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Socially acceptable Christmas alcohol but weed is not ok?

166 replies

IsThisIt39 · 24/12/2025 13:22

Just that I find it mad that alcohol is socially acceptable especially at Christmas, around kids, morning or middle of the day, all day, all normal. Despite it being a poison, a personality changer, a catalyst for fights, memory loss etc. There’s never been a study to support its use medicinally, with the exception of red wine in moderation.

But it’s not socially acceptable to get a little high on weed? Which does have many studies demonstrating its efficacy in treating a whole host of problems.

It’s mad IMO.

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Blueuggboots · 24/12/2025 22:40

Please, for the love of all things holy, don’t ever let weed become more socially acceptable than it is and preferably less so!!

it stinks, it causes serious mental health issues, stops people making memories and turns people into wasters.
alcohol is a bastard too.

JoannaTheYodelingCowgirl · 24/12/2025 22:39

Mymanyellow · 24/12/2025 22:38

Don’t start in the first place then

Tell that to their teen selves back when they started Hmm

Mymanyellow · 24/12/2025 22:38

Joeninety · 24/12/2025 14:55

I'd agree, but it's not so simple. Once you're hooked, you're really hooked.

Don’t start in the first place then

MeouwKing · 24/12/2025 22:37

I think weed should be available on private prescription for any adult that wants it. That would hit the dealers.

JoannaTheYodelingCowgirl · 24/12/2025 22:33

But i still think it should be made legal so that if people do want to smoke it they get it pure, dont have to go to dodgy dealers or get involved in nasty situations

If that were the case in this country then YANBU

JoannaTheYodelingCowgirl · 24/12/2025 22:31

YABVU

A lot of the parents at the kids primary school are openly weed smokers, some even smoke it by the gates. The stench is fucking awful and the effect its had on their brains is bloody obvious too

MeouwKing · 24/12/2025 22:23

Slightly off-topic, but why does my low E string on my little SQUIER get out of tune so quickly. I had it restrung by my local music shop. The other strings are fine, just the low E.

Dliplop · 24/12/2025 22:22

@owlpassport it’s so funny how different things affect people different ways! Alcohol muddies flavours for me, weed enhances them. Lucky we can each do what works for us.

ChristmasElvie · 24/12/2025 22:22

Teenagers aren’t going missing at Christmas and stabbing each other on the next estate over regarding supply of a nice bottle of local gin to be fair. So there’s always that.

owlpassport · 24/12/2025 22:13

Dliplop · 24/12/2025 21:13

For me tomorrow the point will be day 2 of my period and need to control the cramps and keep going.

Otherwise it lends a nice fuzzy relaxing feeling. Like 1/4 glass of wine. I’m a cheap drunk so if I sip a whole glass of wine I’m on the floor giggling. What’s the point of having alcohol?

The act of sharing a bottle with company. As I said earlier alcohol has a historical link with celebration. The taste. Of the wine itself, but it also enhances the flavour of meats and cheeses. Far more sophisticated to chat over a nice red than to suck on a bit of plastic in the loo. I won't be drinking to get drunk, or even tipsy, tomorrow. I'll have a couple as part of the meal and experience.

Thepeopleversuswork · 24/12/2025 21:30

Both are OK in moderation and used sensibly but massively problematic in excess.

But the reality is one is legal and ubiquitous and the other is illegal and fuelled by crime.

I don’t necessarily think this is fair or reasonable but we are not going to get Great Auntie Betty on the spliff at Christmas.

PollyBell · 24/12/2025 21:14

You mean weed smokers who can barely string two coherent words together, yes it does affect brains same as alcohol

Dliplop · 24/12/2025 21:13

owlpassport · 24/12/2025 15:03

This is not (or should not) be true. 'Anyone' should not be able to get a prescription for anything, medicines should be prescribed purely on the basis of evidence base and need. Not profit.

@Dliplop Of course some houses have alcoholics or binge drinkers or people getting high, but a little puff of my vape (bathroom, open window and fan) isn’t getting me high.

But what's the point..? Drinking a glass of wine at the table with dinner gives me a totally different image to someone standing in the bathroom alone vaping out a window. It's anti-social.

