To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

Actually I don't believe this. No one teaches their child to go up to strange adults. Especially about something they will be defensive about. That's just dangerous and stupid. No. Don't believe it.

that's the right thing to do? He's being raised well.

Op I was thinking what I'd do in your shoes, my child would (like most people's) come to me and say he wanted to use the steering wheel and I'd tell him the other child was using it and he'd have to wait. I'd watch to ensure he left the other child be or waited patiently. I'd possibly redirect him to a different activity 'while you're waiting I'll time you doing all slides like an obstacle course' or something. Then if I'd been rangling him for ages I'd maybe say to the mum at the next table, 'sorry he's desparate for a go on the tractor, would you mind seeing if your wee one is almost done?' and most ordinary parents would then work with me to make sure both kids calmly manage the tractor issue.

Ok, now I’m invested…

Tbf if it is true it explains some of the children I’ve encountered out in the wild. 😂

YABVU
You are teaching your child to be as entitled as yourself. What right did he have to a) stop the child playing with the car instead of waiting his turn
b) telling tales on others just because he couldn’t get his own way.
Do better

I mean if it were my 6yo I’d just say ‘Oh dear, maybe just go and do something else and try again later’ and that would be an end to it.

No you speak to their parent if necessary, or tell ur child to go do something else

All of this can be solved by you supervising your child. Ds shouldn’t be trying to take the wheel or tracking down random parents

I’m getting bored with reporting ridiculous made up threads designed to get posters worked up.

You are just teaching your kid to go running to an adult every time something they don't like happens...kids sometimes need to learn to handle their own issues and not go telling tales every 5 minutes.

Yabvu

It's Christmas Eve!!!! It's not a day to expect young children to be quiet! I'm not surprised the other mother was fed up with complaints from your DS . . . I'm sure she took her DS to soft play to allow him to let off steam & wear him out a bit!

Why didn't you stop your five year old from trying to take another child's toy? Surely you can intervene if you see him trying to take the wheel from another child?

& Did you really sit and watch him go up to another parent 3 times? Just to be clear, you should have intervened and redirected your son. Not encourage him to complain to a random adult.

He was using the toy, your child was trying to muscle in.

Teach your child to stand up for themselves, at school they teach not to keep telling repeatedly . I work in a school and we have lots of kids like your ds and they always have ' that parent' that becomes the talk of the staff room.

So your child was being a brat and yet it's the other child in the wrong? Maybe teach your child about waiting his turn.

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Your child though could be seen as trying to take over. The other child was having a turn, and your child actually was in the wrong by not waiting and trying to grab the wheel.

There's nothing to rebuke. The child is using the public use toy. Your child wants it but someone is using it so he waits until they are done. Your child should come and tell you so you can manage their expectations. Also 5 is still very young. Imagine watching your child do this and sitting there thinking the other parents in the wrong

That’s up to him. It’s not up to you to manage how other people choose to enjoy themselves.

Hopefully, the other child came to you about your son’s poor behaviour?

Hahaha. YABU
No it isn't the right thing to teach your child. Your child tells you and YOU talk to the other parent if necessary.
You don't teach your child to go to to strangers over potentially contentious issues! What if the adult was aggressive, rude, dangerous? You're the parent. You're responsible for sorting issues out.
Also, as child whooping in a soft play, even in an enclosed area is to be expected
Sounds like she responded politely. Tbh I'm amazed she didn't tell you to sort your child out.
Your child shouldn't have been bothering hers while playing with a toy.

No one likes a kid who constantly tells tales.

Well were either of you going to put money in the car? Sounds like neither child needed to be on this in reality. If your son had been given money and the other child was on it just messing around then fair enough.
Also it isn't up to your child to decide another child is being too loud. It's soft play. If your child is sensitive to noise then maybe you need to ask if they run quiet sessions.
I would find it quite rude having a 5 year old coming up to me telling tales (as you are assuming your version is correct). Your child needs to tell you, not go round to other parents unless it is a close friend of yours, then he might mention the friend not being fair when playing.

God what? It wouldn't be my choice, why are you putting that on your child?I'm embarrassed for you