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To feel like I don’t like men anymore

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Dogsinsantasuits · 23/12/2025 21:38

Not as in not attracted to them, although I am less bothered these days
It’s almost like i’m coming to a realisation that most (not all) are not great and women are infinitely stronger people.
Is this an age thing-late 40’s? Sad as I used to really like men. Now all I see around me is amazing women with men who aren’t a patch on them or dangerous and/or perverted men in the news.

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ThePoliteLion · 23/12/2025 21:59

Dogsinsantasuits · 23/12/2025 21:52

Is this peri, age or just maturity and seeing the truth? It’s pretty depressing

I think it’s a peri/menopause thing. Occasionally I meet a man who I think is really, really nice. My DH is a good man. My late dad was lovely. But most of the others - nooo thanks

women are often awesome

TheFormidableMrsC · 23/12/2025 21:57

The only men who I knew, now sadly both dead, was my Dad and Brother. Both utterly decent humans. Otherwise, I feel the same.

CrazyGoatLady · 23/12/2025 21:57

Most men seem to be pretty dire. I'm fortunate to have a good (most of the time) DH, but if he was no longer around, I can't see myself bothering with any more of them.

keepingsanity · 23/12/2025 21:55

In fact I’ve just ended a long term relationship for that very reason. Not financially stable, no career drive, no accountability for anything, no retirement plan, struggles with normal life skills like booking a holiday or basics like bills or cooking.

Pavementworrier · 23/12/2025 21:55

I think that in general men and women are designed to complement one another. Strengths and weaknesses.

Pavementworrier · 23/12/2025 21:54

Women are the better sex. Took you long enough to notice.

Plenty of men are nice or interesting or fun though. Just as plenty of women are boring and slow and nippy and selfish.

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Dogsinsantasuits · 23/12/2025 21:53

keepingsanity · 23/12/2025 21:52

This has crossed my mind recently. The women I know are all strong and financially stable and smashing it. They know what they want and go and make it happen. Some (but not all) of the men I know struggle with the basic life skills beyond going to work. An incompetent man is incredibly unattractive to me.

Yes, this is so true, I see it all around me, it feels pathetic

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keepingsanity · 23/12/2025 21:52

This has crossed my mind recently. The women I know are all strong and financially stable and smashing it. They know what they want and go and make it happen. Some (but not all) of the men I know struggle with the basic life skills beyond going to work. An incompetent man is incredibly unattractive to me.

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Dogsinsantasuits · 23/12/2025 21:52

Is this peri, age or just maturity and seeing the truth? It’s pretty depressing

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Dogsinsantasuits · 23/12/2025 21:50

1000StrawberryLolliesandPrincessofLichtenstein · 23/12/2025 21:47

No, I feel exactly the same. Mid 40s

Did you always feel like this or after a certain age?

I adore my Ddad, but even see so many faults in him, the selfishness so many men have, the way mum takes on everything
Nearly all my friends Dh’s aren’t great, my own isn’t
I didn’t see this as much in my twenties or even thirties really

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Dollybantree · 23/12/2025 21:48

I’m married but feel like I don’t really like men either. I love my ds’s but in general I think most men are shits.

1000StrawberryLolliesandPrincessofLichtenstein · 23/12/2025 21:47

No, I feel exactly the same. Mid 40s

VikingLady · 23/12/2025 21:42

I know three who seem great; all are married to friends. I don’t think this is coincidence - the good ones are taken!

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