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If your partner has a football season ticket…

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 16:22

Would they go on Boxing Day and leave you home alone all day?
Just wondering if I’m being unreasonable because football bores me rigid and I can’t imagine leaving my partner of 6 years alone on Boxing Day.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:12

TwistedWonder · 26/12/2025 17:10

Not if you live in the UK - plenty open today

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Not in the countryside, I’ve been out and everywhere within 20 miles is shut.

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CountryMusicFan · 26/12/2025 17:11

Yes, my partner wouldn’t miss the match unless there was something more important, but he’s only gone for about 4 hours. He loves football and I have my own hobbies which are important to me. We’ll still spend lots of time together today, we’ll have a takeaway soon, then watch something together.

arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2025 17:11

I think when people are unable to enjoy time alone, it’s puts them in such a precarious position. No freedom to leave relationships that aren’t working, very worrying for if down the line you and your partner don’t die on the exact same day.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:11

locketrocket · 26/12/2025 17:08

No need for that OP.

Most definitely not about class. It’s about traditions evolving and changing.

Would you change your opinion if I told you I used to go to our local BD hunt?

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No I grew up believing christmas and Boxing Day was for family, not sport of any kind, country pursuits or football.

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Happyholidays78 · 26/12/2025 17:10

I'm not a football fan but my family are & Boxing Day is all about the football & has been for years. I just accept it & do my own thing.

TwistedWonder · 26/12/2025 17:10

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:09

Everywhere is shut - shops, gym, pubs.

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Not if you live in the UK - plenty open today

Mogloveseggs · 26/12/2025 17:10

Yes Dh and Ds have gone. I’ve had a lovely day so far got everything done without people lounging about in my way, caught up with a friend and not had to cook for anyone!

WalkDontWalk · 26/12/2025 17:10

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:00

Maybe it’s a social class thing, I grew up with christmas being about family. Not sport.

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I think you just torched any sympathy you might have been gathering.

ilovesooty · 26/12/2025 17:10

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:06

They are dead or with their in-laws

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Yes, you said they were with their in laws. If Boxing day as a family has been embedded in your upbringing, do none of them extend their company to other family members then?

MaitreKarlsson · 26/12/2025 17:10

Yes - gone and taken the DCs. Usually just takes DS 16 but now Dd more into it.
I don't really mind but it has been a bit solitary today as they left early.

blankcanvas3 · 26/12/2025 17:10

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:06

yes we do, I mean I doing think 2 days without football is a big ask

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There’s no football on Christmas Eve or Christmas day so you’ve had your two days already

Whaleandsnail6 · 26/12/2025 17:09

Miranda65 · 26/12/2025 17:07

It's fine not to like football, but why didn't you do something yourself? What are your hobbies? Or you could have gone for a walk, gone to the pub with a book, met a friend, gone shopping (not my idea of fun, but still...). Why are you dependent on your partner for entertainment?

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Because according to op, everyone else in her life is busy, absolutely nothing is open and she has enough peace and quiet during the week due to wfh

None of that is her partner's fault but because of that, he should miss the football so they can sit in together.

TwistedWonder · 26/12/2025 17:09

Well you’d hate my friends partner who flew out to Oz last week for the cricket and won’t be back home until 6th Jan

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 26/12/2025 17:09

He would if we didn’t have alternative plans with family etc., but he’d never prioritise football over other plans. But I really wouldn’t mind if we had nothing else on, last time he did Boxing Day football I had a brilliant lazy day on the sofa with leftovers, wine and chocolate.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:09

Arlanymor · 26/12/2025 16:28

Why don't you go and do something to entertain yourself? If my dad wasn't 80 and didn't fancy standing in the cold for 80 minutes we'd be at the Arms Park watching the derby with the Dragons. As it is we're watching it at home. Rugby not football, but it's just as a much a tradition when it comes to Boxing Day matches. Football bores me rigid too, but wouldn't bother me if a partner wanted to go and watch a match today - blow the cobwebs away.

Everywhere is shut - shops, gym, pubs.

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locketrocket · 26/12/2025 17:08

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:00

Maybe it’s a social class thing, I grew up with christmas being about family. Not sport.

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No need for that OP.

Most definitely not about class. It’s about traditions evolving and changing.

Would you change your opinion if I told you I used to go to our local BD hunt?

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:08

Nucleus · 26/12/2025 17:06

I never grew up with this either. But, husband of >20 years did. I knew this about him from early on in the relationship and it would be massively unreasonable to try and change him to fit me unless he wanted to. If him going to football on Boxing Day is a deal breaker, you know what you need to do.

Home team improved and he was interested in the game again.

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Christmasfree · 26/12/2025 17:08

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:04

Because they are all with their in-laws, or dead!

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Maybe if you ever get married and become part of his family you could see them. Reality is you value spending time together boxing day and he enjoys football; neither are wrong or superior but evidently not compatiable. If things are good the rest of the year id let it go.

Pearl69 · 26/12/2025 17:07

All mine have gone to a footie match today, I’m home alone and it’s bliss . Much as I love them all , it’s been a lovely break today . I’ve baked , bit of Netflix . Tomorrow DH and DS 1 are off to the darts so another chilled day.

Arlanymor · 26/12/2025 17:07

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:00

Maybe it’s a social class thing, I grew up with christmas being about family. Not sport.

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Nothing to do with social class, plus it very often is about family as families very often go to the sports together! It's fine if you don't want to go - I don't enjoy football so I wouldn't want to go - so I would find other ways to amuse myself as so many people on this thread have said. He's a football season ticket holder so presumably this isn't the first year he has done this. We all have different Christmas traditions and no one's is more important than anyone else's - they are just that, different. Working from home is a choice and really isn't connected to this topic at all.

Bernadinetta · 26/12/2025 17:07

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:01

Two days of the year wanting to spend time together as a couple, makes me needy?

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You only spend two days a year together? You don’t see him on weekends? Take any holidays together?

Miranda65 · 26/12/2025 17:07

HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 16:55

  1. Wasn’t invited.
  2. Absolutely hate football, no interest whatsoever.
  3. No tickets available anyway, not that I’d have ever wanted to go,
  4. Went to a match once and couldn't stand the Neanderthal style racist chanting monkey at one of the other teams players.
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It's fine not to like football, but why didn't you do something yourself? What are your hobbies? Or you could have gone for a walk, gone to the pub with a book, met a friend, gone shopping (not my idea of fun, but still...). Why are you dependent on your partner for entertainment?

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:06

arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2025 17:05

What? Do you not spend time with each other otherwise all year?!? That’s rather a drip feed.

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yes we do, I mean I doing think 2 days without football is a big ask

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Nucleus · 26/12/2025 17:06

I never grew up with this either. But, husband of >20 years did. I knew this about him from early on in the relationship and it would be massively unreasonable to try and change him to fit me unless he wanted to. If him going to football on Boxing Day is a deal breaker, you know what you need to do.

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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 17:06

ilovesooty · 26/12/2025 17:05

So why can't you spend time with yours if being with family is so important to them? Oh, I see you answered that. Evidently their in laws are more important on boxing day than their own families then.

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They are dead or with their in-laws

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