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DIDNT buy partner’s sister fiancé a gift

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UniqueGoldNewt · 25/12/2025 01:49

Hi! Just wanted people’s opinions.. for background Ive been with my partner coming up a year and have only met his mother once, his sister and her fiancé twice. They are marrying next year i will add (late 2026).
So from the start of Xmas gift buying my partner told me that his mother and sister were buying me something small from each of them. I was told not to bother buying his sister’s fiancé a gift as it was not his immediate family plus he wasn’t buying me anything. I also didn’t think blokes were too bothered (met him twice) & it was more for the women of the immediate family like a woman thing. We left it at this happily.
anyways i get in tonight after an evening out with good friends & my partner calls me. It is a normal call speaking about tomorrows plans but then he goes on to say that a week or so ago he was on the phone to his sister and told her very bluntly (just how he is and was harmlessly neutral) that I didn’t get her partner anything. Apparently sister had put him on loudspeaker and her fiancé heard and got quite upset. I was quite taken aback and told him that I was told not to and it wasn’t a big deal as I don’t think a man ive met twice would care so much for a gift from his fiancées brothers girlfriend, im sorry. I included his name in the card so it’s not like I didn’t acknowledge the bloke! It was harmless i was told not to as Hes not immediate family yet & he also hadn’t bought me anything. But now im told by partner that he contributed to the present from the family. I understand that he feels put out and it wouldn’t have hurt to buy him a nice box of chocolates for a few quid but surely this is a little bit OTT? I acknowledged him in the card and I do get on with him i think hes lovely. If I knew that he had contributed to my gift I would of bought him something or given it more thought!
I sent my partner some money tonight and bought the bloke 2 big bars of quality street and a mini box of Lindt, partner kindly wrapped them up and put them in the bag with his sister & mum’s gifts so everyone has presents. I told partner that if anyone says anything to just say I got him something ages ago and it got mislaid in a bag with my brother’s presents but doesn’t this just seem a little bit of a joke? Apparently he was really upset and put out. I asked my partner for his sister‘s contact details to sort it out but he begged me not to mention it as he said she will have a go and take it out on him for telling me.
any opinions? I just hope this is resolved now as Hes now got a present wrapped to be given with the others so no one is left out now. Either way ive definitely learnt my lesson now. Fml xxx lol

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BeMintFatball · 25/12/2025 02:26

I would treat the fiancé as part of the family already. Knowing they are marrying next year ( month irrelevant) I would have bought a joint gift to the couple.

Sorry OP I think you fucked up

UniqueGoldNewt · 25/12/2025 02:10

I don’t mind buying them presents they don’t cost the earth, it’s once a year, nice thing to do for Christmas plus they bought for me it’s not that, i just dont understand why a bloke ive met twice who is my partner’s sister FIANCÉ is getting so aggy and upset? The mother and sister’s was absolutely fine

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CarrierbagsAndPJs · 25/12/2025 02:08

Oh and i would absolutely be mentioning it

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 25/12/2025 02:07

XWKD · 25/12/2025 01:59

Why the fuck would you buy partner’s sister's fiancé a gift?

Wtf sould you buy any of them? That is his job. Do not get pulled into buying presents for his side. Absolutely no.

XWKD · 25/12/2025 01:59

Why the fuck would you buy partner’s sister's fiancé a gift?

MauriceTheMussel · 25/12/2025 01:54

Jesus Christ

Either the fiancé is a massive baby or your DP is telling porkies of some kind

worriedmum8686 · 25/12/2025 01:54

They are strange I wouldn't worry