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Inappropriate present, hideous bookends and me in drag!!!!

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 14:53

I love christmas, and I love christmas presents, I got my best friend a lovely calendar showing photos that were precious to me throughout the year of all the good times we have shared, in return, and this is so strange, I got two bookends, which have obviously been handmade, but look like my face, but in a grotesque punch and judy way, I'm not sure whether they are supposed to look so scary, but they are hideous, I actually had nightmares about them last night, and on top of that, a smaller 3D figurine which is basically me looking like a drag queen in hideous blonde hair and a massive red bow, they obviously took a long time and I get that, but I wonder what they are trying to tell me, they have sent me a message asking what I think of them and I really don't know what to say, to be honest, Im quite upset they see me that way. Im just a normal person who loves christmas, I was hoping for tickets to see a christmas carol or something like that.

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elleone · 26/12/2025 15:20

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 14:53

I love christmas, and I love christmas presents, I got my best friend a lovely calendar showing photos that were precious to me throughout the year of all the good times we have shared, in return, and this is so strange, I got two bookends, which have obviously been handmade, but look like my face, but in a grotesque punch and judy way, I'm not sure whether they are supposed to look so scary, but they are hideous, I actually had nightmares about them last night, and on top of that, a smaller 3D figurine which is basically me looking like a drag queen in hideous blonde hair and a massive red bow, they obviously took a long time and I get that, but I wonder what they are trying to tell me, they have sent me a message asking what I think of them and I really don't know what to say, to be honest, Im quite upset they see me that way. Im just a normal person who loves christmas, I was hoping for tickets to see a christmas carol or something like that.

I feel like you’re most upset that the gifts made you feel ugly, which sounds like you have insecurities about your appearance. You shouldn’t let a representation of you make you feel unfeminine! Were they satirical gifts where you were supposed to look exaggerated or were they representations of your actual appearance but they turned out a bit wonky?

sweeneytoddsrazor · 26/12/2025 15:20

Scary bookends sound awesome. I would love them. But it seems as though they have missed the mark with you. I doubt there was an unkind intention behind it, more just a misjudgement

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:17

They do have a partner, and I have met them, we all went out for dinner just before christmas, and it seemed fine, although I think I may have embarrassed them, I offered to pay and we all ordered quite a lot with quite a lot of drink which I encouraged as I was paying, but then my card got declined, well, I say my card, I ended up trying a few, as you do, and in the end my dear friend paid and refused to let me pay, so I thought it was all sorted but maybe they are trying to tell me something, its quite confusing because the book ends really are quite scary versions of me, maybe I should send them the money for the bill, as they refuse to take it in person.

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DahlsChickenz · 26/12/2025 15:16

Were they handmade by her?

All sounds a bit odd but she probably meant well. Art is very subjective! It sounds like you both did handmade gifts, is that right? If so it may be that the thought was there but not the execution.

MaggieBsBoat · 26/12/2025 15:15

We need to see them! But if they are handmade by them maybe it makes them acceptable…

Skippydoodle · 26/12/2025 15:15

A calendar can be a great gift, it’s had thought & time put into it. My mum cried this year (this NEVER happens) as she was so emotional regarding what we had done with the images.

UncannyFanny · 26/12/2025 15:14

Obviously we need a picture now…

Boomer55 · 26/12/2025 15:14

Don’t get the calendar - but love the thought of quirky bookends. 😂

Invisablepanic · 26/12/2025 15:14

You are being unreasonable not to post a picture of said bookends.

TheChosenTwo · 26/12/2025 15:12

You were hoping for tickets to see something yet bought a calendar?
The bookends and drag thing sound a bit weird and would be binned here without much thought tbh.

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 26/12/2025 14:55

The sinister bookends sound awesome. I love a bit of spooky decor.