Me and my husband had an awful row around 5-6weeks ago, it ended up me calling out for help which the neighbours heard and called the police. The police came and I refused to talk to them, husband said a load of things to them so I got arrested - and released with no further action. However, the police then informed me (on my release) that they were going to arrest my husband - I told them I would in no way support anything/provide a statement or assist them in any way. Husband was then released with no further action.
i left the family home for a few weeks staying somewhere else with my child (not his bio father not involved) within this time husband told his parents everything, the whole nitty gritty of our argument (from his perspective) and told them to not contact me. (so as not to drip feed but I was emotionally neglected as a child been through years of therapy etc to deal with this but the rejection hit hard)
We had a conversation last night with regards to Christmas Day (we’re still not even sleeping in the same bed this whole argument has hit us both hard and we’re trying to rebuild our relationship back up) I wanted to know where he stood with if we went to his parents or not but he refused to tell me, so I felt I had to say no we’re not going. His response was well then I’ll be at there’s say between 11-4! Clearly this was a huge blow to me, I felt he wasn’t prioritising me or our marriage and was basically fucking off to his parents house for the day. His argument was it’s not the whole day!!
also to add I don’t have any immediate family myself ( mother is a horrible selfish nasty bit of work I’m no contact with, dad is dead, and sister sexually abused me as a child)
reason I had give my husband that I don’t want to spend Christmas with his family is because he’s told them all this bad stuff about me that how am I supposed to come back from? He’s said his family ‘don’t care and want to love on from’
so what do I do?? We’re not even talking at this point