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Socially acceptable Christmas alcohol but weed is not ok?

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IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 13:22

Just that I find it mad that alcohol is socially acceptable especially at Christmas, around kids, morning or middle of the day, all day, all normal. Despite it being a poison, a personality changer, a catalyst for fights, memory loss etc. There’s never been a study to support its use medicinally, with the exception of red wine in moderation.

But it’s not socially acceptable to get a little high on weed? Which does have many studies demonstrating its efficacy in treating a whole host of problems.

It’s mad IMO.

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The13thFairy · 24/12/2025 16:36

IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 13:37

I hope your edibles are lovely. It takes a while for the effects to hit when eating so go steady. Trouble with edibles is they give you the munchies and then you eat more and then is goodnight for a damn fine sleep.

I haven’t smoked in over a decade, and have serious air filters in every room so the vape doesn’t linger. It’s a much nicer smell than dogs, and I have one of those too.

Another trouble with edibles is that you don't actually know when they'll hit. The second time I used them it was almost 24 hrs before I felt the effects ~ don't know how it happened but it was awful. I wasn't in the safe space I'd arranged to be in.

BobblyBobbleHat · 24/12/2025 16:35

I'm quite happy with neither, but the stench of weed really makes me feel ill.

The13thFairy · 24/12/2025 16:28

When I socialised with people who smoked weed I used to get a contact high, which I found distressing. Second hand smoke from weed is potent to bystanders. And I utterly stank. I don't do it any more.

YesSirICanNameChange · 24/12/2025 16:28

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🤣🤣🤣 And a merry Christmas to you too!

I thought weed was supposed to make people chill out?

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YesSirICanNameChange · 24/12/2025 16:15

IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 15:57

Yes. It’s interesting to see how the other side live. And to be damn grateful I don’t know anyone like this. Ho ho ho, it’s nearly 4:20 😊

merry spliffmas to you all ✌️

Yeah, the annoying weed culture "merry spliffmas 4:20 blaze it" is even more cringe and annoying than the smell. The smell is a useful excuse to avoid spending time with people whose most interesting personality trait is that they smoke weed.

YesSirICanNameChange · 24/12/2025 16:13

EarlofShrewsbury · 24/12/2025 15:06

Circa 70,000 people are prescribed cannabis in the UK.

It's been legal for medical use since 2018.

A lot of people wrongly think this only means an extract or spray. Actual cannabis flower is prescribed, along with other forms such as value cartridges and pastilles.

It's still illegal to smoke it but a dry herb vape is fine. The smell isn't always coming from someone using it illegally.

Educate yourselves.

Oh and lots of things stink. Incontinent people, people adverse to showering, stinky breath, babies arses, farmers fields, perfume, etc

Just because lots of things stink doesn't mean we have to be ok with an extra thing. There's something specific about weed - you don't have to be close to it to be affected like someone who hasn't showered / brushed their teeth, and you can't close a window to get away from it like a farmers field. It covers everything in sweaty arsecrack garlic smell in such a wide radius.

Whosthetabbynow · 24/12/2025 16:11

Who wants the stink of weed blown all over their turkey dinner?

Somethingneedstochange78 · 24/12/2025 16:10

Weed stinks and can affect some people’s mental health. My ex’s ex he had a daughter with had no mental health issues before. She started on the pot she was seeing a dealer who smoked it to fund his habit. She had psychotic episodes was in and out of the local mental health hospital. SD was constantly palmed off with anyone then end up staying with us for months. that would have her. She was paranoid would go and pick fights with people who had wronged her years before. She was eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 16:08

LlynTegid · 24/12/2025 14:40

I do not think anyone was murdered and no one forced into gangs for the drinks trade. Unlike the drugs trade.

How many women are going to get absused tomorrow by their significant other due to alcohol? I’ve witnessed the destruction from alcohol, it’s disgusting and it robs people. How many mums will switch after having a drink and turn foul? How many alcohol fuelled fights? How many in casualty from alcohol related incidents? How many seeing their last Christmas due to cirrhosis?
and one drink makes you stink.

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SapphireSeptember · 24/12/2025 16:07

Nor should you drive when you've been doing drugs. I hope no one's been excusing that.

SapphireSeptember · 24/12/2025 16:05

I had some cider the other night, (poured into a glass, I hate drinking out of a can or bottle.) And it had zero effect on me. If DS had needed me or in the case of an emergency I'd have been just fine to handle it.

I don't make excuses for drunk drivers. The cunt who was completely wasted, speeding and on the phone who crashed into a car and killed a baby and his aunt, is the kind of person I'd like to see locked up for life. (I don't drive.)

Bloozie · 24/12/2025 15:59

Hate the smell of weed and vaping it still stinks.

But cannabis cookies are ace. Every few months I’ll have an edible. I really struggle to relax and switch my mind off. Weed works. I’m not really bothered if it makes me boring, I don’t do it to be social.

And yes, it’s mad that alcohol is legal and weed isn’t. Legalising it would remove many concerns people have about crime.

