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to be panicking vasectomy reversal didn’t work today…

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 21:07

DG had a reversal today after having a V 12 years ago
I hsxe no children and after a lot of talking over the last few years we decided to try this route as all my fertility testing was good

Surgeon said it was an easy reconnection but the semen was thick and cloudy - possibly due to the length of time

Everywhere I have read says that this indicates a blockage higher up and a more advanced type of reversal is needed

I did put this to him but he shut me down and said it doesn’t always indicate this and those types of reversals are nowhere near as effective so this was the best option

Feel like my DH has possibly been through an ordeal for nothing aside from being £5000 worse off 😢

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TheCountessAtChristmas · 23/12/2025 22:43

12 years is a long time for a reversal! However its only day 1 and you will need to.wait and see what happens next!

Sonolanona · 23/12/2025 22:41

My DH had a reversal for reasons I won't go into, only 2 years after his vasectomy. Sadly for us ( I was still very fertile) it didn't work. Hopefully it will for you, but I think you have to be realistic and just wait and see.

AntonDeck · 23/12/2025 22:35

calminggreen · 23/12/2025 22:35

Why did you wait this long for a reversal? Statistics are well known that reversal success rates is lower depending on how since original procedure

This. How old are you OP? I'd prepare for it not to work due to the length of time.

calminggreen · 23/12/2025 22:35

Why did you wait this long for a reversal? Statistics are well known that reversal success rates is lower depending on how since original procedure

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 22:18

I

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 21:40

Poms · 23/12/2025 21:29

Kindly, why do you think you know better than the doctor, simply because you have done a bit of googling?

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Point taken
The lack of communication took me by surprise I guess so I panicked

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Poms · 23/12/2025 21:29

WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 21:07

DG had a reversal today after having a V 12 years ago
I hsxe no children and after a lot of talking over the last few years we decided to try this route as all my fertility testing was good

Surgeon said it was an easy reconnection but the semen was thick and cloudy - possibly due to the length of time

Everywhere I have read says that this indicates a blockage higher up and a more advanced type of reversal is needed

I did put this to him but he shut me down and said it doesn’t always indicate this and those types of reversals are nowhere near as effective so this was the best option

Feel like my DH has possibly been through an ordeal for nothing aside from being £5000 worse off 😢

Kindly, why do you think you know better than the doctor, simply because you have done a bit of googling?

Namechanged47 · 23/12/2025 21:27

Well, yes, pretty unreasonable. It's been 12 years, so you've been with him for ages and knew he'd had a vasectomy, and it's easy to find out that the success of reversal is pretty variable and decreases somewhat with time.

Also unreasonable because if surgery happened today, you've given it zero time to find out whether it has in fact worked, and the surgeon is likely to have considerably more professional experience to draw on and likely did have a reason for the decision, even if he didn't manage to successfully communicate it to you.

It's very sad for those involved, but neither reversals nor IVF nor any other fertility treatments are guaranteed. But you can't tell anything at all on the day of the surgery, so try to be patient and see what happens over the next few months.

Arlanymor · 23/12/2025 21:26

DG?

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 21:25

Sorry should say DH

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 21:25

I found him very dismissive so just feeling low I guess

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PineappleGrape · 23/12/2025 21:24

What’s DG. Grandad?

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 21:24

Sillysoggyspaniel · 23/12/2025 21:18

This was always the risk. Reversals work sometimes but by no means always. And even if it does work, it doesn't mean it will be easy to get and stay pregnant. It's going to be a potentially long road but one step at a time.

The surgeon seemed positive but I don’t know why and just said he had cleaned it out and hopefully it will now flow easier??

And I don’t know why he didn’t want to attempt the other way aside from it taking longer I guess

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Sillysoggyspaniel · 23/12/2025 21:18

This was always the risk. Reversals work sometimes but by no means always. And even if it does work, it doesn't mean it will be easy to get and stay pregnant. It's going to be a potentially long road but one step at a time.

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