To be so fucking thankful I'm single?

Sounds perfect 🥰

This sounds like a really lovely Christmas

I am delighted to be single too. So many dickheads about. Women don’t need this shit.

Because of childhood trauma, shit role models growing up, low self worth, lack of self respect, grateful for any attention even if it’s from the wrong type of person…. Many many reasons sadly.. 💔

YANBU op. The men in our family are brilliant so please don’t lose hope that there are good ones out there, but equally why oh why do women shack up and have dc with dickhead men and then stay with them? I can’t help reading the threads where some useless waste of oxygen male has upset the family Christmas and wonder why she’s had multiple children with the tosser and put up with it for years.

I’m in a very happy marriage but would be happy single if I had dealt with the kind of men I see on here

Why would you be BU?

Who would like to be stuck with lazy or miserable or ungrateful partners anyway. It must be as horrendous to be stuck with one of those, than it must be to be stuck with a nagging bitter resentful woman. Gay or straight couples, man or woman, life is miserable in a toxic relationship.

I would hate being single and miss someone waking up and smiling at me first thing, someone to jump in with bed most nights. I would miss the sex too!

Who do SOME posters try to push the narrative that only men want sex btw? they make women who are just as interested sound dirty or worst, why is that?

Being in a relationship adds to my freedom because someone else takes on all the slack, I love holidays with the right man who keeps things interesting.

Neither are wrong. I am hoping my sons will be decent men to, I am surrounded by normal very pleasant men, not all the creeps that abuse women on MN, and I can only hope my sons will be happy with decent partners.

Ditto. I get on fine with my ex and I actually think we would have a pretty decent Christmas together if we were both at a loose end.

I agree with the op.

My ex and I have a better relationship than half of the marriages that get brought up on here.

Could propose yourself. Then you'd know one way or the other.

Agree OP. I’m still good friends with my ex DH who actually wasn’t useless but after 6 years single, I can’t imagine ever being in another relationship again.

If I met a fabulous man I’d date him but never ever ever cohabit again. I love my peaceful flat and the fact I get home from work and don’t have anyone wanting a conversation with me.

I'm happily married, and incredibly grateful for it today.

We have had a disaster of a Christmas, every member of the family falling sick one by one. By Christmas day the children and DH were better thankfully, but that is when I was felled.

DH hosted everyone yesterday. And today he has insisted I stay tucked up in bed as he takes care of the house, the children and the animals. He keeps popping up to check on me and bring me drinks.

I'm not sure what I'd ever do without him, and hope I dont have to find out. I know that I would never have another relationship if something happened to him, the idea of anyone ever replacing him is laughable, and I would never want an unrelated male in my childrens (and maybe one day future grandchildrens) home.

I love the single life but it's what I'm used to I guess, and it wouldn't be for everyone. There are things I can see would be lovely about a relationship and family life but I look at (or read about!) a lot of couples & think I've dodged a bullet.

Absolutely YANBU.
Happily married for 20 years, no kids, still want my single life!

100% I feel men have no redeeming features at all at my age 54. I cannot imagine anyone adding anything positive to my imperfect and stressful life at all… I thought I’d hate to die alone but now I’d prefer it!

Worth remembering that people usually aren’t motivated to come on MN to gush about how wonderful their husbands/partners are, so by definition you’ll be getting a very skewed perspective of the calibre of man available. But really happy you’re happy OP. Enjoy the good life!

To be fair, those of us who had a lovely day with our kind, considerate partner who bought us lovely gifts and cooked the dinner for the whole family, including their in laws, weren’t posting on here yesterday complaining! We were sat with a glass of champagne in hand enjoying the day.

This year Christmas has been so much calmer than last year when I left my ex just after. Not because of his Christmas behaviour but a build up of crap behaviour and the final straw of disrespect and ghosting afterwards.

I’ve done what I want to do, my DC’s have had a lovely time and there hasn’t been a single argument or even slightly stressful situation. Being single does have its advantages.

There’s no way my exP would have enjoyed our Christmas Day. We had a relaxed day, great food, friends popped in then my exH and we opened his presents from the DC’s all together, then off to see family/friends nearby with DS. He’d have been stressed to hell all day and ruined it for us. And he hated his ex so could never understand why I get on with mine.
It’s a really stark contrast and proves that being single is far better than being with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.
I would like to find a partner as DC’s are getting older now but now I’ve had a single Christmas and enjoyed it I’d rather be single than in any relationship that doesn’t add value to my life.

I am happily married, but if anything happened to my DH I would remain single. There are too many bad men out there. I think Germaine Greer was right, sadly.

something I have never told anyone is that I really don’t like the idea of being someone’s “other half”. Although our culture makes it quite difficult to be single, I just hate the idea of being someone’s “wife” or “girlfriend” with all its implications about status. When I was young I craved it because I wanted to fit in, I suppose but now I don’t feel I have to.

Also, this isn’t why I am single but the number of “decent” men I know who stray is horrendous and I don’t think their wives have a clue. Some have even tried it on with stony old ice-queen me. I guess they like a challenge.

This. That post was very revealing!

I suppose it's because generally the people posting are the ones with problems, looking for support. I would not really think of posting "my husband is a lovely kind man who does half the workload and parenting and we're very happy", though it's entirely true 😄o

And AllPlayedOut you are so right about all that.

I'm single. I've never been in a DV relationship, far from it. I know that all blokes aren't the same.

I'm truly grateful I don't have a man in my life.

I’ve read that divorce thread and it’s so obviously not about just some housework. A cleaner would in no way be a solution. The problem is clearly much deeper than that and the housework is just a symptom not the actual problem. The problem is that she’s had to think for the 2 of them for two decades, that he doesn’t consider her needs, is happy to leave the labour to her, that they aren’t equal partners, that she’s effectively parenting him. The fact that you can’t see that and think that a cleaner is the solution, so that he has to do even less, is very telling.