DH is a spoilt brat

Eagleswim · 28/12/2025 13:27

TheSmallAssassin · 25/12/2025 09:29

I would be annoyed if I was him, but would take it as a lesson to state the "why" next time. It's a disappointment and it isn't easy to decant if it's in a spray bottle. He is being unreasonable to shout at you about it.

+1

It is annoying when you say specifically what you want you want and then someone gets something else. Decanting means the clutter of two bottles when you only want one.

Having said all that he shouldn't make an issue of it, just quietly deal with it.

ZoggyStirdust · 28/12/2025 13:24

ClearFruit · 27/12/2025 07:57

🤣🤣🤣🤣 "at breaking point" over a 'perfume'.

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fuck me

are you aware of the concept of stress building up and coming out over a small thing?

ZoggyStirdust · 28/12/2025 13:22

Op I think you have angered a lot of mumsnet by being understanding of a man being stressed and upset and reacting badly.

for many on here he should never feel stressed (how can he, he’s probably lazy), never feel upset (how dare he be weak), never snap at you (he must be abusive)

hope you’re both ok

ZoggyStirdust · 28/12/2025 13:13

FeistyFrankie · 25/12/2025 09:58

Why is it so important that he smells nice when away travelling, I wonder..??

What's his job OP and where does he travel to?

Here we go…

ClearFruit · 28/12/2025 13:01

Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 27/12/2025 09:11

Either comprehension isn't your strong point or you're deliberately being obtuse and delight in couples breaking up over little things.

OP isn't leaving him, so tough for you.

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Snakebite61 · 28/12/2025 12:56

arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 09:11

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

Well, you picked him.

fetchacloth · 27/12/2025 16:35

You're not married to my ex DH by any chance are you OP?
Any excuse for a row and he would pick one 🙄.
I'm sorry OP he sounds like a man child. 😔

Isittimeformynapyet · 27/12/2025 16:24

mbonfield · 25/12/2025 11:34

Families who would have them!

Families who would have what?

Isittimeformynapyet · 27/12/2025 16:18

hattie43 · 25/12/2025 10:18

Why doesn’t he just decamp some in to a small atomiser for travel ? Nice perfume is not cheap so he needs to show more gratitude

Probably because decamping fragrance isn't a thing.

Bones101 · 27/12/2025 16:09

200ml is for home.

Who is trying to impress when he's away cause this has triggered something.

MissDoubleU · 27/12/2025 15:59

Heathotstuff · 27/12/2025 12:17

Why is he wearing perfume?? Is he a drag act

Sorry, are you on of those incredibly precious people who think a man’s masculinity will crack if it’s called what it is (eaux de parfum) rather than something much more manly like “fragrance” ?

How terribly fragile men must be when the mere implication of assumption of feminine association causes them to turn into female impersonators. Obviously nothing could be more terrible for them than to share any likeness with women.

yawn.

liamharha · 27/12/2025 14:20

arcticpandas · 25/12/2025 09:11

He is going to be gifted a perfume today. He asked for 100 ml but Mil asked me to order 200 ml. I helped her out with her online orders. Partner said oh did I ask for a perfume? I told him yes. He said: but did I ask for 100 ml? I said yes but your mum might have gotten you more since she's generous, you will see.
He goes off yelling about not being able to take it on his travels (100 ml limit) and I should have known better and he has no use for 200 ml. I told him I don't travel often neither does Mil so how the fuck were we to think that he wanted his perfume for travel.

Mil has thrown ticket and box away so can't return. I am so furious with dh acting like a spoilt brat. Our kids would never act like this even if disappointed- they are teens and polite.

Later on he came and said sorry I shouldn't have reacted like that...and then he went on again talking about how he'll have no use for it and he will buy his 100 ml himself and how he will never ask for anything again ! Bonkers ! If it wasn't for my kids I would be leaving for a couple of days. Immature entitled twat!! I have been disappointed with gifts but never said something but believe me this year I will not save his feelings and will tell him to return anything I don't like. Would that be unreasonable?

Tell him to decant the moody tit

Sartre · 27/12/2025 12:24

This thread is pretty wild. Have only read your reactions OP but you started it to complain about his unreasonable behaviour and then became immediately offended when others said yes he is a bit of a dick. What did you want from this?

SnowFrogJelly · 27/12/2025 12:20

LTB

Heathotstuff · 27/12/2025 12:17

Why is he wearing perfume?? Is he a drag act

Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 27/12/2025 12:16

Roobarbtwo · 27/12/2025 11:20

Says you calling people little miss perfect

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Ok, because that's the same 😅.

It was a rhetorical question fgs.

Original poster

arcticpandas · 27/12/2025 12:01

pictoosh · 27/12/2025 09:58

Oh and guilty as charged too...earlier in the thread I was scathing about the DH.
But when OP returned, said they'd talked it out and all was well, I believed her.
She would know after all.

