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Niece is gay - AIBU

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Livpool · 23/12/2025 22:05

My brother has just text to say niece has just come out as a lesbian. I said fab as no woman would choose to be straight. Then checked she wasn’t upset etc. and all happy. He joked she wanted a card to at ‘yay’ and I said I would oblige.

I am out with a friend so mentioned it and she (straight woman FYI) said I am not taking it seriously and need to act like an adult about it.

YABU - she so right, you are being silly and ride
YANBu - you’re friend is ridiculous

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Livpool · 23/12/2025 22:12

Hereforthecommentz · 23/12/2025 22:10

What st does that mean a card to at yay??

Meant she wanted a ‘yay’ I think - I have had a few drinks 🤦🏼‍♀️.

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Wintertime2025 · 23/12/2025 22:11

30 years ago my brother came out as gay and was significant, prejudice was high, impacted job prospects. Now he regularly comments how if it was today it would be a ‘meh’ moment. Of course each is an individual and certain cultures it remains more challenging. If my children are gay it’s ‘meh’ from me and your response is great.

suburberphobe · 23/12/2025 22:10

Who cares?

I have a fab lesbian couple in my apartment building, been together for ever.

40 years and counting.

Better than the criminal next door, the police were around about him 3 days ago

Hereforthecommentz · 23/12/2025 22:10

What st does that mean a card to at yay??

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Livpool · 23/12/2025 22:09

Fatsnowflake · 23/12/2025 22:08

Why does it need to be a big deal anyway? I don’t even think anyone should need to ‘come out’ these days. My daughter just asked if her girlfriend could come over for tea and that was it. Don’t overthink it.

Edited

Completely agree - DB seems shocked at the ‘come out’ rather than anything else. Straight people don’t come out

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Fatsnowflake · 23/12/2025 22:08

Why does it need to be a big deal anyway? I don’t even think anyone should need to ‘come out’ these days. My daughter just asked if her girlfriend could come over for tea and that was it. Don’t overthink it.

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Livpool · 23/12/2025 22:06

Your - sorry no more wine for me 😂

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