Uninvited guests. People expecting to be invited into your home unnanou

If now wasn’t convenient I would tell them that. No-one I know is that rude though. It’s selfish to not sort out a mutually convenient time.

And they turned up this morning, just as FIL had arrived, I’m busy in the kitchen trying to sort dinner and the kids were knee deep in wrapping paper and accusingly told us that they had tried to come yesterday but we weren’t in 🤷🏻‍♀️ No, because we have two young children and surprisingly took them out on Christmas Eve as we weren’t aware that it was a convenient time for you to pop round 🤷🏻‍♀️😤

I’ll have hosted some kind of Christmas thing for 40 odd people by the end of Boxing Day so no, not really.

😂😂😂

Oh, you are the one who comes up unannounced, not the one hosting. Suddenly makes so much more sense 😂

I’m sorry that you don’t have anyone in your life that you’re happy to see at unexpected moments. That must really suck.

Generally I don’t like unexpected visitors. I think it’s downright rude to turn up at anyone’s house and expect to come in without checking it’s ok first. I really don’t get much time to myself, and I value the occasional half hour I get with a book or trashy TV in peace more than I can say!

If it was my parents, sibling, or my PILs, I’d let them in. They can take us as they find us and if I was busy then I’d carry on around them and they could make themselves a cuppa! Even they tend to text or ring first though, because they’re considerate people!

Anyone else, no. Sod off, text me first. I am one of those people that ignores the door because I have a Ring camera and can see if it’s a delivery or an uninvited ‘popper inner’!!

Work day was an example of why it's rude and inconvenient to come unannounced. How do you even know what hours people are working anyway?

It's not up to the unwanted guest to decide their poor victim has time to put the kettle on 😂

It's bloody rude to expect people to have to drop everything to entertain you

If I knew them I'd open wine

I‘m not at all busy now, I’m drinking wine and awaiting the delivery of the traditional Christmas Eve take away, I won’t be busy until I go back to work in 3 weeks.
The question wasn’t during work hours anyway was it? It was how do you feel about people popping in unannounced and my initial answer was to said that if it was Christmas I’d probably offer them wine. you’re the one that’s focussed on the work day - there are plenty of other hours in the day - more than enough time to put the kettle on.

you dont' seem to be right now 😂

You can't be that busy either if you have all the time in the world to host random people popping in during working hours. Would they come and visit if you were in the office? I bet they wouldn't , so what's the difference

If you are working from home then that is different and your dc won’t be there will they.

🤣

Get over yourself.

We’re all busy!

A few things: 1) tell them now isn’t a good time so next time they should check before arriving; 2) start to put on a coat and say you’re heading out so next time check before arriving; 3) answer the door on a mobile phone and say now isn’t a good time so check before arriving; 4) simply don’t answer the door; 5) answer the door and be grumpy since they can’t get the message any other way; 6) answer the door in a towel and make it really awkward.

What are you on about?

I am not a toddler, I am not asking for permission to make myself a drink 😂😂my company are fully supportive of me making a drink 🤣 fantastic if you need their support, well done to them, but I am BUSY! When I have back to back meetings and I need to take a break around 3:30 when my kids come back from school, no I don't go faffing in the kitchen.

You might have a very little cosy little job, with the ancient mindset of going on endless tearounds in the office that has followed you at home but putting the kettle on is so low on my list of priorities in life 😂I don't need to make bloody tea in the morning when I am working. Or simply I am in the middle of a call and I am not putting someone on hold for no reason. Because I don't want to.

The point being, if I don't take a break because I am, again, BUSY, I really don't have time to waste to entertain some bored idiot who comes unannounced because they need a handhold to entertain themselves 😂

Or I have decided to take a break and pop to the gym or go for a run at lunch, and I have no interest in changing my plans either.

I don't know if you are ridiculous or not, but you are ridiculously entitled if you expect others to drop everything for you😂

Are you working from home tomorrow? Is your hairdresser or your child’s teachers working on Christmas Day ?

I’ve worked from home for the last 5 years, my company are fully supportive of me making a drink 🤣

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous.

I have no problem if someone texts me and asks to pop round in 10 minutes - that fine and I can either say yay or nay depending on when I’m doing, but I don’t like people showing up unannounced. Then the choice is taken away unless away to a large extent.

I know it was a typo but it’s making me giggle at the thought of your poor invited guests being greeted with dismay as they arrive completely expectedly

Ten minutes ago I'd be a bit miffed ( great word , haven't said it in years ) but would invite them in .
Now , they can piss off as I've just put my dressing gown on !

I'm so sorry. 💐

when you turn up unannounced, you are not "checking", you are imposing.

You check by sending a quick text or Whatsapp. Or you try to call if you really can't get round writing 2 sentences on your phone.

First of all they couldn't be expecting to be let in as I wouldn't turn up unannounced at someone's house so they wouldn't do it to me.

If they did come it would be just to chat on the doorstep.

If they wanted to come round and stay then they need to ask and give plenty of notice.

I have no problem with people dropping in, but you take me and the house as you find us and, if it's a bad time and I'm going out or something, we say a quick hello and walk out the door together. But then I like company and was brought up in a house where this wasn't an unusual occurrence. Not sure how you'd go about learning to love it? I guess you might be able to change your mindset to accept it occasionally?

It depends who it was. If it was friend or family of course I would invite them in.

If you're actually working then you say that and send them away.

They are checking. When they knock. If it's not convenient that's fine.