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Inappropriate present, hideous bookends and me in drag!!!!

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 14:53

I love christmas, and I love christmas presents, I got my best friend a lovely calendar showing photos that were precious to me throughout the year of all the good times we have shared, in return, and this is so strange, I got two bookends, which have obviously been handmade, but look like my face, but in a grotesque punch and judy way, I'm not sure whether they are supposed to look so scary, but they are hideous, I actually had nightmares about them last night, and on top of that, a smaller 3D figurine which is basically me looking like a drag queen in hideous blonde hair and a massive red bow, they obviously took a long time and I get that, but I wonder what they are trying to tell me, they have sent me a message asking what I think of them and I really don't know what to say, to be honest, Im quite upset they see me that way. Im just a normal person who loves christmas, I was hoping for tickets to see a christmas carol or something like that.

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Twistern · 26/12/2025 16:28

I completely believe you that the presents are hideous and insulting. It is however a really strange way to take revenge.

(I would have insisted on paying them back somehow, however, after the meal.)

Kimura · 26/12/2025 16:27

Wait, so you think your friend wants to take some form of revenge on you for not being able to pay for dinner?

And you think the way they've chosen to do this is to make some bookends that make fun of your appearance and give them to you as a Christmas gift?

Do you realize how insane that sounds?

Highlights12 · 26/12/2025 16:27

So they paid £300 for the meal you said you were paying for & then you were expecting tickets costing £300 for Christmas & you just got her a calendar. That’s so embarrassing.

UncannyFanny · 26/12/2025 16:26

Anyway whatever happened to Baby Jane? 😳

Muddlethroughmam · 26/12/2025 16:25

This is the best thread I've read over the festive period 🥲

ProfessorInkling · 26/12/2025 16:24
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HomeAloneBoxingDay · 26/12/2025 16:24

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:27

Well its only because they both kept mentioning a christmas carol at the old vic, and how lovely it would be to see it, and how much I would enjoy it if I did see it, they way they spoke, I honestly thought I was getting tickets, the meal was a sort of christmas present ,and yes, I honestly thought I would die as each card got rejected, it was so humiliating, maybe I should just bank transfer the money, but I dont know the account number, and to be honest the bill came to a bit more than I thought it would, i think they are laughing at me, I feel miserable about the whole thing

Sounds like you were meant to take the hint and buy them theatre tickets!

Dissappearedupmyownarse · 26/12/2025 16:23

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 14:53

I love christmas, and I love christmas presents, I got my best friend a lovely calendar showing photos that were precious to me throughout the year of all the good times we have shared, in return, and this is so strange, I got two bookends, which have obviously been handmade, but look like my face, but in a grotesque punch and judy way, I'm not sure whether they are supposed to look so scary, but they are hideous, I actually had nightmares about them last night, and on top of that, a smaller 3D figurine which is basically me looking like a drag queen in hideous blonde hair and a massive red bow, they obviously took a long time and I get that, but I wonder what they are trying to tell me, they have sent me a message asking what I think of them and I really don't know what to say, to be honest, Im quite upset they see me that way. Im just a normal person who loves christmas, I was hoping for tickets to see a christmas carol or something like that.

I think we need pictures OP for accurate voting capabilities

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 26/12/2025 16:23

Well, those bookends are certainly something 😱

Americano75 · 26/12/2025 16:22

Send them the money then back away from this friendship.

exse24Londoner · 26/12/2025 16:22

susey · 26/12/2025 16:19

The context no longer matters much - they knew you'd be upset and even asked your family to film your reaction. That's atrocious and not the behaviour of a friend. Take the hint and quit the friendship, just stop being in touch.

maybe the friends think it isn't hideous & are proud of their work - asked for OP's reaction to be filmed expecting her to be delighted.

It seems a lot of trouble to humiliate someone who has been a close friend

susey · 26/12/2025 16:21

A lot of people are saying "her" about the friend, but I think the friend sounds a spiteful woman-hating man! OP hasn't said she. Is that right OP?

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 26/12/2025 16:20

I think you're very naive OP. Of course you should have paid them back, but your friend wasn't direct with you and you took her at her word.

As an autistic person who used to have absolutely terrible social skills, I'd say that of course she did it on purpose and it's invalidating to say otherwise. It seems an incredibly cruel thing to do to someone who's clueless but not malicious. She should have directly asked for the money or ended the friendship.

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 16:20

because once i sent a photo of me and i had a big red bow in my blonde hair, its based on that photo

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Boomer55 · 26/12/2025 16:20

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:48

its really not funny, how would you like it if your best friend made bookmarks that made you look like a bug eyed witch with a slight goatee, when they had let you to believe they were gifting you christmas carol tickets at the old vic, as I said, i know i messed up with the bill but there is no need to be so personal, its downright hurtful and very cruel

Frankly, I would have laughed. But, my BFF and I have the same sense of humour. 🤷‍♀️. I would have wondered at what the hell the calendar was about though. 🙄

diddl · 26/12/2025 16:19

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 16:17

I DO NOT LOOK LIKE THIS!!!! it looks like a man in drag

So why do you say that they look like you?

Snooks1971 · 26/12/2025 16:19

I asked AI to “find” (reverse image search) the photo and describe it and it took several seconds, stating….”thinking…” so even usually immediate AI was thinking WTAF.

Sorry OP. I kinda hope this is a wind up, for your sake.

Failing that, pass them off as Grayson Perry originals.

susey · 26/12/2025 16:19

The context no longer matters much - they knew you'd be upset and even asked your family to film your reaction. That's atrocious and not the behaviour of a friend. Take the hint and quit the friendship, just stop being in touch.

MatchingLuggage · 26/12/2025 16:18

But if you don’t look like this why do you think this is supposed to look like you?

dapsnotplimsolls · 26/12/2025 16:18

Pay them the money and re-think the friendship.

UncannyFanny · 26/12/2025 16:17

Heeeeeere’s Johnnny!

Inappropriate present, hideous bookends and me in drag!!!!
havingamarvelloustimeruiningeverything · 26/12/2025 16:17

I genuinely believed this was a troll thread until you posted the photo. Wow, that is certainly something.
but, erm yeah, maybe it’s time to find some new friends. And I like ugly stuff but that is another level. Especially if they are all laughing at you, you can do better and find friendships where you feel valued instead

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 16:17

I DO NOT LOOK LIKE THIS!!!! it looks like a man in drag

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Pieceofpurplesky · 26/12/2025 16:15

Do you look like this?

Theyarrived · 26/12/2025 16:15

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