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To have not lied to DS about trans actor in Last Christmas?

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DungOnATwig · 24/12/2025 01:10

Watching above with DD17 (lesbian) and DS11 (straight) earlier today. One scene where a female presenting (long hair + fake eyelashes) but clearly biologically male actor plays a doctor (just Dr). DS says "that......lady sounds like a man".

I said yeah it is a man love. A man who identifies as a sex they are not.

DD paused then typed a wee bit more furiously than usual for 30 secs but then was ok. She knows tbf. She's lesbian and not pan.

It was so distilled down to me at the point of his very innocent (and tentative so as not to offend question) that I am not prepared to lie to my kid about the fucking fundamentals of life and tell them that person is a woman. Fuck that.

Merry Christmas 🍷

Also FUCK THAT FILM 😭😭😭😭😭

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TooMuchStop · 24/12/2025 02:11

PollyBell · 24/12/2025 02:07

So would it be just as offensive to say no different to you having a lesbian daughter? Would that be acceptable? Or do you get to pick and choose on the scale?

Huh?

PollyBell · 24/12/2025 02:07

So would it be just as offensive to say no different to you having a lesbian daughter? Would that be acceptable? Or do you get to pick and choose on the scale?

HeddaGarbled · 24/12/2025 02:03

You’re being disingenuous. “Not lying” would be “A man who identifies as a woman” not ”A man who identifies as a sex they are not”.

I agree on your stance, but don’t pretend you weren’t taking one.

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 24/12/2025 01:58

Well no, you can't say 'don't know what you mean darling', so it has to be - yes that's a man who feels more comfortable presenting himself as a woman.

TooMuchStop · 24/12/2025 01:55

YANBU. He is a man and you were right not to lie to your child. is your son year 6 or year 7? From year 7, he needs to be a bit clued up on trans ideology because it’ll be a topic of conversation in school.

From both of your children’s reactions, I’d be having a chat about trans ideology, how it’s a very separate thing to sexuality, that it’s a homophobic movement, the importance of biology, the harm this is doing to women, children, especially autistic people etc.

Ladyzfactor · 24/12/2025 01:54

It's been probably a whole day without a anti-trans post on this so I guess we got to put up some numbers. Some people have way to much time on their hands to care about other people's lives 🙄

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DungOnATwig · 24/12/2025 01:42

MrsSkylerWhite · 24/12/2025 01:34

Love that film 🤷‍♀️

We were all howling 😭

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DungOnATwig · 24/12/2025 01:42

Ponderingwindow · 24/12/2025 01:34

i prefer a more neutral response that better aligns with my values. That is a man. Men can present themselves however they choose and there is nothing wrong with making non-traditional choices.

If he is confused, follow up with the specifics that men can choose their hair and clothing and even wear makeup.

Yeah he knows who David Bowie is already but thanks 👍

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MrsSkylerWhite · 24/12/2025 01:34

Love that film 🤷‍♀️

Ponderingwindow · 24/12/2025 01:34

i prefer a more neutral response that better aligns with my values. That is a man. Men can present themselves however they choose and there is nothing wrong with making non-traditional choices.

If he is confused, follow up with the specifics that men can choose their hair and clothing and even wear makeup.

GarlicBreadStan · 24/12/2025 01:33

I don't understand why it matters so much to you.

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 24/12/2025 01:26

I don't get it.

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