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Snap happy SIL is coming over today

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 09:41

So here I am at 9:40 on Christmas morning doing a full face of makeup before getting started on Christmas lunch. I mean a full on glam makeup that would be suited to the red carpet!

She’s always complaining that we don’t take enough photos as a family, so here I am making sure I’m ready for the millions she takes.

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Binus · 25/12/2025 11:54

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:32

We’ve all mentioned it to her a few times. She just says she likes to have the memories and won’t post them, yet they always end up there!

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So rude.

Unfortunately her behaviour means you'll need to make a thing of it. She needs telling, a lot, to stop taking photos of people who haven't given permission.

Fionasapples · 25/12/2025 11:48

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:15

We’ve just never been a big photo family. Some parts of it I don’t mind, like the selfies with everyone. But it’s the photos as we open presents or eat dinner that get me a little!

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I hate people taking photos when I'm eating, it's so rude.

Hedgehogbrown · 25/12/2025 11:45

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:39

vain? Because I don’t want my makeup free face plastered all over Facebook?

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What's wrong with a make up free face? Does your husband have a make up free face? Should his face be never seen on Facebook? I have a make up free face. Am I an abomination to women? Get a grip of yourself and change your Facebook settings. Is selfish not to want your picture taken. It's not for you, it's for others to remember you by.

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 25/12/2025 11:26

I see someone suggested changing your FB settings so she can't tag you without you approving it...but that doesn't mean she can't post the photos. Personally I would pull evil faces at her or make myself a sign saying 'Photo Wanker' and hold it up whenever she gets her phone out!

DappledThings · 25/12/2025 11:23

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:52

If I’m going to work/a social occasion I’ll be wearing makeup. I only don’t wear it if it’s a weekend and I’m not going to be socialising

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That's your choice. Doesn't mean you have to wear it and if you feel you do it's still a choice to act on that so you can't really moan about a choice to do sonething unnecessary.

Can't be arsed myself and I'm sure you look fine without it.

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:59

Laveritas · 25/12/2025 10:57

Well yes..because you want to represent yourself a certain way. I’m not insulting you, I’d do the same and go full glam but we can’t blame anyone else for that choice ☺️

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Thats not being vain though

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Laveritas · 25/12/2025 10:57

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:39

vain? Because I don’t want my makeup free face plastered all over Facebook?

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Well yes..because you want to represent yourself a certain way. I’m not insulting you, I’d do the same and go full glam but we can’t blame anyone else for that choice ☺️

User1367349 · 25/12/2025 10:56

somanychristmaslights · 25/12/2025 10:18

I have my social media set so I have to approve anything I’m tagged in before it appears on my feed. Stops all the god awful pictures my DM posts of me 🙄

Did you see this @everywhereeverything1?

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:52

ItsDarkNow · 25/12/2025 10:49

People know what you look like without makeup surely?

If I’m going to work/a social occasion I’ll be wearing makeup. I only don’t wear it if it’s a weekend and I’m not going to be socialising

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ItsDarkNow · 25/12/2025 10:49

People know what you look like without makeup surely?

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:39

Laveritas · 25/12/2025 10:38

So you are vain and want to look good..hence the full glam. Not sure what the issue is! You have a choice and you’ve chosen!

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vain? Because I don’t want my makeup free face plastered all over Facebook?

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Laveritas · 25/12/2025 10:38

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:29

I think that’s a little unfair. She had hundreds of friends, most of whom I know/have met, plus I have all of my work colleagues etc on my Facebook. I don’t want to be on Facebook looking exhausted!

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So you are vain and want to look good..hence the full glam. Not sure what the issue is! You have a choice and you’ve chosen!

MyQuirkyFinch · 25/12/2025 10:35

I can’t believe Facebook is still a thing! 😂

You’d be fine if you were my colleague OP as I haven’t been on there probably in a decade

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:32

TheSpottedZebra · 25/12/2025 10:31

Have you told her this?

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We’ve all mentioned it to her a few times. She just says she likes to have the memories and won’t post them, yet they always end up there!

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FromageTime · 25/12/2025 10:32

As per a PP, I’ve just gone onto FB and IG and changed my settings so posts I’m tagged in have to be approved my me.

TheSpottedZebra · 25/12/2025 10:31

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:29

I think that’s a little unfair. She had hundreds of friends, most of whom I know/have met, plus I have all of my work colleagues etc on my Facebook. I don’t want to be on Facebook looking exhausted!

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Have you told her this?

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:29

DappledThings · 25/12/2025 10:16

If you want to put make-up on put it on and I have no idea why you are moaning about it. If you don't want to don't. It makes no difference to how many photos your SIL will take. If you don't want to be in photos without make-up you need to work on your self-esteem and/or assertiveness about not being in them in the first place.

I think that’s a little unfair. She had hundreds of friends, most of whom I know/have met, plus I have all of my work colleagues etc on my Facebook. I don’t want to be on Facebook looking exhausted!

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FromageTime · 25/12/2025 10:22

somanychristmaslights · 25/12/2025 10:18

I have my social media set so I have to approve anything I’m tagged in before it appears on my feed. Stops all the god awful pictures my DM posts of me 🙄

I didn’t know this was possible!

I’m always saying we should take more photos, but I’d also find it quite annoying if a guest was snapping away willy-nilly.

And my sister has never knowingly been in a photo. She’s very fat and incredibly insecure - this would be her worst nightmare.

somanychristmaslights · 25/12/2025 10:18

I have my social media set so I have to approve anything I’m tagged in before it appears on my feed. Stops all the god awful pictures my DM posts of me 🙄

NuffSaidSam · 25/12/2025 10:17

OP you don't need a full face of make-up to take some family snaps. Everyone already knows what you look like day to day. Enjoy your day, enjoy the pictures depicting you enjoying the day.

DappledThings · 25/12/2025 10:16

If you want to put make-up on put it on and I have no idea why you are moaning about it. If you don't want to don't. It makes no difference to how many photos your SIL will take. If you don't want to be in photos without make-up you need to work on your self-esteem and/or assertiveness about not being in them in the first place.

TheSpottedZebra · 25/12/2025 10:16

Could you ask her to NOT post them on Social media? Or post only a couple, that you pre approve?

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:15

tripleginandtonic · 25/12/2025 10:13

Its lovely memories. A bit of slap to make yourself look to your satisfaction is worth it surely.

We’ve just never been a big photo family. Some parts of it I don’t mind, like the selfies with everyone. But it’s the photos as we open presents or eat dinner that get me a little!

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tripleginandtonic · 25/12/2025 10:13

Its lovely memories. A bit of slap to make yourself look to your satisfaction is worth it surely.

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 10:12

Didimum · 25/12/2025 10:10

If it takes 5 minutes, why are you complaining about it?

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I meant 5 minutes on mn.

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