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DH is a spoilt brat

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arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 09:11

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

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Roobarbtwo · 26/12/2025 04:24

arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 09:11

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

Why does he need to take aftershave or cologne on his travels. Don't get me wrong I like perfume but if someone got me one that was 200 ml I would go out and buy a smaller cheaper one from aldi or lidl and not act like an ungrateful cunt

InSpainTheRain · 26/12/2025 00:41

But if he uses it regularly why can’t he use the 200ml bottle at home? Surely he doesn’t only wear perfume when travelling? Manchild!

ThePoetsWife · 25/12/2025 23:24

Get a decanter / I have these and one is enough for a few days

Randomchat · 25/12/2025 23:03

ThereWillBeReaperCushionsSoBeWarned · 25/12/2025 16:14

He shouldn’t have a tantrum but he did ask for the 100ml bottle in fairness.

That's the kind of thing my dh would do. I would say "I would like this perfume in a 100ml bottle". He would buy a bigger one because it's better value or because he wants to be generous. But it's not what I want. It's what he thinks I want. Or he'd buy me a slightly different perfume because he thinks it's better.

It drives me crazy.

But I wouldn't have a serious tantrum. I just roll my eyes and wonder why I bothered asking.

MamsKnit · 25/12/2025 22:25

arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 13:08

😂 that's so funny. Noone will see his bottle in his hotel room. He just likes beautiful objects, some people do. I understand that but he could just buy himself 100 ml and leave the 200 ml at home. I even offered to do it but he went all " no, no, I'll handle it".

To be fair, he normally wouldn't be this mental about it but might have muttered something. So he's def overreacted due to stress.

What is it that you love about him?

wildlifeobserver1 · 25/12/2025 22:23

I think his reaction is poor but I have to agree with him.
I understand the kind intent of the larger gift but he did ask for the 100ml and now he’s got a gift he’s unable to use, and now has to buy himself the 100ml again. I am also fed up of receiving gifts ‘similar’ to what I asked for but not quite the same.

Everyone is linking atomisers but they’re only little and good for a few spritzes, certainly not something that would last a few days away!

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 25/12/2025 22:16

Stravaig · 25/12/2025 15:06

It's not just about the contents of the bottle, it's about the bottle itself. The 100 ml bottle will look different, feel different in the hand, take up a different space on the dresser or in a bag. Some people notice and care about such things.

But those people need to grow the fuck up, quite frankly.

myotheraccountsa · 25/12/2025 20:51

This is a weird thread. You post asking if DH was being a spoilt brat. The majority reply confirming yes he was. You jump to his defense and get annoyed people are saying that. Why post at all, and might you be enabling his brattiness by excusing this sort of behaviour?

arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 20:43

To pp who wondered. Yes, cologne/after shave. I just call it perfume- always have. As long as we understand each other I hope that's OK. 😉

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arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 20:42

ForeverHopeful3 · 25/12/2025 19:15

Right??? She found THIS attractive enough to marry and have kids with! Some women love being with manchilds!

Jesus. I have described one incident. Dh doesn't have form for being entitled and rude- quite the contrary. That's why I found it so strange and unsettling and thinking that he's close to a burnout.

I have done and said things in the past that I'm not proud of- it doesn't make me a horrible person. I condemn his behaviour but he's a decent man in general. Who I found attractive enough to marry and have kids with. I hope you don't judge yourself and others so harshly irl over isolated incidents.

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DisabledDemon · 25/12/2025 20:20

How on earth does he get himself to work every day - do you have to hold his hand?

ForeverHopeful3 · 25/12/2025 19:15

Cupboarddoorknob · 25/12/2025 09:12

Wow. You sleep with this man?

Right??? She found THIS attractive enough to marry and have kids with! Some women love being with manchilds!

Puffalicious · 25/12/2025 19:06

When did men start calling it perfume? Even DS21 & DS19 call it aftershave, whether they're shaving or not. It just sounds weird. And all this 'It's about the bottle' would give me the absolute ick. What a bell-end.

Bedhead1234 · 25/12/2025 18:48

Andepeda · 25/12/2025 12:59

He wants staff to be impressed by his bottle. Nothing to do with the scent.

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pictoosh · 25/12/2025 18:26

ilovepixie · 25/12/2025 18:01

She bought the wrong size! He wanted the 100ml for a reason.

And a well-mannered, dignified adult would thank the gift giver for the perfume then buy themselves the smaller size for travelling.
They'd be gracious about it.

Nopersbro · 25/12/2025 18:24

ilovepixie · 25/12/2025 14:59

There’s a perfume thread where a husband buys the wrong perfume for his wife, everyone saying is be annoyed, he’s a twat and so on.
Yet when a woman buys the wrong gift the man is a spoilt brat for complaining! 🤔🤔

In this case, the wife who is being abused didn't do anything wrong, neither intentionally nor accidentally or out of carelessness or inattention. He's haranguing his wife because his mother bought him the wrong size bottle of the right frag. And he didn't come on to ask if he was overreacting, he just assumed it was fine to blow his top (I'll never ask for anything again, etc.) I understand his disappointment - I travel with fragrance too (although I'd probably decant 10 ml unless it's a months-long trip) - but it's not the end of the world.

ilovepixie · 25/12/2025 18:01

RedToothBrush · 25/12/2025 15:23

Nice try.

Except the OP didn't buy the wrong perfume. She bought the correct one.

She bought the wrong size! He wanted the 100ml for a reason.

BunnyLake · 25/12/2025 17:52

Whosthetabbynow · 25/12/2025 17:36

Perfume? After shave surely

Yes, I didn’t know men were calling it perfume (it used to be cologne).

BunnyLake · 25/12/2025 17:51

You’ve not only married a spoilt brat, but an incredibly stupid one who has no intelligent thoughts in his head. Critical thinking not his thing is it!

Whosthetabbynow · 25/12/2025 17:36

Perfume? After shave surely

I8toys · 25/12/2025 17:24

How to make yourself totally unattractive in one easy step. Eww! Its easily solved as people have said. Total bellend.

CocksBolingey · 25/12/2025 16:53

What a Christmas bellend! 🔔

ThereWillBeReaperCushionsSoBeWarned · 25/12/2025 16:14

Brefugee · 25/12/2025 14:23

If you want something very specific, you specify if it really needs to be that very one

He shouldn’t have a tantrum but he did ask for the 100ml bottle in fairness.

grinchmcgrinchface · 25/12/2025 16:10

I would instantly get the ick. How do you manage to sleep with him?

Rosealea · 25/12/2025 16:07

Most airports have done away with or are doing away with the 100ml limit anyway.

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