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Snap happy SIL is coming over today

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 09:41

So here I am at 9:40 on Christmas morning doing a full face of makeup before getting started on Christmas lunch. I mean a full on glam makeup that would be suited to the red carpet!

She’s always complaining that we don’t take enough photos as a family, so here I am making sure I’m ready for the millions she takes.

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 25/12/2025 16:22

Every time she posts one comment with a “please take my pics of social media as agreed thanks”

Rosealea · 25/12/2025 16:14

I,don't understand why you need to put make up on never mind a full face no matter where she posts pictures.

Skybluepinky · 25/12/2025 16:00

Most will think filters have been used, so you are definitely overthinking it.

DietQueen2023 · 25/12/2025 14:45

I’m with you OP, I’d wear make up if I knew the pictures were going to end up online. You want to look your best to the world! 🎄🎄

godmum56 · 25/12/2025 14:42

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 12:53

Yes. She doesn’t anyway

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then either she is not getting invited or she hands over her phone.

godmum56 · 25/12/2025 14:41

myhaggisblewup · 25/12/2025 12:45

Ranty peep here 😃
I cba with all the socials shit let alone the photos, I always sit them out, and don't fart around trying to photograph /video my lovely expensive dinner I'm going to eat it while it's hot so take your phone and shove it up your arse love. 😘

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verycloakanddaggers · 25/12/2025 14:37

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 12:53

Yes. She doesn’t anyway

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Have you told her it makes you angry?

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Wishihadanalgorithm · 25/12/2025 12:59

SIL, stop taking photos of me and posting them. In fact, unless it’s a pic I’m happy to be in (and you have to ask me first) do not take pics of me.

If you do, and then post them, I’ll have to ask you, and then the site, to remove them. I’m sure you understand we aren’t all attention whores.

Obviously the last part may be omitted 😉

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 25/12/2025 12:53

OP just say, “please can you just share photos with immediate family and don’t put on social media? I don’t want me or the kids photos on Facebook/instagram/whatever her preferred platform is. Thanks.”

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 12:53

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Yes. She doesn’t anyway

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myhaggisblewup · 25/12/2025 12:45

Ranty peep here 😃
I cba with all the socials shit let alone the photos, I always sit them out, and don't fart around trying to photograph /video my lovely expensive dinner I'm going to eat it while it's hot so take your phone and shove it up your arse love. 😘

IhadaStripeyDeckchair · 25/12/2025 12:34

SIL please stop taking photos & be present in the moment. I dont want pictures of me & our kids available to all in social media and I find your constant photos taking rude and intrusive in a very negative way.

verycloakanddaggers · 25/12/2025 12:33

I don't understand why you can't tell her to stop taking pictures.

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godmum56 · 25/12/2025 12:27

your house, ban photos. Its that easy.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 25/12/2025 12:24

It seems that the 'Spirit of Christmas' has evaporated early this year, and we haven't even had the King's Speech yet.🫤

gamerchick · 25/12/2025 12:19

I have a friend like that. I make a face in most of them. One day she's going to clonk me on the head.

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 12:18

Hedgehogbrown · 25/12/2025 11:45

What's wrong with a make up free face? Does your husband have a make up free face? Should his face be never seen on Facebook? I have a make up free face. Am I an abomination to women? Get a grip of yourself and change your Facebook settings. Is selfish not to want your picture taken. It's not for you, it's for others to remember you by.

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I have never once said any of that. It is my personal preference that I am photographed wearing makeup

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TheCooperettesShingaLing · 25/12/2025 12:16

Not everything needs to be shared with the wider world.

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CautiousLurker2 · 25/12/2025 12:01

Never been more grateful that not one of my DC or inlaws are on social media. Not photos taken go to anyone other than the people present.

I’d hate this. I do pop a bit of makeup on today and a best top, as am generally in doggy walking clothes and bare faced these days, but I’d hate to feel that I am on parade.

Enigma54 · 25/12/2025 11:56

God, I can’t think of anything worse than being plastered all over SM at Christmas ( or any time!)