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Snap happy SIL is coming over today

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 09:41

So here I am at 9:40 on Christmas morning doing a full face of makeup before getting started on Christmas lunch. I mean a full on glam makeup that would be suited to the red carpet!

She’s always complaining that we don’t take enough photos as a family, so here I am making sure I’m ready for the millions she takes.

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Bedrock81 · 26/12/2025 15:08

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FancyBiscuitsLevel · 26/12/2025 14:38

For next time you see her OP, say you are fine with her taking photos and putting them in family group chats, but you don’t want any of you or your dcs on social media. She can have her memories looking at the photos on her phone, but you don’t want them uploaded to social media platforms.

tell her in advance. I’d go as far as tell her you want any she’s posted from yesterday including you /your dcs to be taken down.

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 19:10

We’ve all said before to her that we don’t like it. She says that’s not her problem and she wants the memories.

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Stop inviting her then. She sounds really rude and selfish.

Lindaisonit · 26/12/2025 06:36

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AutumnAllTheWay · 25/12/2025 22:14

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No, not that 🙄

Your bossiness with the op!

sweetpickle2 · 25/12/2025 20:32

Maybe she sees your full glam and mistakes that for you being photo ready and wanting your pic taken.

PollyBell · 25/12/2025 20:30

Ok but I just get photos taken why on earth do you need full male up people look worse with it than without

Impactmascara · 25/12/2025 20:17

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AutumnAllTheWay · 25/12/2025 20:10

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I find it wierd how invested and bossy you are on this 😂

IidentifyastheGrinch · 25/12/2025 19:49

Maybe stop inviting her?
Or tell her its very unfashionable to post hundreds of pictures on social media?

CherryBlossom321 · 25/12/2025 19:41

everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 19:10

We’ve all said before to her that we don’t like it. She says that’s not her problem and she wants the memories.

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I wouldn’t be spending any more time with someone so careless of the personal boundaries of others.

Impactmascara · 25/12/2025 19:16

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We’ve all said before to her that we don’t like it. She says that’s not her problem and she wants the memories.

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 19:02

User1367349 · 25/12/2025 18:27

It’s very telling that OP has responded to multiple comments but has conveniently missed the advice that you can just change your FB settings so you can pre-approve any photos tagging you.

I’ve seen it. I’m pretty sure I’ve responded and said that even if I’m not tagged they’re still posted!

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AutumnAllTheWay · 25/12/2025 18:31

Wow, I dont want to read past page 1.

What a load of unnecessarily aggressive comments to a relatively lighthearted moan in xmas morn.

Your fault this... blah blah blah.

Yanbu op. Hope your day went well.

User1367349 · 25/12/2025 18:27

It’s very telling that OP has responded to multiple comments but has conveniently missed the advice that you can just change your FB settings so you can pre-approve any photos tagging you.

Jungleballsjungleballs · 25/12/2025 17:36

I Never wear make up -never ever (not even for my wedding)

just not my thing - if others want to wear it I’m fine with that - each to their own - you do you - I’ll do me…

people want to take photos of me - go ahead - I am what I am - certainly not ‘glam’ but just me and I’m fine with that.

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everywhereeverything1 · 25/12/2025 16:39

Well lots of pictures have been taken, including me shovelling pigs in blankets in my mouth. Brilliant

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MrsofClaus · 25/12/2025 16:36

If it bothers you catch her in an unattractive pose and post it on your socials. Amongst really flattering selfies.

LemaxObsessive · 25/12/2025 16:35

@HedgehogbrownI beg your pardon?! It’s everyone’s personal choice if they do not want their own body to be photographed! I cannot believe I am having to explain to this to a grown adult

LemaxObsessive · 25/12/2025 16:32

I would ask her to leave if she took ANY photos of me. She’d be gone! And if she put photos of my DC on social media I’d wipe the floor with her

TamarindCottage · 25/12/2025 16:27

somanychristmaslights · 25/12/2025 10:18

I have my social media set so I have to approve anything I’m tagged in before it appears on my feed. Stops all the god awful pictures my DM posts of me 🙄

They will still appear on the posters’s timeline, but not on yours