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to be panicking vasectomy reversal didn’t work today…

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 21:07

DG had a reversal today after having a V 12 years ago
I hsxe no children and after a lot of talking over the last few years we decided to try this route as all my fertility testing was good

Surgeon said it was an easy reconnection but the semen was thick and cloudy - possibly due to the length of time

Everywhere I have read says that this indicates a blockage higher up and a more advanced type of reversal is needed

I did put this to him but he shut me down and said it doesn’t always indicate this and those types of reversals are nowhere near as effective so this was the best option

Feel like my DH has possibly been through an ordeal for nothing aside from being £5000 worse off 😢

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BettysRoasties · 24/12/2025 19:18

I mean if I’d paid a surgeon 5k and then he went yeah no not likely I’d be pissed so obviously he will be optimistic.

However there is no promises which is why it’s supposed to be seen as a permanent contraction choice. Unless a sudden last chance saloon I assume you’re the step mother.

Will you be willing for ivf if this fails? Are babies a make or break for you?

remarkablecauliflower · 24/12/2025 19:13

Yes it doesn’t always work, but OP I wanted to let you know that my (now ex) DP’s did, after 16 years. Good luck

PineappleGrape · 24/12/2025 18:56

UneAnneeSansLumiere · 24/12/2025 12:29

Sure, but the context immediately makes it clear that that couldn't possibly be the case! Plus 'G' is next to 'H' on the keyboard, so it is obvious how the mistake came about. I thought the poster who asked was being stupid.

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Gave the post an interesting new perspective, huh?

FestivelyFatTits · 24/12/2025 16:41

Of course the surgeon will feel optimistic. You’ve paid him 5k🤣

vasectomies are done with the view of ‘it’s permanent so be sure’ reversals don’t always work.

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WorriedWilma0 · 24/12/2025 16:08

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WorriedWilma0 · 24/12/2025 14:55

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Yes 2 of 12 and 14

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AntiHop · 24/12/2025 13:55

How old is he? Does he have other children?

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WorriedWilma0 · 24/12/2025 13:52

Surgeon said very little scar tissue and an easy re join

It was merely this talk about the thick semen that panicked me as everywhere I’ve read says this indicates a blockage higher up so the surgery is doomed to fail

I shouldn’t have googled to start with as would be in ignorant bliss now!

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UneAnneeSansLumiere · 24/12/2025 12:29

gamerchick · 24/12/2025 12:20

Tbf my brain went to Grandad. But obviously it means something else.

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Sure, but the context immediately makes it clear that that couldn't possibly be the case! Plus 'G' is next to 'H' on the keyboard, so it is obvious how the mistake came about. I thought the poster who asked was being stupid.

Alwayslurkingsometimesposting · 24/12/2025 12:24

Don't worry OP, I'm sure you're not out of options if it doesn't work- isn't it still possible to do IVF after a vasectomy? I would feel encouraged if I was you that the surgeon was so positive

FannyUncanny · 24/12/2025 12:22

PineappleGrape · 23/12/2025 21:24

What’s DG. Grandad?

😂

gamerchick · 24/12/2025 12:20

UneAnneeSansLumiere · 24/12/2025 12:15

You really had to ask that?

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Tbf my brain went to Grandad. But obviously it means something else.

gamerchick · 24/12/2025 12:19

Husband got both reconnected around the same length of time after his and they didn't work. Scar tissue or something.

Reversals are easier the closer to the time it was done apparently. I probably wouldn't get hopes up 12 years in but you never know.

Id probably look into other ways of getting pregnant but in the meantime, just wait and see.

UneAnneeSansLumiere · 24/12/2025 12:15

PineappleGrape · 23/12/2025 21:24

What’s DG. Grandad?

You really had to ask that?

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WorriedWilma0 · 24/12/2025 12:13

I know I need to just see what happens
I’m rubbish with the unknown!
Thanks ☺️

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NewGoldFox · 24/12/2025 10:12

I can understand you’re feeling anxious about it all but give it a couple of months 🙂 have fun in the mean time!

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WorriedWilma0 · 24/12/2025 10:11

Thank you for all the replies xx

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IsItSnowing · 24/12/2025 09:48

Surgeons can be a bit dismissive when you imply you know more than them about their specialty. I don't think you can read much into that.
Since you've done your research you'll know that this might work, might not. There are no gurantees. The surgeon said it went ok. Go with that for now and hope for the best.

KiwiFall · 24/12/2025 09:21

Maybe it worked and maybe not. I understand you have got your hopes up but the surgeon obviously felt it was worthwhile trying. I assume he said beforehand there’s no guarantee and gave statistics? As frustrating as it is you will just have to wait and see.

Didimum · 24/12/2025 09:09

Stop googling, OP. Sorry, but you need to gain some acceptance here rather than allow your anxiety to drive you (and eventually your relationship) into the ground. You chose to marry a man who’d had a vasectomy – it is what it is. Reversal may or may not work, regardless of how much you spend and how much googling you do. You can’t control the outcome, as distressing as that is. Stop expending energy in trying to and start putting that energy into your own mental wellbeing.

Toddlerteaplease · 24/12/2025 09:02

You are paying the surgeon for his years of training and expertise. He’s used his clinical judgment, which trumps your five minutes on Google.

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WorriedWilma0 · 24/12/2025 08:58

Maybe I shouldn’t have felt so optimistic byt the surgeon really seemed hopeful both before and after which threw me

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Sonolanona · 23/12/2025 23:22

It just didn't.. and our youngest was only a few years old when it was reversed so DH had been very fertile til then.

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 22:59

The surgeon didn’t seem fazed at all at the 12 years because he has proven fertility and is still young

I am just a bit taken aback that everywhere online says thick semen indicates a higher blockage however he completely shut me down and said this isn’t always the case

I know I need to wait but it’s a lot of money which we saved for a long time for - hence the wait

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WorriedWilma0 · 23/12/2025 22:57

Sonolanona · 23/12/2025 22:41

My DH had a reversal for reasons I won't go into, only 2 years after his vasectomy. Sadly for us ( I was still very fertile) it didn't work. Hopefully it will for you, but I think you have to be realistic and just wait and see.

Did they tell you why it didn’t work?
I’m sorry x

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