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Socially acceptable Christmas alcohol but weed is not ok?

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IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 13:22

Just that I find it mad that alcohol is socially acceptable especially at Christmas, around kids, morning or middle of the day, all day, all normal. Despite it being a poison, a personality changer, a catalyst for fights, memory loss etc. There’s never been a study to support its use medicinally, with the exception of red wine in moderation.

But it’s not socially acceptable to get a little high on weed? Which does have many studies demonstrating its efficacy in treating a whole host of problems.

It’s mad IMO.

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Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 24/12/2025 15:10

It is not socially acceptable to get steaming drunk or stoned around kids.

But whether someone agrees with it or not, smoking weed makes you an illegal drug user. That isn’t morally neutral. It involves condoning an illegal trade built on violence, exploitation, and the suffering of men, women, and children.

The suffering and destroyed lives tied to that trade don’t disappear because someone thinks the drug should be socially acceptable, or legal, or thinks their supply is victim-free (it still condones/encourages the wider use of illegal drugs).

There will be children suffering this Christmas due to this illegal drug trade.

Hope you reflect on that while getting your high this Christmas (although I doubt it, drug users tend to be both deluded and too self absorbed in my experience).

EarlofShrewsbury · 24/12/2025 15:06

Circa 70,000 people are prescribed cannabis in the UK.

It's been legal for medical use since 2018.

A lot of people wrongly think this only means an extract or spray. Actual cannabis flower is prescribed, along with other forms such as value cartridges and pastilles.

It's still illegal to smoke it but a dry herb vape is fine. The smell isn't always coming from someone using it illegally.

Educate yourselves.

Oh and lots of things stink. Incontinent people, people adverse to showering, stinky breath, babies arses, farmers fields, perfume, etc

Createausername1970 · 24/12/2025 15:04

I think if alcohol was discovered today, it would probably be more controlled. But it's been with us in one form or another for thousands of years so falls into an odd category where we do know it's a harmful product but we still happily consume it or give it as presents.

owlpassport · 24/12/2025 15:03

MO0N · 24/12/2025 14:47

Cannabis is legal, anyone can get a private prescription for medical cannabis, medical cannabis gets you high just like ordinary cannabis does.
As already pointed out one can use edible cannabis and there is no smell for people to complain about.

This is not (or should not) be true. 'Anyone' should not be able to get a prescription for anything, medicines should be prescribed purely on the basis of evidence base and need. Not profit.

@Dliplop Of course some houses have alcoholics or binge drinkers or people getting high, but a little puff of my vape (bathroom, open window and fan) isn’t getting me high.

But what's the point..? Drinking a glass of wine at the table with dinner gives me a totally different image to someone standing in the bathroom alone vaping out a window. It's anti-social.

iloveeverykindofcat · 24/12/2025 15:01

Weed probably should be legal, but it isn't, so buying it funds organised crime and child exploitation.

And where is it socially acceptable to start drinking in the morning on Christmas? Not in my house, or any of my relatives or friends. Maybe a couple of my friends parents. It's hardly universal. Most of us will have wine with the dinner tomorrow, I won't but I'll have a whisky and coke after. I'd think that was more typical Christmas social norm?

Charlize43 · 24/12/2025 14:59

Gosh! There's a big difference between a Dry Martini or a jug of Margaritas to someone coughing and spitting on a smelly old spliff...

Too many cases of machete wielding habitual weed smoking paranoid schizophrenics for my liking... although you could do an Alice B Toklas and create a cannabis infused Christmas pudding... That could be fun!

MO0N · 24/12/2025 14:57

THisbackwithavengeance · 24/12/2025 14:55

Do you want permission to smoke weed OP? So you can pat yourself on the back as it’s not alcohol.

At least you can enjoy your Christmas with your DCs unlike the Vietnamese kids working in grow houses so you can get your fix. But they don’t matter of course.

https://curaleafclinic.com/
Are you saying that companies like this one employ Vietnamese children?

Curaleaf Clinic

Curaleaf Clinic are a multi-award winning, CQC registered Medical Cannabis Clinic who specialise in online consultations.

https://curaleafclinic.com

Heyhelga · 24/12/2025 14:57

Weed is very much linked to mental health problems

Isthismykarma · 24/12/2025 14:57

I buy real CA standard edibles, so no ethical issues.
No smell.
Makes food taste nicer. Helps me to doze off. Makes films extra funny.
I don’t see how that’s worse than someone having a bottle of wine tbh.

THisbackwithavengeance · 24/12/2025 14:55

Do you want permission to smoke weed OP? So you can pat yourself on the back as it’s not alcohol.

At least you can enjoy your Christmas with your DCs unlike the Vietnamese kids working in grow houses so you can get your fix. But they don’t matter of course.

Joeninety · 24/12/2025 14:55

Mymanyellow · 24/12/2025 14:52

How about don’t smoke cigarettes, don’t take drugs and do t drink to excess. Show some restraint ffs.

