To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

Why have you taught your child to go and speak to the parent of children that might be misbehaving. Not only are you encouraging your child to talk complete strangers you also do not know how the other parent might react so could be placing them in a dangerous situation. Yes you were sitting near by but what about times when you are not around?

Your child does sound like he annoyed the other parent by keeping approaching her about her child when her child was already playing on it. Majority of children are loud when they are in soft play as it is where they let off steam and run around like terrors.
Unless they are harming others or bully others you let them get on with it.

You should have steered your son away to play with something else not let him keep complaining to a parent about their child.

Be honest...you've told your son to tell the other parents because you dont like confrontation and because you can't be arsed either.

Why else wouldn't you ask him to tell you?

And why was he in the toddler section?

They had paid for their child to ride - he should have been able to do that unencumbered

you certainly shouldn’t be leaving your child to address adults - YOU are the trusted adult - for many reasons

I really don't get that children have to share (as in handing a toy over to another entitled child) with strangers. Naturally they will play with something and then move on to something else in due course.

Forcing children off mid play is nasty and entitled. People should teach their children to a) wait their turn and b) find something else to do. Patience is a virtue to be learned.

YABU.

Why didn't you get your son and move him to another area? Instead of letting him annoy another adult

Well if it's nothing to do with you why do you care what she says to him?

His feelings and concerns are much more your problem than they are hers.

Don't you teach your children to come to you if there's an issue, rather than approach and try and explain it to a stranger?

So neither parent was putting money into the car. Her son was sat in the car and your son kept trying to take over the car?

Your son then kept going telling tales to that child’s mother?

Yes you’re the unreasonable parent.

Nope, you go and speak to their parent.
Jeez, this smacks of entitled behaviour sorry OP.. your kid ‘I want to do something and someone else is getting in my way, pesters parent about it’ ‘you as mum sit and do zero because you can’t be bothered to move and are happy to have your kid approach strangers then moan about them politely telling your kid to stop bothering them about him trying to police other kids behaviour in a soft play’
Cheer up man

Your child sounds insufferable. Hope he grows out of it!! Parents and other children will soon tire of him. Maybe teach him to mind his own business.

Your son is 5, that is tiny. Even if he doesn’t need following around you need to have an eye on him. If he went up to an adult 3 times without you realising then you need to watch closer. If you did notice you should have intervened,

To be honest your son sounds like the one who was misbehaving and you should have told him to leave the car for now and play elsewhere until the boy is done.

By control her son you mean immediately give up the toy he is playing with to your son? And god forbid her son is being loud in a soft play! Sounds like a right tear away, does he not know noise is not permitted in a soft play?

in all seriousness OP I think the women was more than generous with her response. You should have immediately stepped in the first time your son started harassing her about her son playing with a toy and being “loud”. Sounds like your son (and you) was the badly behaved one here.

This has got to be a wind up?

I've never heard of anyone telling their child to go and tell someone else's parent?! Surely your child comes to tell you?!

If I saw my 5 year old approaching a parent at soft play I’d be straight over to find out what he was up to. It’s not your child’s place to be speaking to parents and telling them what to do. It’s just not appropriate behaviour.

YABU

Your child was annoying another child who was playing with something - your child needed to wait his turn. And annoying the child’s mother. I also can’t stand it when kids I don’t know tattle to me about my child when they are just doing something the other child doesn’t like, rather than wrong

I find it odd he’d approach someone else’s parents. In similar situations both of mine would’ve come to me. I’ve asked random to children to take turns. Also it’s best to just play on something else and stuff usually becomes free. And children are noisy at soft play- not much you can do.

Control her son or kick him off of the ride on because your son wanted it? You havent said anything about the boy being naughty.

Unless you were going to pay for your son to make the car move, at which point I’m guessing you would have gone over to put the money in and asked the other child to climb out so your son could use it properly, then neither needed to have the car.
I would have just told your child to stay away from car if you weren’t going to put the coins in to make it go and play with something else rather then let him keep going back to the other child’s mum.
The only time I intervene directly with other children in soft play is if my child is in the under 6 bit and there are larger children (age 10/11) and he risks getting knocked/trampled.
I tell my kids to stay away from the sweet machines/little ride ins because I’m not paying extra for them so there is no point hanging around them.

Why was your DS trying to put his hands on the wheel of a toy another child was playing on? Surely your DS was the child misbehaving. He should have gone and played with something else, not repeatedly annoyed another adult.

YABu on all counts quite frankly.

If this is real, she was perfectly polite, and had every right to redirect your 5yo to you.

And how bloody stupid to teach your child to a)speak to strangers, and b)tattle tale on another child TO their parent.

The only time i would ever encourage a child to approach another parent is if their child is in danger of hurting themselves.. but me or his dad, or any other adult we're there with should be the first port of call every single time.

Typical Mumsnet.
Someone wasn’t parenting their child fairly and getting them to share and ofc it’s your fault, OP.

If it was the other way around you would be terrible for not teaching your child to share.

I swear people on here are argumentative and out for a fight for the sake of it.
How sad 🙄

You sound uptight and entitled and you are raising your child to be the same.

Watch your kid.

Stop letting your kid bug other kids and moms. 🙄

I’m not entirely sure this is good advice. I think it’s better he tells you, you then decide how best to manage the situation.