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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 2025-12-26T16:22:01+00:00

Would they go on Boxing Day and leave you home alone all day? Just wondering if I’m being unreasonable because football bores me rigid and I can’t imagine leaving my partner of 6 years alone on Boxing Day.

clary · 26/12/2025 17:28

hahahI have read the first posts on the thread and they are all along the same lines as mine! excellent. <eats words>

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:28

arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2025 17:26

um. No. It’s completely normal. It’s family after all. Same grandkids.

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Don't be ridiculous

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ilovesooty · 26/12/2025 17:27

The fixture list was available well in advance. You could have attempted to make early arrangements with your children or other family members. You just prefer to resent your partner for using his season ticket rather than staying at home to entertain you.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:27

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:25

Not with my children’s in-laws, that would be a bit strange.

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Why would that be strange? They’re your extended family. It’s not strange for extended families to see each other at Christmas.

Lowlandgirl · 26/12/2025 17:27

Yes and New Year’s Day match - partner and son both go and I love those days for me time during a heavy social period.
ensure I have a good book, nice picky food I like and a few self care bits (face masks etc)
often go for a walk - always find a coffee shop open to stop and watch the world go by for a bit. Lovely slow days in a hectic season

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:27

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:23

30 miles now?? 😂😂

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It’s rural ok? Miles and miles from anywhere, nowhere open, nothing to do unless you want to hike a Munro.

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arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2025 17:26

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:25

Not with my children’s in-laws, that would be a bit strange.

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um. No. It’s completely normal. It’s family after all. Same grandkids.

clary · 26/12/2025 17:26

Yes he does and yes he does. But tbf he had a season ticket before I knew him and has always gone to the football. He takes the DSs when they are available (not very often now as working/at uni) and I know they enjoy the day (even when they lost last-minute like today, which is a shame).

I don’t have an issue at all. I knew this was his passion when I married him. There are things that bug me about my husband but him going to the footy is not one of them. I bet this thread has loads of PPs saying how selfish he is but I think, if you love doing something, your partner should support you – not necessarily do it with you, but enable you to do it. Especially if you have done it for years before you met them.

It works both ways of course. I have hobbies that take me out for the evening or out for the day without any of the family. All good. FWIW I love Boxing Day relaxation with no one here to please but myself and DD.

CoralOP · 26/12/2025 17:25

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:22

There is nowhere open within 30 miles of me. I have been out, shops shut, pubs shut, gym shut, coffee shops shut.

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Drive further

You're obviously in a foul mood and not taking anything on board, snap out of it and get on with your boxing day.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:25

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:22

But they’re family? Isn’t that what you want? family time?

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Not with my children’s in-laws, that would be a bit strange.

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SoLongMae · 26/12/2025 17:24

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:00

Maybe it’s a social class thing, I grew up with christmas being about family. Not sport.

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Also this is so snobby.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:24

locketrocket · 26/12/2025 17:15

So your traditions are more important than your partners?

Ever heard of compromise?

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Clearly i have since I’m the one at home, my partner is out.

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TwistedWonder · 26/12/2025 17:23

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:16

My thoughts too, sounds like the Op just wants to be mad at her partner for going to the football.

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Yep. It’s one of those threads where the OP has decided she’s right and everyone else is wrong

They will just argue black is white rather than acknowledge any other opinion.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:23

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:22

There is nowhere open within 30 miles of me. I have been out, shops shut, pubs shut, gym shut, coffee shops shut.

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30 miles now?? 😂😂

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:22

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:17

I didn't invite my children’s in-laws to my home yesterday 🤷‍♀️
They live at the other side of the country. If I was invited anywhere today, I would be invited as a couple. I would rather be on my own in my own home, than a third wheel at my child’s in-laws.

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But they’re family? Isn’t that what you want? family time?

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:22

Brightbluesomething · 26/12/2025 17:19

Well we’re not in a city and DS has just set off to work, at a pub. I’ll be joining him later to watch the match. Plenty of places are open if you have the right mindset.
You’re sounding more and more like a petulant teenager. Just find something to do.

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There is nowhere open within 30 miles of me. I have been out, shops shut, pubs shut, gym shut, coffee shops shut.

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SoLongMae · 26/12/2025 17:21

I don't think we can answer this as it clearly completely depends on the dynamics of your relationship, whether football is an ingrained and accepted part of your life, and what your family setup is like.

DP has been a season ticket holder since he was young. I'm not, but go regularly (different teams). He goes all the time and I am fine with this. So for us, Boxing Day matches are expected and regular.

However, we don't have kids and our families are also football fans, so it's a given that if either of our teams are at home on Boxing Day, he'll definitely be there, and I might be there with most members of my family, so plans are built around that.

Neither of us have gone today due to how the fixtures have landed. It has been nice to spend the day with him, but I'd have been equally as happy without him!

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:21

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:18

I could take myself shooting. I choose not to, it’s family time.

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Why are you refusing to explain why your views and traditions are more important than your partner’s?

Whaleandsnail6 · 26/12/2025 17:21

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 26/12/2025 17:16

My thoughts too, sounds like the Op just wants to be mad at her partner for going to the football.

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I agree with this.

Op, you could have found something to occupy yourself today if you had wanted to but you'd rather be angry at your partner and sit resenting the fact he has gone to the football than found something to do and make the day nicer for yourself

Why not have tomorrow or Sunday as family day instead of today?

arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2025 17:21

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:17

I didn't invite my children’s in-laws to my home yesterday 🤷‍♀️
They live at the other side of the country. If I was invited anywhere today, I would be invited as a couple. I would rather be on my own in my own home, than a third wheel at my child’s in-laws.

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Eh? But that’s family?!? That’s what you’ve been saying all along, you think it should be about family, but now you’re saying you wouldn’t feel right to be with your family?!? Make it make sense.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:20

TidyCyan · 26/12/2025 17:18

I don't know why you're clinging onto the family your "grew up in" when you are old enough to have adult children. You must have experienced a plethora of different Christmases.

No, all together, parents and siblings, plus their spouses and kids and a couple of their in-laws. Older ones have died.

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Brightbluesomething · 26/12/2025 17:19

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:12

Not in the countryside, I’ve been out and everywhere within 20 miles is shut.

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Well we’re not in a city and DS has just set off to work, at a pub. I’ll be joining him later to watch the match. Plenty of places are open if you have the right mindset.
You’re sounding more and more like a petulant teenager. Just find something to do.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:19

Brefugee · 26/12/2025 17:18

Oh dear. Waitrose not open? Nowhere to go?

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I’ve never been in a Waitrose, I'm too remote for them.

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PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 26/12/2025 17:19

No.

DH has a season ticket to a premiership football team.

Boxing Day is the one match he doesn’t go to.

as it happens they are away today and have been away for the last Few years but no, he never goes on Boxing Day.

TidyCyan · 26/12/2025 17:18

I don't know why you're clinging onto the family your "grew up in" when you are old enough to have adult children. You must have experienced a plethora of different Christmases.