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Inappropriate present, hideous bookends and me in drag!!!!

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 14:53

I love christmas, and I love christmas presents, I got my best friend a lovely calendar showing photos that were precious to me throughout the year of all the good times we have shared, in return, and this is so strange, I got two bookends, which have obviously been handmade, but look like my face, but in a grotesque punch and judy way, I'm not sure whether they are supposed to look so scary, but they are hideous, I actually had nightmares about them last night, and on top of that, a smaller 3D figurine which is basically me looking like a drag queen in hideous blonde hair and a massive red bow, they obviously took a long time and I get that, but I wonder what they are trying to tell me, they have sent me a message asking what I think of them and I really don't know what to say, to be honest, Im quite upset they see me that way. Im just a normal person who loves christmas, I was hoping for tickets to see a christmas carol or something like that.

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TheMorgenmuffel · 26/12/2025 15:51

FeliciaFancybottom · 26/12/2025 15:49

You might have jumped the shark, OP.

Just a bit, yeah.

JustCabbaggeLooking · 26/12/2025 15:51

Simonjt · 26/12/2025 15:48

The bookends are likely just a caricature, the theatre is possibly a hint that you buy the tickets as payback for the meal.

That's the way to do it! 😁

user98732 · 26/12/2025 15:49

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:48

its really not funny, how would you like it if your best friend made bookmarks that made you look like a bug eyed witch with a slight goatee, when they had let you to believe they were gifting you christmas carol tickets at the old vic, as I said, i know i messed up with the bill but there is no need to be so personal, its downright hurtful and very cruel

Nobody can possibly be so obtuse.

An ugly present does not absolve you of the responsibility to pay back what you owe

FeliciaFancybottom · 26/12/2025 15:49

You might have jumped the shark, OP.

Simonjt · 26/12/2025 15:48

The bookends are likely just a caricature, the theatre is possibly a hint that you buy the tickets as payback for the meal.

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:48

its really not funny, how would you like it if your best friend made bookmarks that made you look like a bug eyed witch with a slight goatee, when they had let you to believe they were gifting you christmas carol tickets at the old vic, as I said, i know i messed up with the bill but there is no need to be so personal, its downright hurtful and very cruel

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Gettingbysomehow · 26/12/2025 15:47

I can't possibly comment without a picture.

user98732 · 26/12/2025 15:46

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:45

If it had not been for the bookmarks, yes that would have been fine, but I have a hook nose, weird eyes and if I look closely, Im sure I can see a goatee, its so hurtful, it just makes me want to burst into tears, I dont think they could have make me look so ugly and horrible,

Whether they gave you ugly bookends or not you owe them money. Pay the money

JustCabbaggeLooking · 26/12/2025 15:45

This thread!!! Hahahahahaha

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:45

If it had not been for the bookmarks, yes that would have been fine, but I have a hook nose, weird eyes and if I look closely, Im sure I can see a goatee, its so hurtful, it just makes me want to burst into tears, I dont think they could have make me look so ugly and horrible,

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Whaleandsnail6 · 26/12/2025 15:42

So you invited them put for a meal, encouraged them to choose and then they had to pay because you couldn't actually afford it?!

Why didn't you spread the amount over more than one card instead of leaving them no choice but to pay in the restaurant?

I think you should thank your friend for the gifts...it may be that she made them and genuinely thinks they are good and she isn't trying to tell you she is upset about the meal at all, but you just have different taste.

The gifts cant be that bad! Just put them out for a few weeks, make sure they are in the background of any photos you send her then put them away for safe keeping

user98732 · 26/12/2025 15:40

Just send them the bloody money and an apology in a card saying sorry for the delay.

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:36

hand on heart , I really did not, when I saw the bill I panicked, I have not taken anyone out for dinner in a long time, the bread and olives were nearly £8! I let them choose the wine but again, did not realise it was nearly £40 as we didnt have a wine menu, I just said, choose the wine you look and enjoyed the role as host, looking back, I do think this is their way of sending me a message, I get that I messed up, and I probably want things and a lifestyle I can't afford but this seems so cruel.

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ShawnaMacallister · 26/12/2025 15:35

How does it happen that a person offers to pay for dinner out for a group and doesn't have the means to pay on any bank card?

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 26/12/2025 15:35

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:20

Im not posting a picture, I cant even look at them without feeling uneasy

Please do, I'm so curious!

reversingdumptruckwithnotyreson · 26/12/2025 15:32

Why would you encourage people to consume more if you weren’t absolutely sure you’d have the funds?? This is beyond embarrassing 😭

I don’t think there was any hidden message in the gifts so I’d just store them away and take them back out if they ever come round to visit.

Not everyone values handmade gifts the same way. DD also always wants to give handmade gifts to everyone and their mum and quite a few of these people are individuals I know will see them as tat. It’s a waste of her time and she’d be very hurt to find they don’t value it the way others do.

Livingthebestlife · 26/12/2025 15:32

Omg the shame 😳😳 Yes they made you ugly bookends after the whole meal scenario.

FeliciaFancybottom · 26/12/2025 15:30

Why did you keep encouraging them to have more of everything? Did you honestly not know you couldn't afford to pay?
You sound very socially awkward and a bit clueless tbh.

user98732 · 26/12/2025 15:29

This is a very odd thread. Of course you need to send them the money for the meal and drinks. How on earth can you think it’s ok not to?

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:27

Well its only because they both kept mentioning a christmas carol at the old vic, and how lovely it would be to see it, and how much I would enjoy it if I did see it, they way they spoke, I honestly thought I was getting tickets, the meal was a sort of christmas present ,and yes, I honestly thought I would die as each card got rejected, it was so humiliating, maybe I should just bank transfer the money, but I dont know the account number, and to be honest the bill came to a bit more than I thought it would, i think they are laughing at me, I feel miserable about the whole thing

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ThisAutumnTown · 26/12/2025 15:25

DahlsChickenz · 26/12/2025 15:21

Oh god 😂

In light of this debacle I think hoping for tickets to something was a bit rich.

Next time don't offer to pay for dinner unless you're sure you're in funds!!

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DahlsChickenz · 26/12/2025 15:21

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:17

They do have a partner, and I have met them, we all went out for dinner just before christmas, and it seemed fine, although I think I may have embarrassed them, I offered to pay and we all ordered quite a lot with quite a lot of drink which I encouraged as I was paying, but then my card got declined, well, I say my card, I ended up trying a few, as you do, and in the end my dear friend paid and refused to let me pay, so I thought it was all sorted but maybe they are trying to tell me something, its quite confusing because the book ends really are quite scary versions of me, maybe I should send them the money for the bill, as they refuse to take it in person.

Oh god 😂

In light of this debacle I think hoping for tickets to something was a bit rich.

Next time don't offer to pay for dinner unless you're sure you're in funds!!

Arlanymor · 26/12/2025 15:20

Bookends can be as good or as a bad as the maker's talent - it doesn't have to mean they are attempting to portray a scary version of you, just that they aren't terribly good at creative endeavours. Think how many sitcoms have had a poorly painted portrait as the central conceit of an episode.

In terms of the meal, surely you would have just sent the money via bank transfer if you'd offered to pay for it but for some reason all of your cards were declined. I don't see what it's got to do with Christmas presents.

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:20

Im not posting a picture, I cant even look at them without feeling uneasy

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