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To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

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mynME · 24/12/2025 18:02

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

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Smartiepants79 · 24/12/2025 18:10

She hasn’t done anything wrong either. Your son was repeatedly bugging her. She asked him to go away. Why should she have to put up with having her chat interrupted by a child she’s not responsible for?? She didn’t swear at him or hurt him. Teach him not to bother strangers.

bridgetreilly · 24/12/2025 18:09

He was bothering other grown ups. YABU.

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mynME · 24/12/2025 18:09

romdowa · 24/12/2025 18:08

He was bothering the woman , surely you understand why that's wrong ?

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Because he was explaining to her that she needed to control her son (didn’t use those words, he was very polite?)

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Theslummymummy · 24/12/2025 18:09

Well stop him from bothering people then

PumpkinSparkleFairy · 24/12/2025 18:08

What was the other woman supposed to do, kick her child off the car because your DS said so??

It’s unfortunate if she wasn’t very nice about it though.

romdowa · 24/12/2025 18:08

mynME · 24/12/2025 18:06

@AnneLovesGilbert my ds is five. I don’t need to follow him round like a toddler, and he wasn’t doing anything wrong 🤷‍♀️

He was bothering the woman , surely you understand why that's wrong ?

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mynME · 24/12/2025 18:07

JLou08 · 24/12/2025 18:06

Could he have been going over to someone who wasn't the said child's mum?

No it was her child. They were at the table next to me so I could hear. She was OK at first, she went over to the car and told her ds to take turns. But she got annoyed at having her chat with her mates disturbed I think,

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Cookingupmyfirstbornson · 24/12/2025 18:07

mynME · 24/12/2025 18:06

@AnneLovesGilbert my ds is five. I don’t need to follow him round like a toddler, and he wasn’t doing anything wrong 🤷‍♀️

He was bothering someone repeatedly

Upstartled · 24/12/2025 18:06

Is this a reverse? 🙄

So, your kid was on a toy and another whiny kid complained at him and then to you to get him off. Go away is a reasonable response.

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mynME · 24/12/2025 18:06

@AnneLovesGilbert my ds is five. I don’t need to follow him round like a toddler, and he wasn’t doing anything wrong 🤷‍♀️

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JLou08 · 24/12/2025 18:06

Could he have been going over to someone who wasn't the said child's mum?

Herbisaurous · 24/12/2025 18:05

YABU

Supervise your child and support them to navigate these kinds of social situations

vodkaredbullgirl · 24/12/2025 18:05

Hope you told your ds to leave the woman alone.

AnneLovesGilbert · 24/12/2025 18:05

Why weren’t you watching your child?

Lemonfrost · 24/12/2025 18:04

Is this really a big deal? It’s Christmas. Let it go.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 24/12/2025 18:04

Well these are small children so generally their parents would sort this stuff out. Plus the fact your son may not be a reliable witness, if he's a typical pre schooler.

Sillysoggyspaniel · 24/12/2025 18:04

"Apparently"?

So you weren't even supervising your child? YABU.

That aside, he's in the car. Your child waits his turn. There's no obligation for the other child to share.

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