DH and perfume gift

Of course you ate not being unreasonable and if you think you are then you need to give your head a wobble. I wouldn't hide my annoyance from him. I'd be quite clear with him that he has yet again bought you a perfume you don't like and hadn't asked for. Start valuing yourself because he doesn't.

Fuck that, just tell him that’s the one you done like can you have the receipt and change it for the one you do like … honestly! My ILs are like this, I asked for a Ted Baker wash bag and I got a Superdrug wash bag that had about 5 other smaller bags inside it. It was probably something they thought was a good idea because it’s multiple bags etc, but I’d asked for something I wouldn’t buy myself, so yea it was expensive, but they’re always spending lots at Christmas so I just asked for something well Within price bracket and I’d be very grateful for anything else …. Saying that those bags have been great for my kids camping trips or trips to PGL 😜

“This is the one you got me last time that wasn’t my cup of tea, can it be exchanged for the one I asked for”

He is lazy or uncaring.

He’s your dh so ask him for the receipt and exchange it.

Read full OP she hated it the first time he bought for her and she asked him if it's was okay if she threw it away

Yeah perfume is soooo specific. What is it with men and not listening? Sure he’d have something to say if you got him Lynx Africa instead of Dior sauvage for example…

sorry OP! Get a refund/voucher and get the one you want

Agree with who?

I agree i think there has been too much talk of perfume and has switched off, which is an issue does he normally glaze over when you talk?

So say something? He’s clearly made a mistake of some kind (unless he’s just a knob, generally). Ask him why he got you that instead of what you asked for.

This seems fairly straightforward to me.

You seem intent on embarrassing yourself by replying rudely when you haven’t properly read a post.

YANBU he sounds like an eejit

My ex did something similar for my birthday years ago. I asked for a specific perfume, money was tight so I found the smallest, cheapest bottle I could and sent him the link. I said that was all I wanted, and also a lie in and not to have to drop him to work at 5am for once.

Come my birthday he hasn't organised a lift from a colleague so I'm woken up at 4:30am 🙄 and then open a box full of random tat and the wrong perfume...

We broke up a few weeks later shortly before Christmas and he admitted he'd deliberately bought the wrong perfume because I'd once described the one I wanted as "sexy" and he didn't want me to smell attractive to other men 🤦🏼‍♀️

It sounds like he got mixed up, she said something about X perfume..that must be the one she likes. It's just a mistake, a little one from his perspective but a big one for you. I think be honest. Explain that if you got him a Man city top instead of a Man utd it would be a big deal to him but a little error for you. Or whatever analogy he would get. I have to use analogy to explain everything to DH because it's only then he 'gets' it. YANBU to be upset but don't make it a big thing either. Return the gift.. if you can't just buy yourself the new one anyway from joint funds!

Omg, I missed the fact that he bought you the same one as before????? What an absolute let down.

Just tell him ask.to exchange it. I.dont know why he got the wrong one. He maybe stopped listening which in itself is bloody rude, next year ask for vouchers or send him a link, he isnt a child you can say you had asked for X and he bought Y.

What was his reason for not getting what you wanted?

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Thankfully I opened it when he was out of the room. He got me two other things I didn’t ask for. I’d asked for the perfume I wanted and a T-shirt from something I like. Just bear in mind I got him things he asked for and a few extra bits too. Don’t really care that I didn’t get the T-shirt but I’m upset about the perfume. AIBU?

See, here is your problem. Why would you hide from him your annoyance and disappointment that he wasted money an expensive item he already knows you don't like and failed to buy the thing you asked for?

As others have said, give it back to him and ask him to exchange it.

Wtf!? Surely this is a joke from him?

Wtaf? The actual same one? Is there any way at all to get the two confused? I can’t see how this wasn’t intentional to be honest.

I’m desperate to know what the horrible perfume is OP, do tell 😂

Just tell him to take it back and buy you the one you asked for.

I save my boots points to get myself a nice perfume every few years Obvs have to shop in boots to do so but Black Friday is a good time to buy.

Bummer! Fragrance is such a personal thing, he needs to get the one you asked for, not just guess (or indeed get one you know you don’t like!) I would just say to him that it’s the wrong one and can he exchange it for the right one please. Not difficult (if a bit annoying).

Probs left to last min and sold out in boots in Xmas eve.

My dd worked in boots and the men leaving till Xmas Eve is amazing and then wonder why a perfume is sold out.

Next year ask for a voucher

Regift the perfume on a birthday and use that money to save up for it yourself.

One of the things I love about men is how stupid they can be...for the little things that mean so much to...ahem...women. At certain times, be it Christmas or another 'certain' time, they can be inexplicably stupid.

It's the difference and I love that difference...obviously not enough to be married and stuck with one on a daily infuriating basis...but gaw bless em.