If you were told your life ended tomorrow

I don't think either of us have said that?

But we both said that it's hard to figure out what you can achieve in this situation - and certainly my big regret would be lack of achievement.

@Iocanepowder I felt the same when kids were young, it feels like endless drudgery. Then one you get to pop out for 5 mins alone or someone makes their own sandwich and it goes from there. A little bit more freedom every day, a little bit less work and stress. You have so much to look forward to

@EmeraldRouletteand @Smidge001it’s taboo in our society (and rightly so, I suppose) that a lot of people, particularly middle aged people with parents who are well into old age, just wish it was over.

So you’re very much not on your own.

💐

No I would not.
Though others have told me the opposite.
I never achieved some big things I wanted to so no I would not feel I led an accomplished life and likely never will.

I'd be gutted about not seeing DC grow up and worry for their future, but quite happy in terms of what I've done.

Well, I’ve certainly had an interesting and colourful life, although it hasn’t been easy.

I have always wanted to do a lot more travelling, so that would be my main regret.

I’d be ok about moving on to the next life, but not ok about leaving my animals behind.

Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans is very true for me, I know I would have regrets if it were to end tomorrow, why didn’t I travel more, when I was younger I should have fought for the person I was meant to be with.

I wouldn't say I'd lived a fulfilled life, but would quite happily go tomorrow. Can't think of anything I'd be sad I hadn't got around to doing. No interest in 'bucket list' activities like travelling, skydiving, running a marathon etc. no kids I'd be missing out on watching grow up.

I would be sad, and especially would be devastated to leave my kids before they are adults (youngest is 16). But I would feel lucky that I have lived a fulfilled and happy life.

In reply to your post yesterday when asked 'If your life ended tomorrow'.
You sound like a good person and I know that because you care deeply about your animals. I care about mine and would miss them the most if my life ended and I would worry myself sick that nobody would be able to love them the way that I do.
Also, I doubt there is any afterlife but it doesn't stop me from wishing I could see my dear mum and dad again and dearest friend passed away in covid times.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and all the best to you and your animals for 2026.

I'm a bit shocked and sad at how many posters feel unbothered or that it would be a relief. Huge sympathy for those who are bereaved or have received a grim prognosis.

I'm in my 50s and definitely not ready to go! I generally have a nice life, am happily married and have enjoyed parenthood. I'd be devastated not to see my dc (20 and 17) through the next few stages of their lives and hopefully see them settled into careers and happy adult lives.

I have done everything I set out to do but am not ready to go at 48. I have young adult DC and want to see them settled and after 30 years (so far) slogging it in the NHS I want to see how retirement feels and have the freedom of that to do what I want when I want.

"Egrets, I've had a few, but then a gain too few to mention". :)

No. I am sad that only one of my children seems financially secure (and that's because she works her arse off at 2 jobs), and that none of them have happy fulfilling relationships. I am sad that, due to family illness, I never got to do all the travelling I wanted to do. Now, I am at an age where friends and family are dying, and I don't know how much tine I have left, and how long my health will allow me to have any adventures, even if I were in a position to do it. So yes, I would have lots of regrets.

Indeed, and there have been some lovely small funerals. It's more the generic nature, the lack of interest and the desire to get gone as soon as it's over.

What I mean to say you can tell the ones where people are grieving even if there's no outward sign. Where care and love has been put into everything from choice of design of the order of service (yesterdays was lovely and you got a real sense of the lady that had died from the numerous photos in it) to the music, flowers picked (or even not), that some of the family who aren't that well still come. But you get the sense that some would have preferred a direct cremation and are doing the funeral as an image thing.

My father is dying. He is v much loved, but wants a v small funeral as he feels this would be easier for the family. And our family are all stoic and practical by nature, therefore unlikely to be overly emotional at the service. We all grieve differently

I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. 💔

Normally I would feel aggrieved but I’ve had the ‘Flu for a week and I’d probably just accept it if I had to slip away quietly later on tonight.

As a complete NON believer in the afterlife at the age of 18 - I’ve now had so many different signs from so many different loved ones who have passed that I now 100 % believe in the afterlife! If this helps

I’m so sorry @Mikart

@MissFritton65so sorry to hear about your dh. That's really tough. @LadyMacbethWasFierce I can't even imagine - I do know gridf though and just keep going..An hour at a time.

Ah this resonates so much...I lost ds 25 a year ago. Nobody understands the pain you feel. I'm determined not to be defined by it but it is so hard. Much love to you.

I'd be pissed off as I have a sizeable pension to spend! Certainly wouldn't be relieved. I have lots of plans at 66.

Really sad to see how many of us would be relieved.

Would be a blessed relief if I’m honest. For me but I know those left behind would be devastated.

@LadyMacbethWasFierce my heart goes out to you.