If men provided those things you said, they'd still be in demand. But they don't. How many men, who aren't violent thugs that enjoy throwing their weight around including with their partner, do you know who have bothered to keep themselves in good physical shape and learn some form of defensive skills eg boxing or judo etc so they could fight off an intruder, a car jacker or someone who wanted to attack you, versus how many would just hide alongside you and call the police? How many men want to take on the back breaking physical work of gardening, bothering to keep it looking properly nice including growing some vegetables? How many men have learned effective DIY skills (not bodgy ones) and apply them in a timely manner to make the home nice and keep it in good repair? If they did these things, as well as respecting us and being kind to us, having a job, being a partner in raising children and carrying some of the mental load, we'd be less fussed about whether they cooked the Sunday roast or cleaned the toilet. Their "natural strengths" aren't obsolete, they could apply them to modern life if they wanted to, but they don't. So many off them act useless, not even bothering to take basic care of themselves and their possessions, bring nothing to the table except being someone to split the bills with and provide sperm for the creation of children - then they wonder why, if a woman isn't wanting children/has already done that bit, she CBA to live with their lazy selfish selves.
I got rid of my last boyfriend because he was so low effort. I'd have been ok with a casual relationship where we were also seeing other people, but he didn't want that. So he made a lot of empty promises that he never followed through on, said he wanted us to live together and get married, be a team etc. Then once he'd duped me into falling in love with him, just stalled and stalled endlessly on everything, played the victim about everything and how it supposedly wasn't his fault.
All he had to do, if he wanted an exclusive relationship with me was:
- be clean and tidy (this part he managed).
- be willing to go somewhere and do something, like on a date, once a month.
- stop offloading onto me endlessly every time something annoyed him (he could literally moan for 2hrs solid some nights!).
- put some thought in then go out and buy me a present, gift wrap it however badly and give it to me on my birthday and at Christmas.
- follow through on his promises and actually move in with me and marry me (a small/basic wedding in a registry office with a few people would have sufficed).
- be a partner once we lived together and do housework, share bills etc (probably would have done this but we never got that far!).
That's it! Nothing spectacular. But he couldn't even be bothered to do those bare basics of making an effort.
He wasn't bad company most of the time or horrible to me or anything like that. Apart from having a tendency to complain a lot about whatever. He was basically nice and we got along well. But all he was bringing to the party was his dick and that's just not enough if he wanted committment from me. So I got fed up and binned him off. Now he goes around with puppy-dog-eyes looking for sympathy and claiming not to know why we broke up. It's ridiculous.
So no, I don't think it's sad for men. I think they are the cause of their own singledom and they can be the fix for that too. But it'll involve them getting up off their arses and actually changing their ways permanently, to become people who take part in the world beyond just having a job and a hobby. The real issue is that an awful lot of men don't actually want a relationship, they just want regular sex 🤷