To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

He needs to learn to wait. Harassing another adult isnt appropriate, he can find something else to do and go on it when he moves.

Your son was interfering in another child's play, by the sound of it.

I wouldn't respond well to a five year old telling me I need to control my child either. Really?

Children that were parentified grow up thinking some of it was normal. I was parentified and it took a lot of time and therapy to understand all the less obvious things I never should have been responsible for when I was a child.

OP likely is raising her DS the way she was raised in some ways that are blind spots. Kind of like how abusive parents who were straight up beaten as kids will deny they are abusive because they only smack and yell.

Then teach your son not to try to take over something a much smaller child was playing with. Your son and you sound like you think entitled twatish behavior is acceptable. He does because that is what you have taught him.

You should have been standing up for your DS. By making him go to a misbehaving child’s parent, you are parentifying him. He should come to you, tell you and you should talk to the misbehaving child’s parent(s).

Clearly he was. He was bothering the woman.

My local soft play has an upper age limit of 12 in the mainstream sessions but older children can come to the SEN sessions as long as they are with a sibling who is aged 12 or under. My 15 year old loves soft play, although he prefers air hop these days (which is annoying as it's £12 more expensive for half the time).

There are loads of soft plays for under 5's or under 8's popping up but I thought the majority of soft plays were ones for up to 12 years or up to 150cm.

I've always thought play for older dc should be encouraged. We have a climbing frame and trampoline in our garden that is used most days but sometimes when the weather is rubbish I want to take the dc to somewhere they can burn off energy but I can still feel my fingers.

We are getting an annual pass to a theme park which has a massive soft play for all ages for the dc main christmas present this year as it worked out so much better value.

The op takes her 5 year old to soft play and told him effectively not yo bother her and speak to strangers if he has a problem.....why dont parents want to parent?

You need to teach your kid some manners, including not taking adults to task over things.
I would have been annoyed if some bumptious brat kept coming up to me trying to tell me about my kid.

I feel sorry for your son, he is annoying, knows no boundaries, he knew not to bother you, so he pestered another parent. He also sounds what I would call entitled.

You must step up now, and parent. To be honest I think you are raising a very rude child.

I think the mum needs that leson.
And parenting class.

Time to teach your DS about boundaries.

God it just gets worse 11/12 and 15 years at soft play centers.

Letting 5 year olds talk to starangers and now taking teens to play centers.

Right thats it someone stop the planet i want to get off, parents today have finally lost it.

I have a child who will talk to anyone. I do sometimes wish someone would tell her not to talk to them. As at the moment the whole “stranger danger” isn’t working.

As long as she didn’t shout, then I don’t see the issue

At 5 years old?! Of course he did. 🙄

well, he was wasn't he..He was approaching and bothering a stranger.

And you think that's an ok thing for a five year old to say to an adult female stranger? You can't be serious.

OP do you know how dangerouse what you are doing really is.

Telling your child at that age to go talk to other parents grown adults.

Some parents wont keep taking the crap and being pestered, and will put your son in his place, if your not going to parent others will and show you how its done.
What if the child thinks its the parents but its not.
Some parents are mental.

STRANGER DANGER and all that we teach kids from being born,your setting your own kid up op.
I dont have kids and even i know it bloody wrong.

I know someone whose mum never corrected her, who never got in trouble, whose friends got the blame in everything.

She grew up to be the only true, what I think to be, a real narcissist. She had no concept of right and wrong, or of consequences, or of losing lifelong friendships because she stiffed them over the rent. Or dinner out. Or plane tickets. Or she’d abandon them, alone, in foreign countries.

I have probably a hundred different examples if I sat down and thought about them.

Every time I hear about a mum not correcting their child - even if their child isn’t doing anything wrong - it immediately takes me back to this girl and how badly her mother unintentionally failed her - but massively failed her.

I don’t even know WHY a mother would treat her daughter as though she could do no wrong and then send her out amongst the wolves.

Literally everyone on this thread has said that OP was in the wrong here.

Gosh, you sat there, listening in and passing judgment in your mind on the other child and mother, after pre telling your child in the past to go straight to other parents if they have an issue. Yikes!

Op I think you're missing half here. It's important to share yes, but it's also important to wait your turn which means waiting until the other person is finished. This child was still playing, wasn't finished and your ds at 5 was trying to take over. That's not ok. In that situation if I were in your shoes I'd have gone over to ds and said that little boy is still enjoying playing on that, he's not finished yet so why don't you go and do xyz and then you can check back later and see if the machine is free yet.

What you don't do is let him go and pester the other child's mum to essentially demand her child stops playing to give him a turn. And I personally wouldn't expect ds to go directly to another parent because who knows what response he'd get, he comes to me and if there's an issue I can't deal with we will go to the other parent together.

Bloody hell is this what parenting as become.
Get kids in this case 5 year old 60 months old to deal with it.
Be a fucking parent op.
This jen is fucked up.

Your 15 year old goes to soft play? And you check on them every few minutes?

Agree with this.

why do you think your son is more behaved and has the right to tell on another child?? He should have gone off and played with something else. As the parent this is what you should have said and you should have told him not to grab the wheel. As for the whooping - that’s what kids do when they play. If it’s too noisy then your son should move away. Unless the kids are hurling abuse and swear words of course.

OP your son will get bullied - please teach some different strategies. Perhaps if he’s sees something that makes him uncomfortable he can tell you? Then you can do as you please - but hopefully suggest he waits, moves away etc.