If you were told your life ended tomorrow

I am early 50s, I wouldn’t be ready to leave the planet just yet! I am a firm believer in an afterlife, so I know I’ll be going to a better place, but don’t want to leave prematurely.

No regrets about my past decisions, not all perfect but I’m content. I still have things I want to learn and improve about myself. I also cannot leave my boys just yet, one has special needs and the other is just starting adult life. DH and u love each other but I think he’s be fine.

I would be sad for my little kids, but also relieved as I don’t enjoy life as a mum and it would mean I could get some sleep.

Ack no, it'd be fine, so long as I have a chance to write instructions for DH to cook the Xmas dinner, which he'd have to have, regardless. Sorry to those with recent losses, my Mum died 15th November 1996, just after buying a 21lb turkey (the two incidents were not related). I'm 66, have had a lot of fun, wonderful memories, and the most exciting thing about my future is seeing the crocus bloom in the spring. So yeah, if I pop off tomorrow, all I can say is 'woohoo, what a glorious ride!'

I wouldn't mind for me as I am confident I would be going to a better place but I think me going now would be extremely traumatic for DH and the DC so for their sake I wouldn't want to go now. There are more things I would like to do but I don't like the sound of getting old and needing personal care/being incontinent etc.

Planning on getting fitter this year and losing weight. I lost 3.5 stone a few years ago and kept it off but I've stayed the same for about 2 years now.

I'm really sorry you feel this way

I would feel relieved.

@LadyMacbethWasFierce I am so sorry. Your post really made me sad. I get it of course. I hope you find some peace x

I’m definitely not fulfilled, my DD is only 4, if I didn’t see at least some of her adult life, I’d be devastated. I’d want to wait until I’m more financially secure also so the burden would be less for my DP who’d be left to bring her up

LadyMacbethWasFierce I'm so sorry. Nothing but admiration for your stance.

I’m in my 50s and I would regret being too cautious. I’ve stayed in jobs I hate for too long. Now I’m starting to think I don’t have unlimited time ahead and I should focus on happiness not planning, and make the most of life. It’s not in my nature though

@LadyMacbethWasFierce I am so sorry.

I’m so sorry

I don't have the words. I'm so sorry.

@LadyMacbethWasFierce
Thank you for coming back and telling us just a little about your lovely daughter. Know that our hearts go out to you. It must still be so horribly raw.

And you did answer the question - she did have a fulfilled life. It's clear from your words just how much you cherish her.
I for one will be heeding carefully what you wrote "And on reflection I think there might be a tiny slice of something important in my answer to the OP’s post - and that’s just to enjoy every day as much as you can"

You and your family will certainly be in my thoughts. I wish you continued strength in the days ahead.

I’d be angry and would feel shortchanged. I’m a single mother and obviously adore my children. But I’m looking forward to one day getting my life back. I just want to live alone. No kids, no pets, not even a potted plant to look after! I’m exhausted.

Isn't there a quotation about this?

"the thing about art is that life is no longer meaningless". No idea who said that but I can totally believe that. It's the kind of passion I wish I had. I think it must be amazing to feel that way about something.

I make art and could do so, and want to do so, forever. For this reason, I'm pissed off that there is an endpoint to life.

Otherwise, I'm rather stoic about it all.

No I haven’t fulfilled enough of my life to leave it yet .
I’ve done may things but I have never felt truly loved … and I would like to experience that .

i have lived a pretty fulfilled life but
..who is going to cook the Christmas dinner 😳

Well at least I wouldn’t have to cook Christmas dinner…

I’d be upset, my life is uncertain with mid stage Parkinson’s, tough, I get by , often with aches and mobility, if I couldn’t cope I’d be glad.
would like to meet my new grand baby in July, who knows what the future holds

I don't think I'd be bothered. I think the effect my death would have on some others would upset me, but for me, yeah whatever...

Thank you for the kindness on this thread. I had hesitated to post for fear of de-railing. But I’m not doing much else at the moment in the evenings but scrolling on my phone (I don’t have the concentration for “proper” reading and can’t watch TV as so much of it is triggering in some way).

And on reflection I think there might be a tiny slice of something important in my answer to the OP’s post - and that’s just to enjoy every day as much as you can. We don’t have as much capital behind us as we might have done (late 50s, decent careers) and we don’t have a whole lot of stuff either or fancy cars, but we had a lovely time and did some fun and cool things and I’m glad DD got to experience all that. She was an extraordinary young woman (an artist and a primary school teacher and full of joy). She had a fulfilled life. Even though it was far far too short.

Blessings to you all. And thank you for your kindness.

I'd be pretty pissed off that my death would ruin Christmas for my friends and family this year and in years to come.

I've lived life pretty well. I'd have liked to go to a few more places.

Nope, and never will feel like that, never fulfilled. Plus I’d be leaving my DD in the middle of a shitstorm for the rest of her life. I’d get the grim reaper by his non skeletal balls. Just me, yeah, don’t be a tease. Leave DD? You’ll tear me away from life kicking and screaming.

Almost happened to me last year. I’m good with it.