I'm done..

It does make me wonder... The week prior to Christmas he was mostly uncontactable in the evenings. He gave the same old excuse that he fell asleep on the sofa and went to bed.

It does make me wonder if he had other plans with someone else. Who knows, but if that is what he was up to I feel sorry for whoever has the misfortune of meeting him.

In the bin for him... actually 2nd thoughts I'll possibly need a skip for his over inflated ego and big head.

It does make me wonder... The week prior to Christmas he was mostly uncontactable in the evenings. He gave the same old excuse that he fell asleep on the sofa and went to bed.

It does make me wonder if he had other plans with someone else. Who knows, but if that is what he was up to I feel sorry for whoever has the misfortune of meeting him.

In the bin for him... actually 2nd thoughts I'll possibly need a skip for his over inflated ego and big head.

You subject your children to this man?

Thank you. Reflection is great, I keep having these little “aha” moments when I look back at certain behaviours.

For example, I was trying to write down a story I used to tell the kids when they were small, not to publish or anything, just so I don’t forget it and so I can keep it for them when they’re older and maybe pass it on to their children one day.

Everytime I tried to sit down and write, he would suddenly turn the TV up loud or wind the dog up so she started barking. It was as if he couldn't let me do something quietly by myself he had to try and disturb that. Eventually I gave up trying.

In the New Year I’ll finally be able to finish it and honestly I can’t wait. It feels so good for us to have our space back and not have to feel like everything has to revolve around one person all the time xx

We have been together for just over 2 years and don't live together. I'm done after yesterday. It was the final straw.

I don't know whether I am becoming more aware of his behaviour or whether it's his behaviour that is changing. He seems to be more and more focused on himself, his needs and always wants to be the centre of attention.

For example I had a carol concert in a village church. I asked if he wanted to go and he confirmed that he was really looking forward to it. Fast forward to 30 mins before the concert he told me that he wouldn't be coming because he was tired and not up to spending time with people. He was due to accompany my kids to the concert this left me frantically trying to make arrangements for the kids to go elsewhere or for somebody to bring them. I honestly think he was hoping that I'd have to cancel. Instead I sat the kids in the front pew and asked one of the ladies from the church to keep an eye on them.

I messaged to tell him how disappointed and how let down I felt. He ignored my message and then ignored me for over 24 hours. When he eventually resurfaced he didn't apologise for letting me down.

This year he suggested that I buy my own christmas presents as he has no idea what to buy . So I did and he gave me the money. He wrapped them but whilst I was opening my non surprise presents he complained about how much time it took him and how it was such a ball-ache.

He seemed to be mildly frustrated that the day wasn't centred on him. He kept trying to divert the focus in to him. We had a mince pie each and he said it was too sweet and made him feel sick. Despite him eating 4 identical mince pies the week before in one sitting. He made a big thing about it yesterday almost trying to make out that I was trying to make him ill. Nobody forced the mince pie down his throat.

Things hit boiling point when I was getting ready to serve dinner and asked for some help. The kids were laying the table and he was sat watching TV. He came in looking pissed off and said what do you want me to do. I asked him to make some space by washing up some dishes. He said that he'd already washed up once and why were there so many dishes. He got irritated that there were some unwashed dishes in the sink.

He then threw something in the sink causing a loud clatter said fuck this shit. I'm going. Purely because I'd asked for help in the kitchen. Everybody else was helping and he was just sat watching TV.

He picked up his keys and stormed out shouting enjoy your f*cking
Christmas. That was the last I've heard from him, im obviously on the naughty list again and I'm being ignored.The kids and I did enjoy our christmas dinner without his tantrums.

I'd only agreed to let him come over Christmas day if he could promise that he'd not cause any drama. He assured me it would be ok but I was kind of thinking that he couldn't get through the day without causing any.

The kids and I are having a lovely boxing day eating chocolates and mince pies. Building lego and playing with toys without waiting for a human grenade to explode.

Happy boxing day everyone

Thank you. Reflection is great, I keep having these little “aha” moments when I look back at certain behaviours.

For example, I was trying to write down a story I used to tell the kids when they were small, not to publish or anything, just so I don’t forget it and so I can keep it for them when they’re older and maybe pass it on to their children one day.

Everytime I tried to sit down and write, he would suddenly turn the TV up loud or wind the dog up so she started barking. It was as if he couldn't let me do something quietly by myself he had to try and disturb that. Eventually I gave up trying.

In the New Year I’ll finally be able to finish it and honestly I can’t wait. It feels so good for us to have our space back and not have to feel like everything has to revolve around one person all the time xx

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement and support.

I have blocked him on everything and I have changed the locks (I did this after the concert) I've also charged up my ring camera and made sure its online.

Tomorrow am heading off to spend time with family and friends for new year, last minute decision but I will have a lovely new year. If he comes round after being blocked there will be nobody here.

Just wanted to say obviously he wasnt a massive thundercunt from the outset. In the beginning he was amazing, he was communicative, supportive, empathetic, funny, thoughtful, romantic, generous... you kind of get the picture and when he got to meet my kids (after dating for over a year) he was great with the kids and the kids enjoyed spending time with him... but slowly over the last maybe 3-4 months his personality has started to change there was always an excuse for his arseholeness, I'm tired, I'm not feeling well, I'm snappy because I'm in pain... blah blah blah...

His behaviour was becoming more and more self centred and he seemed to be becoming irritated by trivial things.

I was going to end it after the concert but I felt bad that he'd be by himself. I did have a thought that he might have caused drama purely because he was told not to! Hindsight is great isn’t it. I should have just ended it when I changed the locks.

Looking forward to a great new year and 2026 with out an extra arsehole!

Oh dont get me wrong I'd love to give him a piece of my mind but I think never ever speaking to him again is the best way to deal with him. I’m not wasting my breath on him.