For me tomorrow the point will be day 2 of my period and need to control the cramps and keep going.

Otherwise it lends a nice fuzzy relaxing feeling. Like 1/4 glass of wine. I’m a cheap drunk so if I sip a whole glass of wine I’m on the floor giggling. What’s the point of having alcohol?

Bluejaysforthewin · 24/12/2025 21:11

I will be having a sativa gummie mid morning and glide happily through the day slightly stoned 😊

PurpleSky300 · 24/12/2025 20:03

Winterburn · 24/12/2025 15:35

My neighbour smokes weed, it smells fucking vile when I go in the garden, and in summer it would come in through my back bedroom window while I was laid in bed (currently using that bedroom as master is out of use for now). Utterly repulsive.

Same! Smokes it and I think sells it, from the line of teenagers constantly coming and going from his house. I particularly hate it when I am hanging out washing in the warmer months and then that disgusting smell comes wafting over the fence, ready to soak into your clothes. Urgh.

BauhausOfEliott · 24/12/2025 17:49

If you want to smoke weed at Christmas, you can do that in your own home just like I can have a drink in mine. It doesn’t matter if it’s ‘socially acceptable’ unless you’re doing it in public.

Your comparison is pretty meaningless anyway because you’ve only mentioned the (potential) health benefits of cannabis and none of the many risks associated with it, and in any case the health benefits you mention would likely be cancelled out by negative effects of inhaling smoke into your lungs all the time.

Plus, medical cannabis is only really linked with treating specific conditions - that doesn’t mean it’s beneficial for general health at all, in the same way that paracetamol is beneficial for someone with a fever but has no benefit for a healthy person who has no pain or fever to treat.

You’re also missing out the fact that alcohol is clearly labelled and regulated and its effects are therefore easily predicted, which is not the case with weed.

Alcohol can be bad for you. Weed can also be bad for you. Consuming either in your own home is entirely your choice and nobody’s likely to stop you.

Redwinedaze · 24/12/2025 17:49

There are legal consequences around alcohol such as driving, being in charge of young children.

All day drinking is an extreme example and cannot be absorbed by a bystander.

The criminal gangs behind the weed and vulnerable people it exploits are another factor.

Both have a negative impact on the body and mind in larger quantities and smaller quantities on mental health, plus the content of weed varies and can be highly toxic, it also smells horrendous.

themerchentofvenus · 24/12/2025 16:49

There is nothing worse than sitting in a room and having to have a conversation with anyone that's had a spliff. OMG they are so boring.

At least after a glass of alcohol people are still relatively themselves.

Plus smoking stinks. It's really vile.

My SIL is a long term weed smoker and the paranoia is ridiculous.

setadriftonmemorybliss · 24/12/2025 16:48

I can’t bare the smell of weed. It stinks…

LarkspurLane · 24/12/2025 16:44

MO0N · 24/12/2025 14:47

Cannabis is legal, anyone can get a private prescription for medical cannabis, medical cannabis gets you high just like ordinary cannabis does.
As already pointed out one can use edible cannabis and there is no smell for people to complain about.

I'm not against it being available on prescription. But that to me is a totally different thing to making it socially acceptable.

But when you say anyone can get it, what would I have to do/say to be prescribed it?

ItsFridayIminLoveJS · 24/12/2025 16:42

I so agree op.
Weed destroys less brain cells than alcohol. More people are killed via related alcohol drinkers than weed takers.
I vape weed in a dry herb vape.. not the vapes everyone can buy cheap. But one where it stops the weed from smelling.. it's the best thing for my chronic pain.. l don't even get " high".. just pain free n relaxed.
Alcohol has taken so many people from my life.

Themagicfarawaytreeismyfav · 24/12/2025 16:40

Both are awful and shouldn’t be socially acceptable around children! Drunk people can be aggressive and embarrassing and weed stinks and causes mental illness!

Midgetgemsplease · 24/12/2025 16:40

One is illegal, may or may not lead to mh difficulties and smells completely rank, and imo is for losers (as is alcohol to excess tbh) and the other isn't.

landlordhell · 24/12/2025 16:37

Weed is illegal and stinks.