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Working all but boxing day and I'll still be expected to cook

88 replies

Mardy45 · 26/12/2025 06:32

Care worker here, worked Xmas, and working all sat and sun today is only day off yet partner will still expect a Sunday dinner style meal and won't enter his head to cook it🤔
Not working or anything this week, managed to get away with takeaways Xmas eve👀😊,
Hate been a female!!, happy I've cheated, ready made yorkshire puds mash to microwave and pre cut veg😂😂😂😂, knackered and wondering when my me day is😁

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arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2025 07:36

This isn’t anything to do with being a female op. It’s to do with your very poor choice of partner, and how selfish, sexist and lazy he is. Decent men are not like this.

HouseofDreams · 26/12/2025 07:34

Just say no? Sorry but you have brought this on yourself.

Thesofathatwas · 26/12/2025 07:33

Fuck that.
Why on gods green earth are you buying into that shite?
Stop it right now!
It’s your own doing so you need to sort it and stop moaning really.
”hate being a female” my arse, you should hate putting up with & allowing such shite from your partner

Lostthefairytale · 26/12/2025 07:31

I've ticked yabu because you have put yourself in this role. It's not a "being female" thing, it's a being a doormat thing. If you keep doing it and then coming in here to complain rather than actually standing up for your own needs then why would anything change??

If your relationship is abusive please get in touch with women's aid. If it isn't, then please take control of your life and stop telling yourself that having a thoughtless uncaring partner is just part of being a woman. It isn't.

Coffeeishot · 26/12/2025 07:25

Your partner being a useless lump.of a man that is your issue, not being a woman.

13RidgmontRoad · 26/12/2025 07:23

You’re being a fool, and the smiley faces etc don’t make up for it.

He’s treating you badly. Decide whether or not you are OK with that.

HoppingPavlova · 26/12/2025 06:43

Hate been a female!!

No idea what you are on about. Being female does not mean you are the only person allowed in a kitchen, you seem to have very odd thought processes

Twilling · 26/12/2025 06:43

My husband would feel sorry for me and not let me lift a finger on my day off. Can’t believe you cooked anything for your selfish bastard of a man. I am over the shit men on MN and the doormats that enable them.

ioveelephants · 26/12/2025 06:42

Cook or don’t cook.
don’t sit on here complaining about it though, that’s makes you a Martyr

ThejoyofNC · 26/12/2025 06:41

Have you ever heard of the phrase "more fool you"?

Eviebeans · 26/12/2025 06:40

As it would be a “you day” and your partner sounds rubbish I think you should decide when it is going to be yourself and just do it

Having had a really good Christmas this year- just me and husband
I have definitely decided that 2026 will be much more about choices that work for me

EleanorReally · 26/12/2025 06:39

your partner needs to cook
or you need to change/dump your partner

Shoxfordian · 26/12/2025 06:34

Don't do it then - although sounds like too late for this year
Nothing to do with being female, just have a useless man

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