To refuse to let DD vape?

So why aren’t you reporting the shop?
I agree with you no vaping it stinks.

Hard no, not just because of the health risks of vaping and not wanting that in my house but more that if you make it easy for her to vape, she will vape more. My (grown up) cousin was smoking and assumed her mum didn’t know, so she had to hide it and therefore didn’t smoke as much. My aunt very much knew and said that she couldn’t stop her, but she could stop her doing it as easily and therefore ‘healthier’

No but you are asserting that cannabis is a gateway drug and the evidence really doesn’t support that!

I won't be vaping in my room over Christmas. No one is allowed to vape in my house. I'm ok with the adults in my house having a few drinks over Christmas.

@NortyElf I 100% agree with you on this statement. Also work in substance misuse

Excuse me? I categorically did not say all cannabis users go on to heroin did I?
No. I said I work with drug addicted people who 98% of started on cannabis.

@Nanny0gg absolutely not. Drugs are illegal. They are very much aware of the damage they cause to the people who use them, and those around them.

Drugs absolutely terrify me. Hence my approach to the vaping with my teen (17)

This reminds me of when dd came back from uni after the first year with shit mental health (thanks Covid) and a weed habit. She was an adult so I ‘let’ her smoke in the garden on the weekends only cos she had a weekday 9-5 summer job my dh got for her.
A couple of years down the line - no more weed as it makes her too paranoid.
under 18 I wouldn’t allow vaping/smoking in the house. Wasn’t as fussed on alcohol but obviously sitting in your room w a bottle of vodka would not be tolerated. A cider with a meal would be. Impossible to police what they do out of the house, though.

How was she affording vapes at 14? That’s shocking.

Utter bollocks.

Every heroin user I have ever worked with has used cannabis. Not all cannabis users go into use other drugs.

We have vastly differing standards?

I would not be letting my child vape anywhere at home/garden. I would be confiscating it if I found it. And, I would not be paying pocket money that could be financing it. Vaping/smoking is a hard No.

Vapes are an expensive habit. Where are these teens getting the money ? If it’s allowance money then that should be stopped . Harder if they have a part time job though

Where is she getting the money?

Same procedure for drugs?

@CoastAndSand - make your husband read this

I work with drug addicted people. Cannabis IS the gateway drug, so get off your haughty horse 🐎 why don't you? And talk about something else

Nope. If she wants to vape she can go outside.

How exactly is OP going to force her DD? She is 16! I think that boat sailed 2 years ago.

At 16 I worked and had my own money! I also studied. I bought what I wanted!

Even just passing a cloud of vape in the street from someone makes me gag. No way on earth I'd let anyone vape in my home because I don't want to breathe it in! Or have my home stink of artificial chemically stuff.

The fact that she's 16 and living at home means she has to tow the line.

I think it's really disappointing your husband is so accepting of it that he thinks it's ok to vape in her room. Is he not concerned about her lungs?! 😢 Or your home stinking?

If you don't want your DD to vape in the garden. Where do you want her to do it?

So your underage daughter is illegally vaping for the last two years from the age of 14 and now at 16 she wants to vape in the house?

So, reasons for the hard no from me:
It’s illegal
its unhealthy
I wouldn’t support this behaviour
She is wasting either your money or her own
She has no respect for you if she is asking to do something illegal in your home
You aren’t parenting by letting her do this

They'll just vape elsewhere though if they really want to

I mean, it won't affect the house if she vapes in it. But it leads to chain vaping.. I've stopped vaping the last 6 weeks because I was waking up in the night and realising I was vaping in my sleep! It ends up where it's never out of your hand. At least if she has to go outside it won't be constant

I wouldn't let her vape at all, in the house or out - just as I wouldn't let her smoke or drink.