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Is anyone else’s DH spoiling Christmas?

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dhspoilongo · 24/12/2025 17:09

I guess the d bit is questionable!

DH, for no apparent reason, has been very grumpy to me the last few days. Only when Dc aren’t in the rooms and only to me. I have no idea why. I’ve asked, he says there’s nothing wrong, I haven’t done anything etc. I told him I was upset earlier because of his attitude and he said something like ‘if you’ve finished I’m going to get on with X’. I cried earlier which he saw, he gave me a very light hug and said sorry but then reverted soon after. I have done everything so far for Christmas so it’s not like he’s stressed about that. So anyway I’ve felt miserable as anything today but pulled myself together and did Christmas crafts etc with the kids and put a brave face on. But I just wanted to know if anyone else’s ‘d’h has spoiled Christmas for them? We’ve had several Christmas’ together and he’s never done this before.

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TheMotherSide · 24/12/2025 17:42

I'm ill and DP couldn't be less disapproving if he tried. I think it's because he's freaking out about self-imposed expectations of what he now feels he has to manage alone, but we're not hosting anyone, the DC couldn't give two hoots, so it really is just him being weirdly precious. He doesn't even really like Christmas, but feels like it has to be done a certain way. I usually do all the heavy lifting in the run-up to Christmas (all prep already done!) and on the day itself, while he's busy being anxious, so I don't get why he doesn't just take this as a golden opportunity to chill out and enjoy a more low-key affair. I'm so annoyed, which isn't conducive to recovery.

Sprogonthetyne · 24/12/2025 17:36

Not this year, because we separated 10 months ago. He found a way to ruin literally every Christmas for the previous 10 years. It wasn't accidentally or a coincidence.

Kingscallops · 24/12/2025 17:32

Crack on with enjoying your Christmas for you and your kids. Let the big baby come out the other side x

WinterSunglasses · 24/12/2025 17:24

Don't let him see he's upset you again. Blank him till he snaps out of it. Decide you and the kids are going to have a good Christmas together and he's irrelevant. Whatever is going on, if he can't either put a smile or be straight with you about why not, then don't give him the satisfaction of it spoiling your day.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 24/12/2025 17:14

My ex ruined every Christmas and birthday for me.

With the combo of him being a twat and my parents forcing me to cook them a dinner and then bitch about it I always thought I hated Christmas.

I’m giving it a miss this year but next year I’m going to try the Christmas thing again.