:13

Genuinely, why do you agree?

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I mean for me I wouldn’t live there because of the steps and lack of space in that order. I am very safety conscious though, most people wouldn’t be so bothered.

Smaller spaces are easier to clean but with a young child can feel overwhelming unless you’re a family of minimalists as they need safe spaces to crawl, run and play.

Hankunamatata · 26/12/2025 17:18

Any house can fit a baby. You don't need baby furniture. We had a bassinet and a crib.

Clarehandaust · 26/12/2025 17:15

I remember being horrified years ago because I had one of those great big traditional prams that one of my friends who was actually a doctor herself had decided to just have a baby sling and a McLaren push chair for her little one
Guess what? 18 years later the children are all fine.
If you just want a little buggy type arrangement, then that will be absolutely perfect and lightweight to go up and down the stairs

parietal · 26/12/2025 17:15

Get a small folding buggy and a good sling (ergo). Then you’ll be fine. Definitely don’t move from a nice area just because your mum says so.

do you have a car? If so, you can store the buggy in the boot of the car.

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Firsttimer266 · 26/12/2025 17:14

Overthebow · 26/12/2025 17:13

Is it just the steps that will be an issue? If so then it will be fine, it may be a bit annoying but people live in flats with babies and get on fine.

Thats her main issue, house isn't massive but it's a very normal size for the area

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Firsttimer266 · 26/12/2025 17:13

Topjoe19 · 26/12/2025 17:13

Well I do agree with her, but it's your life so you don't have to do anything you don't want to. It's not worth falling out over that's for sure.

Genuinely, why do you agree?

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Overthebow · 26/12/2025 17:13

Is it just the steps that will be an issue? If so then it will be fine, it may be a bit annoying but people live in flats with babies and get on fine.

Topjoe19 · 26/12/2025 17:13

Well I do agree with her, but it's your life so you don't have to do anything you don't want to. It's not worth falling out over that's for sure.

MumChp · 26/12/2025 17:11

Remind her that's it's none of her business.
Don't allow her to spoil your family life.

We had a NUNA stroller for our last child. It was brilliant. So many great prams to choose from.