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DH is a spoilt brat

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arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 09:11

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

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NagathaCrispy · 25/12/2025 10:27

Like the poster above, I'd be wondering why he needs perfume when he travels and why he's kicking up such a fuss about this, using the travel thing as the major issue (but then I'm a suspicious mare at the best of times!!!) .......

Where does he go and for how long? Does he wear this stuff at home?

MynameisJune · 25/12/2025 10:23

A lot of airports have abolished the 100ml rule now. Also if he has hold luggage he can take whatever size he wants.

His behaviour would be a major ick for me.

Luckyingame · 25/12/2025 10:22

I'd hate other people choosing.... anything for me. Full stop.

somanychristmaslights · 25/12/2025 10:20

To be fair, not all perfume can be decanted. Some of mine as sealed so you can’t unscrew it. Not unless you spend the time spraying it into the other bottle.

but that’s beside the point. What an awful man.

TheOtherSide21 · 25/12/2025 10:19

FeistyFrankie · 25/12/2025 09:58

Why is it so important that he smells nice when away travelling, I wonder..??

What's his job OP and where does he travel to?

Oh frigg off 😂 some people just like to smell good. I am one of them. I’m not trying to impress anyone but myself as it makes me feel clean and sharp.

I also buy the small bottles of perfume so I can take them travelling as I’m too lazy to decant. My mum buys me perfume and I always ask for the small size for that reason.

However - if she bought me a big one I’d not even be annoyed. I’d just finally have to buy an atomiser or buy myself a smaller one for travel and keep bigger one for home.

DahlsChickenz · 25/12/2025 10:18

Cupboarddoorknob · 25/12/2025 09:12

Wow. You sleep with this man?

what is wrong with you? It's not OP's fault her husband is being an arsehole so why are you finding a way to have a dig at her as though she's the one who has done something wrong?

hattie43 · 25/12/2025 10:18

Why doesn’t he just decamp some in to a small atomiser for travel ? Nice perfume is not cheap so he needs to show more gratitude

MaeWestNeverForgets · 25/12/2025 10:18

I mean, I'm no psychologist, but I'd wager this isn't really about the old eau de Cologne...

endofthelinefinally · 25/12/2025 10:17

CalzoneOnLegs · 25/12/2025 10:11

How could it be decanted ? Unless it isn’t an atomiser bottle

You can decant from an atomiser if your travel size atomiser comes with the correct attachment. A bit like the fine tube that you get with WD40.

Megifer · 25/12/2025 10:16

katepilar · 25/12/2025 10:15

Parfumes dont decant easily, do they. None of mine had a bottle you can open and pour out of. You would need to spray it out to decant.

I understand he is totally frustrated. He asked for something, and got something different which he hasnt got a use for.
I personally fund the whole gift-giving culture really weird.

Behave 🤣🤣 a sodding chimp could use one of the kits you get from Amazon to decant 😂

katepilar · 25/12/2025 10:15

Tiddlywinkly · 25/12/2025 09:27

He's never heard of decanting?

Parfumes dont decant easily, do they. None of mine had a bottle you can open and pour out of. You would need to spray it out to decant.

I understand he is totally frustrated. He asked for something, and got something different which he hasnt got a use for.
I personally fund the whole gift-giving culture really weird.

endofthelinefinally · 25/12/2025 10:14

Has he never heard of decanting into a travel atomiser?

goodwinter · 25/12/2025 10:13

FeistyFrankie · 25/12/2025 09:58

Why is it so important that he smells nice when away travelling, I wonder..??

What's his job OP and where does he travel to?

Come on 🙄

Strawberryfruitcorner · 25/12/2025 10:12

Yoheresthestory · 25/12/2025 09:15

Get a fucking 100ml or 50ml dispenser and ask him if he’s intelligent enough to hold down a job since he couldn’t think of that simple solution himself.

Love this 😂

TheEverlastingPorridge · 25/12/2025 10:12

Yet you still call him "D" H - that is the most annoying part to me

MyHazelOtter · 25/12/2025 10:11

Very often with these situations it's not about the size of the perfume. He has anger building and it was the straw that broke the camels back. Try and find out what is really bothering him

CalzoneOnLegs · 25/12/2025 10:11

How could it be decanted ? Unless it isn’t an atomiser bottle

ClareBlue · 25/12/2025 10:10

He said don't bother getting him anything again. Take him at his word.

MamsKnit · 25/12/2025 10:09

His poor mum. She has obviously had a lifetime of this. Poor you.

PixellatedPixie · 25/12/2025 10:05

Besides the fact that it can be decanted, how much does He actually travel that he would actually care SO much about this issue? Surely he could save it for home use? My DH travels so much for work that he is on gold guest list and yet he never ever talks about stuff for travelling or seem to care and tried to get out of trips wherever possible.

BeeHearty · 25/12/2025 10:00

TheSmallAssassin · 25/12/2025 09:29

I would be annoyed if I was him, but would take it as a lesson to state the "why" next time. It's a disappointment and it isn't easy to decant if it's in a spray bottle. He is being unreasonable to shout at you about it.

It isn't easy for a chimp or small child. A grown adult can usually manage.

FeistyFrankie · 25/12/2025 09:58

Why is it so important that he smells nice when away travelling, I wonder..??

What's his job OP and where does he travel to?

BCBird · 25/12/2025 09:47

pictoosh · 25/12/2025 09:32

No manners and no self-respect, behaving like a pampered prince.
Where's his dignity?

I totally agree. Would he tolerate this from.one of your children?

Redburnett · 25/12/2025 09:39

I think this is a classic example of saying you want something for a gift and then being disappointed because what you get is not exactly what you wanted. Your DH was specific but without explaining why, he has apologised for overreacting, end of story. And he is going to buy the specific item himself, which is probably what we all do as adults in the end. Let the mini-saga become a joke as part of your family's Christmas traditions.