I'd agree, but it's not so simple. Once you're hooked, you're really hooked.

NortyElf · 24/12/2025 14:53

IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 13:22

Just that I find it mad that alcohol is socially acceptable especially at Christmas, around kids, morning or middle of the day, all day, all normal. Despite it being a poison, a personality changer, a catalyst for fights, memory loss etc. There’s never been a study to support its use medicinally, with the exception of red wine in moderation.

But it’s not socially acceptable to get a little high on weed? Which does have many studies demonstrating its efficacy in treating a whole host of problems.

It’s mad IMO.

Are you OK hun? What message are you giving to your kids?? Stop trying to downgrade 'weed' - its not OK

Mymanyellow · 24/12/2025 14:52

How about don’t smoke cigarettes, don’t take drugs and do t drink to excess. Show some restraint ffs.

Joeninety · 24/12/2025 14:52

Weed is the first step to a living, or even dead dependency hell. Alcohol is just alcohol, all that's needed is a bit of common sense when enjoying it.

Dozer · 24/12/2025 14:52

@Sunshineofyourlove (weed) ’will have no adverse effect on anyone’

Not the case, unless it’s legal where you live or you grew it yourself from seeds or a plant bought from somewhere it’s legal. Financing crime has adverse effects on lots of people.

Mymanyellow · 24/12/2025 14:50

StupidHappyClocks · 24/12/2025 14:18

Nothing is going to persuade me that smoking weed around kids on Christmas Day is acceptable. Sorry.

Or any day come to that.

MO0N · 24/12/2025 14:50

LlynTegid · 24/12/2025 14:40

I do not think anyone was murdered and no one forced into gangs for the drinks trade. Unlike the drugs trade.

You mean this drugs trade?
https://curaleafclinic.com/
I don't think there are any gangs involved here.

Curaleaf Clinic

Curaleaf Clinic are a multi-award winning, CQC registered Medical Cannabis Clinic who specialise in online consultations.

https://curaleafclinic.com

beeautifullif3 · 24/12/2025 14:50

The amount of people so uneducated about cannabis is actually hilarious 😂

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 24/12/2025 14:47

We’ve never made a big deal of alcohol. It’s there if we want a glass with a meal but don’t often. Much like chocolate we’ve never treated it as a treat.

In terms of smoking, vaping and weed if you’re smoking it really should be outside if you have family around because of health reasons. If it’s your house and you all smoke do what you like

Personally I don’t think meat should be a celebrated element of a meal or day either partly because most of it is very bad for people aswell.

Regarding lingering smells in the house
meat, weed, smoking all stink the house out
alcohol doesn’t

MO0N · 24/12/2025 14:47

DinoLil · 24/12/2025 13:48

One substance is illegal. One isn't.

Cannabis is legal, anyone can get a private prescription for medical cannabis, medical cannabis gets you high just like ordinary cannabis does.
As already pointed out one can use edible cannabis and there is no smell for people to complain about.

Funnywonder · 24/12/2025 14:46

Oh God, the smell of weed is awful. I have never smoked it, or anything else for that matter. I wouldn’t even want anyone to smoke it outside because the smell sticks like shit to everything and people just bring it in on their clothes. So, for that reason alone, I’d rather everyone stuck to a thimble of sherry and a sniff of the Christmas cake (while I quaff all the wine and Bailey’s🤣)

BunnyLake · 24/12/2025 14:42

Weed stinks. I smoked the odd one year’s ago but today’s weed is so strong you can smell it a mile away and it’s stomach churning.

I don’t think anyone should ever be high or drunk around children any day of the year!

LlynTegid · 24/12/2025 14:40

I do not think anyone was murdered and no one forced into gangs for the drinks trade. Unlike the drugs trade.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 24/12/2025 14:39

MissMay95 · 24/12/2025 13:30

Alcohol is legal but shouldn't be. How many deaths per year are alcohol related? I know 2 people killed by drunk drivers also. It's vile. People who condone it and make excuses for it, tell me everything I need to know about that person 🤷‍♀️

I don't think anyone in their right mind would condone drunk driving. It's so morally wrong there are no words. I don't agree re alcohol in general though, I find it quite beneficial to my life truth be told. In moderation it's fine the problem is misuse. Same with fast food or any indulgence really. Think of all the people who are killed from speeding, significantly more than drunk drivers and we still permit people to do this, often eye rolling at people who claim to speed instead of ostracised them. It's a double standard.

Dliplop · 24/12/2025 14:39

I’m in Canada and generally people here would find it appalling the way alcohol is consumed through the Christmas period in the UK. BUT would have zero issue with someone having a glass of wine or low dose edible wrapping gifts or after dinner. Of course some houses have alcoholics or binge drinkers or people getting high, but a little puff of my vape (bathroom, open window and fan) isn’t getting me high.

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