If you were told your life ended tomorrow

I’ve had a fabulous life.
Would like much more of the same.
what a great question,

yes, i do wish i had some things i did differently eg like the show sliders and different alternative realities. but overall id think fair play.

At 34, my answer would have been no also. But as someone semi retired, yes. You’ve got time to change things.

I’ve had an interesting life but a huge amount of trauma, stress and an incidence of cancer. I think I’d be mightily pissed that I didn’t have longer to enjoy without all of those things, not to mention my young disabled teen to whom I am a lone parent. Fulfilled? Maybe to an extent. I feel I’ve got more to give and experience so I hope I have at least another happy and healthy 30 years.

@Smidge001 thank you
Sorry you have the same
It's complicated, isn't it? I don't feel bad about the decision but I suppose on some level I must do or I would not be typing this!

i've at least made peace with the fact that I am not somebody who can do a big career and caring at the same time. I think I have anyway 🤔

I was actually wondering if there were any books to help out on this. Obviously when it all started in my early 40s, I took the decision because I did not think it would go on this long. It certainly been a bizarre emotional journey.

And being 50 next year feels like too late to start anything - not least because I don't have the enthusiasm. But that's partly to do with the tech technological takeover of everything. The skills that have helped me build a career are rapidly going out of date and I'm not hugely interested in anything that I could make a career out of.

And I do think career is a really big deal. Not for everyone of course. But for me, if I get hit by a bus tomorrow, my regret would be lack of achievement.

I don’t think I’d mind atall. Which is bizarre because I’m happy and healthy. But I do feel I’ve had an amazing life already- very rich. And I’m kind of tired! Interestingly, I wouldn’t mind leaving my DD16 either. Again, love her utterly and she’s wonderful. But I would be gone so wouldn’t miss her, and she’s happy right now with what I imagine is a lovely life ahead….. I guess I’d be happy slipping away with that being the last impression- rather than risk fall outs or seeing her go through tragedies or pain- I would find that very very hard. I guess me dying would be a tragedy but for myself, Selfishly, I wouldn’t need to worry. For her, I’d feel bad going.

my only regret if I died right this minute is I’ve had a very rare argument with DH and we are being frosty with each other as we aren’t in a private place we can talk it through. It would be a real shame to die frosty, when it’s so not how we normally are. 🥴

I kind of like the idea of it being so tragically sad and everyone saying wonderful things about me. For me the saddest thing is the very old person who has outlived every person who knew them when they were young and no one has any recent funny stories or happy memories of them to share.

@EmeraldRoulette wow, your post completely resonates with me (Just replace mum with dad). Hopefully our 50s will bring some life/energy back, and the enthusiasm to create new achievements and experience new things.

Just not sure how to suggest that while existing responsibilities remain.

I would be very worried about the welfare of youngest DC, but I’d be selfishly relieved to know that majority of my problems would die with me.

@LadyMacbethWasFierce I’m so sorry for your loss

When I was facing possible death, the only thought I had was “at least I’ve had a good life”

I think this is how I feel. I’m grateful for all the fun and the laughs. The great sex and the love I experienced. The travelling, the wonderful people I met along the way who changed my path, all of it.

But I don’t see it improving and I think my fun days are over. I’m just glad I had what I had.

I see I'm not the only person with this stuff on my mind tonight

I feel like I packed in a huge amount by age 40. And sometimes I am amazed at how much I packed in.

I'm not particularly sure that the world really suits me any more so I can't say it's a disaster if I go now aged 49

It's difficult because some of this is down to my choice to look after my mum - which to be honest has been going on longer than I expected

So I have to accept that that sacrifice is made and done and I really hope it was the right thing to do 🤷🏻‍♀️ I mean I can't change it now! I do feel I missed out on my 40s somewhat. But then I packed in so much before so maybe that's just the trade-off.

Maybe I wasn't really able to do any more.

Honestly, I'd quite like to talk all of this through with someone but I suppose all you get if someone else's opinion. The question of "did I do the right thing?" Will actually never go away.

so, it's not a disaster if I die tonight, but I guess I wish I'd done more with the last 10 years?

I am so so sorry. That would be my worst nightmare. Wishing you the strength to carry on.

I'd be satisfied tbh. I've done a lot of things I wanted to. Not that there isn't more I want to do.

Would be ecstatic. Thank god that’s over without me taking action.

I circled the drain this year and very nearly died due to a sudden medical emergency and tbh I didn't much care at that point in time. It was just a fleeting oop this might be it for me before I lost consciousness , I wasn't sad or scared or angry or regretful just indifferent really so I'm kind of like does it matter? Does any of it actually matter? Don't get me wrong I'm glad I didn't die but I'm not out frantically doing all of the things I wished I had done iykwim. So I suppose I would have no regerts.

I'd be furious! My life has been blessed in many ways but I'm not ready to go, despite being over 60. I've got lots more to do, particularly in supporting my young adult children.

To be honest, the only reason I wouldn't like it is that my DSs - 18 and 22 - who lost their Mum many years ago, would be left adrift when they're still young, trying to figure out adulting, and look to me for help and, I guess, stability and continuity.

Yea! Definitely! 36, 3 kids, happy marriage, love my job. Have done something epic every year since I was 21, that’ll do me nicely.

I would be sad that I haven’t had a great big love of my life and that I wouldn’t get to see my nieces and nephew grow up but I’ve done a lot of travelling and had a lot of fun along the way so have had a fulfilling life in some ways. It’s also been rough in others (mental health) so part of me would be happy not to struggle on with that.

I definitely would live my life differently if I knew I only had a few years left that’s for sure!

I think I'd feel a bit sad. It's not that I've got a list of things that I'm desperate to do, but there's some things I've promised to do.

I have enjoyed my life. I have enjoyed the ups and grumbled at the downs. I have laughed and cried, had people in my life that I have loved so much.

I have been involved in all sorts of things and I hope I've made a difference.

I’m really sorry for your loss. @LadyMacbethWasFiercex

I am so very sorry for your loss x

Well, I’d liked to have done a few more things before I went, so I’d be slightly pissed off. I’m still on my bucket list, so, hold off tiger!