Working all but boxing day and I'll still be expected to cook

Yet another thread about a woman complaining about having to do all the work. No you don’t - you’re facilitating allowing this to happen.
Take it turns or cook together but why are you doing it all. It’s not just useless men but women who allow it.

You've written this as though it's funny or just 'one of those things'. It's not and you don't have to do anything just because your partner expects it.

It's not just part of being a woman, many of us wouldn't accept being treated like a skivvy. Plenty of men cook and clean and generally pull their weight. You don't have to accept less because you were born female.

Tell him you expect a lovely meal to be ready for you when you finish work. Value yourself and set your sights higher, you deserve far more than this.

Another YABU, this is a you problem, you need to tell him it’s his turn to cook this year as you’ve been working. It’s nothing to do with being female just poor communication and a useless partner.

I personally find assholes who take advantage of people with no boundaries and low expectations from others worse than people with no boundaries and low expectations from others so I see why you are complaining.

MN generally though does expect people to take responsibility for themselves and gets frustrated by people who ignore their own flaws (no boundaries/inappropriate expectations of others) so that is why you are getting all of the pushback.

You focusing on and sorting your own part in this dynamic instead of ignoring your part and just pointlessly venting is probably the best thing you can do.

Sorry, but this is just annoying.

Give him a list of jobs.
Peel potatoes
Prepare veg.
Vacuum
Clean the bathroom.
Or do what I'd do which is to have beans on toast.

This isn’t a male/female thing it’s an expectation setting thing. DH and I share house/child stuff equally. He tends to do more cooking because he enjoys doing it whereas I see it as a functional task and take the easiest option so if I’m cooking it’s something from the slow cooker or a one pan meal. I tend to do the DIY and more of the cleaning because he hates those things. If either of us is busy the other automatically picks up the slack and if for some reason we miss something then we remind each other and neither takes offence or gets pissed off.

You need to tell him that you’ve been busy at work and he has been at home so should be sorting the meals. If he has a problem with that then it is indicative of broader problems and something you need to address or decide whether you want to tolerate for the rest of your life.

YABVVU. Being female does not mean being a doormat and putting up with a useless man twat.

Put your feet up, tell him it's your only day off and it's his turn to make dinner.

If he doesn't respond favourably do yourself a favour and dump him. You can do better.

YABU

What a martyr

Its nothing to do with being female!

A penis doesn’t prevent cooking. Aren’t the majority of top chefs men?!

If you want to cook go for it. Otherwise tell your partner that if he wants a roast then he’s doing it.

Nothing to do with being a woman!
DH does most of the cooking - but I would definitely do it if he was working over the holidays.
I am too lazy to do more than half of the chores and even when I was in my 20s I would be very clear with any boyfriends that I was happy to do for example their laundry when doing mine but that I was expecting them to cook or clean or whatever needed doing in return.

My friend has a saying. "What you allow will continue". Just don't do it and say you're not doing it. The end. If it doesn't happen then it doesnt t happen.

What would happen if you told your partner you weren’t cooking for him?

Just don't do it, he knows where the kitchen is.

I'm going to the boxing day sales while DP prepares a buffet lunch for his family. Not sure what being female has to do with anything.

You get what you settle for OP, zero sympathy here!

Why are you putting up with this? I absolutely wouldn’t cook on my only day off. Hope you bought him a cook book for Christmas.

op you hate being a woman because it’s 100% a situation you created. All your fault. zero sympathy for you. And thinking you cheated’ by buying the sides is just sad really

Just because you are female doesn't mean you have to do everything. Go to work , come home and ask what DH has prepared for dinner. Don't fall into the trap of doing everything and then being resentful. The only one who can change it is you.

This is your life, you're choosing it every day. Complaining is pointless if you are just accepting it.

You all knew in advance the work schedules. Yiu should not always be the default cook. I would have firmly established division of labour in advance. U gave made it very easy for your partner-let him do it.

Genuinely op, can you explain why you think cooking dinner should be your role in this situation?

You're a fool. I do have pity, but the choice is in your hands.

No way on earth would I do it.

YABU, and a doormat. Really hope you don't have a DD and instill into her that she must be of servitude to her own detriment simply because of her chromosomes.
Oh and don't teach a DS to be entitled and lazy.