To be fuming that DH has spent the whole day on his laptop?

@KnowledgeableAvocado @eastegg hmm can see where you're coming from, but the original post doesn't like this? I'm thinking it's all hit the fan and she's dealing with the fall out 😢

Ah yes, they are foster children as he and mrs claus never had kids?

Something’s amiss here. OP’s disappeared. My guess is they started the the thread intending it as some sort of elaborate joke eg DH as Santa, which would explain why they never said what his job is, and then thought better of it.

They could be dealing with a crisis of course. Hope not.

OP? One last plea for you to come back?

I hope you have spent Boxing Day as,a family and sorted xmas day problem.

@MamaOnTheCoastDid you find out what was so important that he needed to work all day Christmas day? I hope you and the kids are OK and managed to enjoy what's left of Christmas period x

I hope you took the door off its hinges!

OP we need an update.

Does he need to think all day from 5am and still thinking?He is talking to a so called colleague. OP has every right to be furious and upset. And what a shit way to treat his DC. Beggars belief.

This

Ask him how much overtime money he is getting paid for yesterday and on what date will it be paid.

That is mad OP!
I don’t know many businesses that something urgent would happen Xmas day. And if it would, I think he would explain the problem to you so you understand why he’s missing Xmas day.
I think it’s a bit weird though - sounds like he just wants to shut himself away and might be messaging someone he shouldn’t

I’d have been furious, and would have turned off the Wi-Fi

Put a secret voice recorder in his office.

check your bank accounts urgently and mortgage payments!

Can you disconnect the internet somehow?

I would switch of the internet and fuck the consequences.

Unplug his router

Hmm, what does he do for work OP? I work for a global tech gisht. One you all know and use regularly. I’d say we have office jobs however, there are certain departments that do ‘cover’ on a rota as you can imagine not everyone in every organization can go off at the same time. Could it be network outage? Or data breech etc? Anyway no excuse for him not just telling you what the issue is and plsnning your day accordingly. For the kids sake, make the best of it with them (leave him to whatever is so important£

Has he opted out of home life and opted into another?

this was apparently another made up story to argue amongst yourselves on Christmas

If you're a freelancer working for an agency that delivers on promises to monolithic corporate US clients, it is not unheard of for the client to shout "Jump!" at the worst possible moment, to test the agency's dedication ("How high?"). Especially around times of year when most staff are absent, freelancers can then come under pressure to complete the task, especially if they are closest to the project based on historical involvement.

Look, I know it's atypical but it's not impossible.

I'm not contorting myself to defend a man, or whatever else PPs have accused me of. In the absence of much concrete information from the OP, I'm just wary of taking the pin out of a hand grenade and hurling it into her Xmas family life based on my own assumptions. The situation is unusual, even suspicious, but I just don't share the absolute confidence of some PPs that this can only be interpreted as him being an arsehole.

Of course, he might be an arsehole. As I've said, it's odd that he hasn't explained anything.

Not unknown if they are addicted.

It sounds like he just works in a normal office Admin job, 9 to 5, and the office probably isn’t even open on Christmas Day.

Everyone I know that works over Christmas (work in 24/7 environment) KNEW well in advance they were working at Christmas, and so did their families. Exactly what hours, and based their Christmas around that. They had their dinners early or later depending on that.

So they might have had to work for some of it, but it wasn’t a surprise. They were also well paid for it. Make sure you see his payslip to see what extra money he got for being called to work, last minute, on Christmas Day for 12+ hours.

It sounds to me, that this lad just decided that being on his laptop was easier that being with his family. I’d be surprised if he was working at all.
Probably gambling. He is definitely not working all that time, he just opted out of Christmas Day with his family. This should be a time that you ask yourself if he is being truthful about a lot of things he is doing.

Good luck x x

whatever his jon he would definitely have had time for an explanation! He clearly didn’t care about spending the day with OP and foster kids and doesn’t sound as though he was sorry either

Jesus, it's bad enough reading about all the misfits who pick fights and argue over Christmas but this level of disengagement takes the biscuit. He clearly just doesn't, for whatever reason, want to "do" Christmas and OP needs to find out WTF is going on with some urgency I suggest.