To have to do an ‘Emma Thompson’ this Christmas?

DS 10 is having treatment for cancer, last chemo a couple of weeks ago so was looking forward to him having a break and feeling a bit better over Christmas. We are back on the ward as he's spiked a fever and seems to have some sort of infection. My younger two are at home with my husband. I'm trying to keep upbeat about how good the doctors are at getting things sorted and how nice everything is I'm here. I just want to cry.

And shit though this is, it's nothing to what some of you have posted. I'm so sorry for what everyone else is going through, wishing you all the strength to keep going through what you have to.

OP - you are really amazing remember you are loved. I was reading this thread before I went shopping and I've been thinking about you all going through so much and how strong you all are putting on a brave face and doing an 'Emma Thompson' - I'm going to flick that switch and put on my big pants too.

I'm actually heart-broken, my adult daughter felt out with me 6 months ago and I've been cancelled, even though I have tried to reach out to her a few times, even when my brother was in hospital and my Father very unwell with cancer, she has not replied. It makes me feel soooooo unloved. My own mother has been difficult, but I have stood by her as appreciate she has a lot on her plate.

We all seem to be dealing with so much....I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you all and wishing peace and happiness.

Lets all hope that things will get better for us all and atleast we can find the strength to look forward and find joy.

This is awful. I am so sorry. Well now you know not to put yourself out too much for her in future and concentrate on your child xx

I and my husband (i suspect my adult children too) did it when my husband was ill and being treated for Cancer,i still do it now (high days and holidays including Christmas) since my husband death 5 yrs ago.
It doesnt get easier with time and grief can break through the mask at any time even now.
I don't regret doing it though (i promised my husband id make the bloody best of things and i try)
I know the bereaved,divorced,heartbroken,ill or loved one ill all do it.
Having some downtime to decompress does help.
Those with ordinary life difficulties do it too.
The brave face is tough but has benefits too.
Happy Christmas Xx

Another cancer one here. Feeling reasonably cheerful - it’s probably worse for those around me.

Sending all the best thoughts to the others on this thread and out there in the world.

Thankyou, the worst part is ive been here before! He was supposed to be my happy ever after after a shitty first marriage ended with that one cheating on me and leaving when our youngest was 1. He was dad to my 2 from that marriage.

45, heading to my 2nd divorce seemingly. Ive done it before I can do it again, I just dont want to have to, I love him so much still.

Thankyou. What a lovely kind empathetic post. 😊

To the other posters except the stupid one you know who you are E.T.
big hugs to you all. Christmas is not always good for people and it highlights the problems you are facing when others are all excited and your suffering inside. just about holding it together. So sorry life is shit and cancer is fucking awful and grief. Really wish I could tell Christmas to jog on it’s not always a good time for some of us.

Op sorry to hear that you can post here until then if you need to. you will get through this it will take time but you will it’s hard when you’re already suffering then something else is happening you think seriously wtaf. Big hugs you’re a great mum and daughter not worrying anyone else while you go through this shit storm.

Sending you all a big hug. You are all incredibly strong (and I would crumble at a lot less) x

For the sake of everyone here who is struggling, please go away.

Find the attention you're in desperate need of on a different thread.

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Hi op please tell someone you trust you need to vent. I hope he’s not cheating on you he has been really Selfish you need to cry even if it’s When your dc is in bed otherwise you will explode.

F.o.c.u.s!

I really really hope you can find somewhere to live. Hugs.

My wonderful Grandad died holding my hand earlier this year. He was like a father to me.
My Dad will be with us for Christmas and he has mental health problems.
I was diagnosed with autism this year and my husband has said some very cruel things about it.
I am waiting for treatment for PTSD from a horrific accident which nearly killed me and still causes me pain and limited mobility.
My Mum died 5 years ago today.
I need spinal surgery but may end up having to go private which will massively eat into the house deposit we have been saving up, and limit our choices. We are cramped in a tiny 2 up 2 down with three kids and desperate to move.

Sending love to all the posters I mean 💐

If I could I'd run off rather than face the next two days. Long story but ds2,3 and df are estranged from ds1. They can't forgive him for something and are nc. Only ds2 is home this year, but hes been very much "its your house hes your son, I will try and be civil but I wont talk to him" but he can be volatile so a blow up is not out of the question.So rather than him being alone again for Christmas ds1 is coming here. Ds 3 and dd have said they wont do a video call opening presents if hes there but they understand and still love us. Dh is saying I don't want their presents and hes angry that we are the ones who suffer. My blood pressure is actually sky high. But, I will plaster on.a smile, try not to cry(I am now) and not have a heart attack.
For all those who are having it tough.💜

So minor compared to some of there on here, but just so so down entering my 36th year childless. Finally managed to get pregnant this year and had a traumatic loss- dreading my due date 😔
Seems every female within 10 km of me is pregnant or just had a baby. It’s not how I imagined my life and I feel very sad.

Appreciate the space to be honest about it. Much love to everyone having a shit time 💐

This was me 2.5 years ago. I promise you it gets better. I know it sucks that the only thing that heals is time - but just keep going one day at a time. One day you'll wake up and it won't be so bad x

Sending all the posters of here lots of love and strength . I have had a few years of ET moment Christmas’s and especially resonate with you @FacingTheEndbut I am a few years on now and although life is different To before, it is now firmly in the past and life has moved on to more happier times .

💕💐 to all of you you are all truly amazing ladies and I wish for happier times for you all going forward x

Thank you for your suggestions. There are suspicions he may be ND. Which has literally come out of the blue as there were no suggestions until the outbursts started, so it’s also alot to deal with when your child is a teenager and there were no signs or a single comment by school. It’s just mentally a lot to spin our heads around. The CAMHS waiting list is 3 years.
GP has already done the right to choose referral for us which is about 18 months.. that’s the best we can do.

Are you for real? The posters here are talking about the death of a child, a husband, marriages ending, job loss, life threatening fucking illness and you're banging on about some actress??
I'm Emma T'ing this Christmas because people are fucking awful and can't read a room, fuck sakes.

Once again going through another fake Xmas . Ex had a history of ruining Xmas for me. Taints any happy memories. Everyone thinks I should be over it by now so I put on a good face and wait for Jan 2nd when it's all over .
Estranged from my siblings and with such a small family means I have no one that can mourn the loss of my parents.
While nobody wishes any harm to anyone knowing that other woman are struggling and yet still coping making Xmas for DCs means I will like Emma retreat to the bathroom at least once , cry and then wash my face and carry on.

Emma Thompson said she was relating that scene to her own life when she discovered her husband Kenneth Branagh was having an affair with Helena Bonham Carter who was her friend .