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Inappropriate present, hideous bookends and me in drag!!!!

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confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 14:53

I love christmas, and I love christmas presents, I got my best friend a lovely calendar showing photos that were precious to me throughout the year of all the good times we have shared, in return, and this is so strange, I got two bookends, which have obviously been handmade, but look like my face, but in a grotesque punch and judy way, I'm not sure whether they are supposed to look so scary, but they are hideous, I actually had nightmares about them last night, and on top of that, a smaller 3D figurine which is basically me looking like a drag queen in hideous blonde hair and a massive red bow, they obviously took a long time and I get that, but I wonder what they are trying to tell me, they have sent me a message asking what I think of them and I really don't know what to say, to be honest, Im quite upset they see me that way. Im just a normal person who loves christmas, I was hoping for tickets to see a christmas carol or something like that.

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MaggieFS · 26/12/2025 17:44

Toomanysofttoys · 26/12/2025 16:35

Put the money in an envelope and shove it thru their letterbox..then package up the gift and leave it on their doorstep with a note saying.
I know I messed up with the money for the meal however this present is hurtful and the video you all watched on the tv of me opening it is shameful of you as friends. I feel humiliated.

I'm sorry you had to open this awful gift

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Yep. Do this. Only option really.

RanyaJerodung · 26/12/2025 17:43

FlyingApple · 26/12/2025 17:42

Show the bookends! 😂

Once again... she has!

limetrees32 · 26/12/2025 17:42

Is this thread genuine ?

FlyingApple · 26/12/2025 17:42

Show the bookends! 😂

LoopyLeela · 26/12/2025 17:39

This is actually quite well executed. But I think outside of Halloween the taste is very specific

FeliciaFancybottom · 26/12/2025 17:35

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 26/12/2025 17:13

Well, she doesn't really. Given how vindictive and/or cruel they've been, she should just give them her share of the 300 quid bill (it sounds as though they were taking the piss anyway, ordering pricey items). I think @confusedgoldilocks should reply to them saying the gifts are hideous, but you knew that already ya couple of fannies.

What a weird take on the situation. OP quite clearly says she encouraged them to order whatever they wanted and she'd pay. She tried to play Lady Bountiful but didn't have the money to follow through; she completely embarrassed everyone and needs to pay the money back.

MungoforPresident · 26/12/2025 17:33

You just cannot take someone out for a meal and they end up paying £300, then you expect £300 tickets to a show as well. That is preposterous. You need to pay that money asap and to say you do "not feel like paying" is a terrible attitude.

All else pales by comparison.

In offering to take people out, you should have researched prices and places too. I am surprised she managed any gifts at all when she is £300 down to begin with.

Bumcake · 26/12/2025 17:32

RanyaJerodung · 26/12/2025 16:58

I thought the best friend was a gay man.

Based on what info?

Tigerbalmshark · 26/12/2025 17:29

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 26/12/2025 17:13

Well, she doesn't really. Given how vindictive and/or cruel they've been, she should just give them her share of the 300 quid bill (it sounds as though they were taking the piss anyway, ordering pricey items). I think @confusedgoldilocks should reply to them saying the gifts are hideous, but you knew that already ya couple of fannies.

OP picked the venue, and kept encouraging them to order more and more as it was “her treat”. £300 for three people, for three courses, nibbles, coffee and multiple bottles of wine, is really not a lot. You could probably get pretty close to that in PizzaExpress.

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RanyaJerodung · 26/12/2025 17:29

Thedownwardspiralpath · 26/12/2025 17:23

We still need to see the bookends 😃

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pinkdelight · 26/12/2025 17:24

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 26/12/2025 17:13

Well, she doesn't really. Given how vindictive and/or cruel they've been, she should just give them her share of the 300 quid bill (it sounds as though they were taking the piss anyway, ordering pricey items). I think @confusedgoldilocks should reply to them saying the gifts are hideous, but you knew that already ya couple of fannies.

How is it taking the piss?? OP said for them to order whatever they liked. A £40 bottle of wine isn't that wild and there wasn't a wine menu anyhow so presume they just asked for a sauvignon blanc or whatever and no one knew the price until the bill came. They're the ones who've paid for it and said not to reimburse. They couldn't be less piss-taking!

Thedownwardspiralpath · 26/12/2025 17:23

We still need to see the bookends 😃

Daisydoesnt · 26/12/2025 17:22

RanyaJerodung · 26/12/2025 16:44

On the plus side, it doesn't have a goatee.

This isn't one of the bookends - this is the figurine that OP also mentions. There are two presents.

FlyingApple · 26/12/2025 17:20

Wow. Just seen the photo, it's worse than I imagined.

WhattheFudgeareyouonabout · 26/12/2025 17:18

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 15:57

yes but the bill for the meal I took them out for was £300 which is about the same as the tickets, although, obviously, they ended up paying, its such a mess now and I feel I have lost a good friend, and no they did not order them, they look homemade, my friend works with computers and has 3D printers

I’m confused- you got her a photo calendar but you were expecting £300 tickets?

AnonAnonmystery · 26/12/2025 17:18

Toomanysofttoys · 26/12/2025 16:35

Put the money in an envelope and shove it thru their letterbox..then package up the gift and leave it on their doorstep with a note saying.
I know I messed up with the money for the meal however this present is hurtful and the video you all watched on the tv of me opening it is shameful of you as friends. I feel humiliated.

I'm sorry you had to open this awful gift

Edited

Agree with this. Then cut them off. There would have d been a better way to deal with that cost if the meal by having an adult conversation.

Isayitasitis · 26/12/2025 17:17

pepperminticecream · 26/12/2025 17:15

So offensive. ND does not = thoughtless and mean.

Exactly yet people love calling any kind of off behaviour as you are ND? I like to picture it being asked with a mumsnet head tilt and tinkly laugh. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

pepperminticecream · 26/12/2025 17:15

Isayitasitis · 26/12/2025 17:13

According to another commenter, that apparently makes you ND! How flattering eh? 🙄🙄🙄

So offensive. ND does not = thoughtless and mean.

pepperminticecream · 26/12/2025 17:14

confusedgoldilocks · 26/12/2025 16:20

because once i sent a photo of me and i had a big red bow in my blonde hair, its based on that photo

Just throw it away. Send them the money for the meal. Do some self-reflection and move on from this friendship. Neither one of you has proven yourself a good friend.

Isayitasitis · 26/12/2025 17:13

pepperminticecream · 26/12/2025 17:11

This! OP seems very selfish and lacking in awareness.

According to another commenter, that apparently makes you ND! How flattering eh? 🙄🙄🙄

SabrinaCarpetCleaner · 26/12/2025 17:13

Hankunamatata · 26/12/2025 17:03

So you don't like their present. Stop taking it so personally. It's a caricature gift

Your friend was hinting for you to buy theatre tickets as you OWE THEM £300!!

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Well, she doesn't really. Given how vindictive and/or cruel they've been, she should just give them her share of the 300 quid bill (it sounds as though they were taking the piss anyway, ordering pricey items). I think @confusedgoldilocks should reply to them saying the gifts are hideous, but you knew that already ya couple of fannies.

MixedFeelingsNoFeelings · 26/12/2025 17:13

I thank OP for the gift of making me appreciate the normality, health and sanity of my own friendships💐

grinchmcgrinchface · 26/12/2025 17:12

You got them a calendar yet expected tickets to a show? Eh? Pay them back for the meal by bank transfer & just laugh the presents off before burying them in your garden never to see daylight again.

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