The thing I hate most about weed - crime and exploitation aside - is weed culture. It’s lame as fuck. Seth Rogen… embarrassing.

Chiaseedling · 24/12/2025 15:58

@EarlofShrewsbury- my neighbour allegedly uses weed fir medical reasons. It didn’t smell any less rank. Thankfully he seems to have stopped recently but I was smelling in in our house through the windows. Not acceptable.

Paganpentacle · 24/12/2025 15:58

ohyesido · 24/12/2025 13:41

Weed is catastrophic for mental health long term

So is alcohol….but that’s legal so…

IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 15:57

Moonlightfrog · 24/12/2025 15:22

I agree OP but judging by the ‘what’s in your fridge’ Christmas threads, we will be strongly outnumbered. I don’t drink at all, i hate the issues alcohol causes and how it changes people. I do however have the occasional smoke (probably not Xmas day though).

Yes. It’s interesting to see how the other side live. And to be damn grateful I don’t know anyone like this. Ho ho ho, it’s nearly 4:20 😊

merry spliffmas to you all ✌️

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Chiaseedling · 24/12/2025 15:57

Weed is rank and fucking stinks whether you have one toke or the whole joint. Same as a cigarette imho.
Having a couple of drinks to be sociable - great. Getting plastered and violent - not good.

For full disclosure I used to smoke some weed in the 90s but it’s a different beast now. And I also don’t drink for health reasons, although I would if I could (was getting a more rare occurrence in meno times anyway.).

Zebedee999 · 24/12/2025 15:54

MO0N · 24/12/2025 14:57

https://curaleafclinic.com/
Are you saying that companies like this one employ Vietnamese children?

Where do you think OP is getting their drugs? It'll be a long supply chain with criminality, violence and many deaths at its core. Often those deaths are innocent bystanders including children in the UK.

All so OP and other similar types can have a bit of weed etc? Zero moral compass some people.

owlpassport · 24/12/2025 15:52

EarlofShrewsbury · 24/12/2025 15:06

Circa 70,000 people are prescribed cannabis in the UK.

It's been legal for medical use since 2018.

A lot of people wrongly think this only means an extract or spray. Actual cannabis flower is prescribed, along with other forms such as value cartridges and pastilles.

It's still illegal to smoke it but a dry herb vape is fine. The smell isn't always coming from someone using it illegally.

Educate yourselves.

Oh and lots of things stink. Incontinent people, people adverse to showering, stinky breath, babies arses, farmers fields, perfume, etc

There is limited evidence of any benefit, which is why 99% of those prescriptions are private and not NHS. Heroin is legal for medical use. Doesn't mean I want my brother-in-law shooting up over the turkey.

Rocknrollstar · 24/12/2025 15:50

Sunshineofyourlove · 24/12/2025 13:33

I don't drink and dislike the effect alcohol has on other people. I also hate smoking of any kind. But, starting this afternoon, I will enhance my Christmas with some light, homemade cannabis edibles, which will have no adverse effect on anyone.

But what about the effect on the drug/ Gun trade that cannabis is linked to.

Winterburn · 24/12/2025 15:35

My neighbour smokes weed, it smells fucking vile when I go in the garden, and in summer it would come in through my back bedroom window while I was laid in bed (currently using that bedroom as master is out of use for now). Utterly repulsive.

PurpleSky300 · 24/12/2025 15:25

I think excessive drinking at Christmas has just become a cliche. It's something people say or suggest to seem 'in the spirit' - oh I'll have a Baileys with breakfast, oh it's wine o'clock, I'll have a tipple with this or that. Are they really drinking that much though? In my experience, most people drink largely the same on Christmas Day as they would on any other special occasion. Somebody who uses it as an excuse to drink morning, noon and night just has a problem and is probably like that all year around, it's just not 'acceptable' then.

Moonlightfrog · 24/12/2025 15:22

I agree OP but judging by the ‘what’s in your fridge’ Christmas threads, we will be strongly outnumbered. I don’t drink at all, i hate the issues alcohol causes and how it changes people. I do however have the occasional smoke (probably not Xmas day though).

Millytante · 24/12/2025 15:20

mumofoneAloneandwell · 24/12/2025 13:34

I think that its the smell 😄

Its awful and discriminatory that the smell is associated with classlessness tbh

Someone doing a line or a brownie would be more acceptable, maybe bake brownies (😉) instead??

Mother of God. Classlessness? Scofflaw maybe, if you want to assign a category.
But championing cocaine is the mark of a very poor general analysis. Not only is it the drug I personally abhor above all others, which means nowt, but it’s the product and objective of humanity's most loathsome instincts and imperatives.
Its global trafficking network has made a Hell on Earth for millions of enslaved workers, when it isn’t carrying out turf war massacres and political assassinations.
Closer to home, it makes young men dream of being a cunt like well-known rapist and thug Conor McGregor. 🤬

bloomchamp · 24/12/2025 15:11

ohyesido · 24/12/2025 13:41

Weed is catastrophic for mental health long term

This!!

my nephew had weed psychosis last year. He’s still in a terrible state.