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To hate Xmas?

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WinoTime · 24/12/2025 09:12

Things I hate about Christmas:
Obligation to cater, host and see family
Enforced jollity
No time alone to just sit and read my book or watch crappy movies

Things I like about Christmas :
Day Drinking

YANBU - Same here - I too am wishing for a cosy space with a tv and a wine fridge to hide away

YABU - shut up you misery guts and appreciate that you have family who want to see you

OP posts:
GrannyTeapot · 24/12/2025 11:10

I would be upset to think any younger relative had me out of “obligation”. I would far rather have a relaxing day at home, however old I am!!!

Miranda65 · 24/12/2025 11:04

YANBU, OP, but you're also allowed to say "no" to things you don't want to do. Try it, and then you'll realise how liberating it is not to conform!

Coffeeishot · 24/12/2025 11:01

WinoTime · 24/12/2025 10:58

Elderly relatives who wold be home alone are the reason we have to.

obligation

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You could minimise it though i get you feel obligated but you can reduce expectations.

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WinoTime · 24/12/2025 10:58

Coffeeishot · 24/12/2025 10:25

You don't have to see any one you can sit and drink till you can't see your book if you want.

Elderly relatives who wold be home alone are the reason we have to.

obligation

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Didimum · 24/12/2025 10:30

Somnambule · 24/12/2025 10:28

Lots of people do have a genuinely shitty time at Christmas, but that doesn't sound like what's going on here - so stop being a misery/martyr.

Agree.

Somnambule · 24/12/2025 10:28

Lots of people do have a genuinely shitty time at Christmas, but that doesn't sound like what's going on here - so stop being a misery/martyr.

MrsSkylerWhite · 24/12/2025 10:26

Coffeeishot · 24/12/2025 10:25

You don't have to see any one you can sit and drink till you can't see your book if you want.

Quite.

Coffeeishot · 24/12/2025 10:25

You don't have to see any one you can sit and drink till you can't see your book if you want.

Sillysoggyspaniel · 24/12/2025 10:21

You're being unreasonable because you don't have to see anyone. We don't go anywhere on Xmas day. We go over to relatives on boxing day instead. Day drinking and books a plenty!