DH and perfume gift

Is anyone doing a MN swap thread you can avail yourself of?

That’s ok, people are all different else these perfumes wouldn’t exist! My DP had to move from a table at a cafe the other day because of an old woman’s vile perfume (it truly was revolting) but they’re obviously managing to sell it 😂

I always hated Joop, but that sold like wildfire in the noughties haha!

Men are NOT useless with presents unless they've been enabled to be. My 17 year old son has bought everyone in the family thoughtful and tailored gifts because he knows it's expected and he will receive thoughtful gifts from others. So many women on mumsnet complain about not getting any decent gifts and it transpires they've never taught their kids to give presents, especially their sons. Men are as shit at giving gifts as they are enabled to be.

Have you considered trying to read and comprehend the OP’s post correctly before commenting? You seem intent on making an arse of yourself.

Are you able to name the two perfumes,op? See if there is any similarity / logic to his thinking?

But to buy you one that he KNOWS you don’t like and said you’d have to throw away is awful. I would have to ask him why he did that.

Ditto not getting the other one because of the price, when the budget had been agreed. So he’s worth it, you can spend that money on his gifts, but you’re not worth £90? He’d rather spend £30 or £40 on a perfume that’ll go in the bin than £90 on one you want?

Ask him what his thought process is here. Don’t make it your problem, this is down to him to return the perfume and get the right one.

Maybe having his decision inconvenience HIM might make him think twice before doing it again.

YANBU. Useless! I’d be really upset with this sort of carry on. He’s an adult! Write the perfume down and/or make a note on your phone. Then buy the perfume, ready for Christmas Day. That’s it. My fucking cat could do bette! Sending you a hug, OP.

hmmm....could it be he liked it on a previous girlfriend?

if you give him the benefit of the doubt, and assume he made a ridiculous mistake, then you need to tell him.

Bullshit. I asked for one of two perfumes from DH. He bought both, a necklace I admired months ago and some new trainers which I love. This is just a line women use to excuse shitty partners.

I think you are going to have to be honest so you know whether he’s had an accidental cock up or is just thoughtless and uncaring. That said, it’s particularly odd that he’s not only got the wrong one but specifically got one you hated. I wonder if he’s forgotten the one you said and saw this one in the bathroom cabinet and assumed it was that? Bit daft but more forgivable.

OP, full sympathy.
Your husband is a useless thoughtless twat.
I cannot be excusing and tolerating such utterly ridiculous moronic behaviour.

He has chosen to ignore a clear instruction as to what would be a lovely gift.

No way would i be anything other that pissed off at his disregard.

Give him back his stupid gifts to dispose of.

No more gifting with him.
He's too stupid to follow a simple instruction.
Buy your own gifts.

MN excuses this behaviour and it is why women are happier single and divorced.

I would fillet my husband if he did this. Fillet him.
Thankfully he isn't a complete moron and can follow a simple instruction like, please buy me this = happy appreciative wife.

Yanbu. Stop excusing this.
Give it back to him to sort out.
Do not pretend to be appreciative for such bullshit.

Are you going to ask him why he's done this? I couldn't just not say anything.

It’s a ten second conversation, surely? Wrong one, please return and get me x. Done.

Laugh and say ' oh you got mixed up, that's the one you got before that I didn't like and told you I'd have to throw out, so when we are in town next you can exchange it for XYZ, that's the one we know I like, that I asked for'

Has he not asked where the present is? I would have just taken it straight through and asked what happened.

How could you possibly be unreasonable to feel the way you do? That’s an absurd question.

Be honest, get it sorted out. No need for drama - on either side.

Someone hit the mail on the head above- it depends whether he got mixed up or just said it doesn’t matter (or worse haha I’ll get her the one she didn’t like before!!). Only you know.

My husband got me 3 book, new hiking socks, my favourite chocolates, specific makeup I like and shoes in the correct size. ITS BULLSHIT MEN CANT BUY GIFTS. My 5yr old son is luckily being raised to buy gifts for others and he did a far better job than this arsehole OP is dealing with. Magically men can hold down jobs that require memory, organization and planning but can’t be fucked to get their family or significant other a present? Nah.

THIS!! He’s either a stupid idiot for doing this again OR he’s actually malicious and trying to put you in a situation where you yet again have a gift that smells like shite that you’re expected to be thankful for? No thanks. I find it seriously hard to believe it’s an accident and that is actually quite weird and alarming to think about, he’s purposely got you something you hate to upset you? What a horrible prick.

He will be able to return it, as long as it's unopened. All the online retailers have returns policies. It's actually our right as a consumer to be able to return items we've bought online within so many days.
Ask him to check the website's return policy.

Men are useless with presents, the solution is to buy exactly what you want yourself, get DH to transfer cost to you and give gift to him to wrap (hoping he doesn't forget who it is for and instead gives it to his mother/sister etc.....)

But you'd agreed on a budget
Have you told him it's the one you'd previously asked to throw away?

Well DH bought me a deck chair for Xmas ….i mean wtaf. I’m too shocked even to be annoyed at the shitness! And a jar of peanut butter.

worse than the year I got a battered candle from TKMaxx.