If your partner has a football season ticket…

There is no city in England that is "an absolute scary shit hole", FFS.
You could have hitched a lift and enjoyed a nice day out, but you were determined to be a pathetic martyr talking about "abandonment".

And even if your partner had stayed home, would you have spent the whole day together making sparkling conversation? I think not.....

So he is spending today with family!! You absolute hypocrite. You got to spend yesterday with your family.

Boxing Day football has been the highlight of the football calendar since time immortal.
I assume he had a ST when you met him? They are so bloody expensive now I wouldn't want to miss a single match unless my leg was hanging off.
So yes YABU, very! You're not joined at the hip

It sounds like you need to be adding more colour to your daily life rather than trying to subtract it from your partner’s. Are you seriously suggesting you rely on these 2 days for your fill of social interaction for the year? Definitely a you problem, not a him problem.

Curious which match he has gone to see . Assuming OP is in Scotland , I am not aware of any professional matches being played today !

Horrible decision which shows how little match going fans matter anymore 🙁

Agree. Or OP is one of those hard work wankers who puts a barrier in the way of every good suggestion one might make for them to better their circumstances.

But it seems to me that @HomeAloneBoxingDay this is a
conversation.

as I’ve said, my DH has a season ticket to a premier league team. I am not a football fan. I don’t like it. I facilitate any match he likes. I expect him not to go on Boxing Day. But, you know what? We’ve had this conversation like the adult partnership that we are. I don’t expect him to second guess me. He knows he gets shed loads of leyway during the season where I sort the kids so he can go to the match.

it’s ok not to like it! It’s not ok to be a martyr to the whole thing and not have an adult conversation.

I assumed to start with he was leaving you with young children in which case you might have an argument or had been working yesterday and this was supposed to be your Christmas Day. Without that I’m afraid your being very unreasonable

If you had PLANNED together to do something on Boxing Day and he just grabbed his keys and shouted "bye" without warning, YANBU to be pissed off.

If he's just making the most of his season ticket and you can't complaining that you can't entertain yourself for one day, you are ridiculous. If you are in a mood when he comes back, poor guy.

Who has he gone with, in this full car?
Did you express a wish to go to?

Well having just had a quick glance through the fixtures whilst I don't know how deprived most of the areas are , I don't believe any of them are so deprived you would find nothing open and nothing at all to do , and I imagine you would have been easily able to find somewhere nice to eat on the way back. You are just being difficult

It's pretty obvious your mood will let him know that aren't happy about him going which indirectly makes him feel awkward about going in the future. It's a sneaky way of trying to stop him.

Then put boxing day in your "363 days per year" of happy alone time

and do something with your partner another day

it's not that hard 😂

He does. He takes the kids too. Boxing Day is glorious. I sit in my house, alone, eating snacks. It’s heaven. I’m always grateful when our team is at home. It’s been a long, peaceful day 😃.

You are not compromising because you are not doing it with good grace, you are in a strop. Some people love football. If it’s part of their life then if you love them then you live with it. You keep going on about just 2 days, but surely when the football can’t be moved, then your day together can? It can’t only be Boxing Day and Christmas Day that you are both off work. You sound very intolerant.

No room in the car? Why, has he taken all the family? In which case it is family time, hmm?

Also - you would rather be at home - happy days as that's where you are. Just used it (I mean going forward) to have a lovely day of what you want. I have done a few jobs, read my book, had a lovely long bath and hair mask, eaten some delicious leftovers... now going to sit with a glass and watch a film with DD.

Couldn’t you do similar? Or knit, cross stitch, bake, go for a walk, a bike ride, a run, put up some shelves, sort your screwdriver collection, plan next year’s holiday, have a snooze, paint the bedroom – I don’t know what you enjoy doing but unless he has left you alone with three screaming 2yo triplets I would have thought you have something you like to do?

My dh has been at the football. I cosied up on the sofa with the remote control, a box of chocolates and a blanket. It's been gorgeous!

Beginning to get a whiff of Jackonory about this thread

6 years together and she’s only just realised he like football on Boxing Day.

Lives in the arse end of nowhere so remote literally nothing opens on Boxing Day

Sneers at people who don’t agree with her as not understanding the class issue

Can’t fit in the car with her DH

The town he goes to watch football is a God forsaken slum straight out of Shameless

Cant visit any family because there’s no room at the inn

Hmm the shark well and truly been jumped