If I were her I'd leave the thread now, it's ongoing comments either from people who haven't read it, or those who think they know better...or those who are disappointed by the outcome.

Will take this advice. Thank you to those who have left insightful/helpful comments. 🩷

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arcticpandas · 27/12/2025 11:56

ClearFruit · 27/12/2025 07:57

🤣🤣🤣🤣 "at breaking point" over a 'perfume'.

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Not over a perfume. But I don't think you understand even if I explained it to you. I will let Google explain what pp referred to;
The idiom "the straw that broke the camel's back" describes a minor or routine action that causes an unpredictably large and sudden reaction due to the cumulative effect of previous small actions. It alludes to the proverb "it is the last straw that breaks the camel's back"

OP posts:

Roobarbtwo · 27/12/2025 11:20

Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 27/12/2025 08:54

We don't know the reason, like most have said, probably not about the actual perfume.
Calling someone you don't know names is going to help OP in what way?

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Says you calling people little miss perfect

5128gap · 27/12/2025 11:15

Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 27/12/2025 10:19

Not relevant as OP has clarified, time and time again
But seems the man & marriage haters are out in force this Christmas.

Why not believe OP when she says they've resolved it?

If this is the start of abusive behaviour, an OP should feel comfortable enough to come back and ask for more advice and be open.
As it stands there's little chance of that happening when you've had your loved one called names, OP also called names and people saying LTB over one little insight.

Her Dh said sorry before OP posted, so she clearly just wanted a rant.
Just like the bathrobe of doom threads.

This should be a forum to help and encourage, but a lot just want to see the breakdown of a family unit.

Concern would be asking if he's normally like this, is he stressed at work, hows the relationship with his mum, could there be something else behind it etc....

Yet many just jumped to insults and name calling, which isn't helpful at all.

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The OP asked for comments on a specific instance of behaviour and that's what she got. If the insults to her husband have caused her to back track due to protectiveness of a man who isn't as bad as this incident suggests, then that's perspective too I guess.

Nancylancy · 27/12/2025 10:26

My autistic DH would react similarly if he got something that wasn't exactly what he'd asked for - not blowing up and being angry, but he'd state his disappointment and why it was now useless for what he wanted it for. He would just tell it how it is without thinking about the social impact of his truth. You say your DC is autistic - is this from you or DH? Usually one or both parents are!

He has apologised - hopefully it will be a running joke and I would send him.off to buy his own gifts next year and just transfer the money!

MaeWestNeverForgets · 27/12/2025 10:21

bleakmidwintering · 27/12/2025 06:37

Is he gay? Ranting about perfume bottles doesn’t seem that straight that’s all. (Didn’t mean to offend anyone but it’s very odd)

That is quite the leap...says more about your mind to be honest.

Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 27/12/2025 10:19

5128gap · 27/12/2025 10:03

It gives perspective. When a man behaving in this ridiculous way is your norm, you sometimes become blind to just how unacceptable it is, and what it reveals about his character. If you justify it, then the next step is to change your own behaviour to avoid 'putting him through it' again, be more careful, jump through hoops. A stranger's immediate response shows you that for other people its not remotely normal or acceptable, so if you choose to indulge and pander, that's up to you, but don't feel you should have to.

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Not relevant as OP has clarified, time and time again
But seems the man & marriage haters are out in force this Christmas.

Why not believe OP when she says they've resolved it?

If this is the start of abusive behaviour, an OP should feel comfortable enough to come back and ask for more advice and be open.
As it stands there's little chance of that happening when you've had your loved one called names, OP also called names and people saying LTB over one little insight.

Her Dh said sorry before OP posted, so she clearly just wanted a rant.
Just like the bathrobe of doom threads.

This should be a forum to help and encourage, but a lot just want to see the breakdown of a family unit.

Concern would be asking if he's normally like this, is he stressed at work, hows the relationship with his mum, could there be something else behind it etc....

Yet many just jumped to insults and name calling, which isn't helpful at all.

5128gap · 27/12/2025 10:03

Flowersforyourchocolateprettyplease · 27/12/2025 08:54

We don't know the reason, like most have said, probably not about the actual perfume.
Calling someone you don't know names is going to help OP in what way?

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It gives perspective. When a man behaving in this ridiculous way is your norm, you sometimes become blind to just how unacceptable it is, and what it reveals about his character. If you justify it, then the next step is to change your own behaviour to avoid 'putting him through it' again, be more careful, jump through hoops. A stranger's immediate response shows you that for other people its not remotely normal or acceptable, so if you choose to indulge and pander, that's up to you, but don't feel you should have to.

pictoosh · 27/12/2025 09:58

Oh and guilty as charged too...earlier in the thread I was scathing about the DH.
But when OP returned, said they'd talked it out and all was well, I believed her.
She would know after all.

If I were her I'd leave the thread now, it's ongoing comments either from people who haven't read it, or those who think they know better...or those who are disappointed by the outcome.