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AIBU to think this is quite strange?!

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BengalBangle · 23/12/2025 16:16

For context, I'm Autistic, so had a lifetime of being the strange one, but wanted to check this out to see if IABU...

Most boring story in the world ever, my Mum who is not my Mum (friend who is 25 years older than me, whom I became a '2nd daughter to' because she lost her adult daughter and I lost my Mother at around the same time) sent me as a Christmas present slippers I sent her 3 years ago!

They were bloody lovely, expensive slippers and I'm not upset she didn't use them (some long story about them not feeling right), but what is the logic in sending them back to me?!

Asking as, am I'm wondering whether it's my Autistic brain, or is this weird?!

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BengalBangle · 23/12/2025 16:45

BengalBangle · 23/12/2025 16:16

For context, I'm Autistic, so had a lifetime of being the strange one, but wanted to check this out to see if IABU...

Most boring story in the world ever, my Mum who is not my Mum (friend who is 25 years older than me, whom I became a '2nd daughter to' because she lost her adult daughter and I lost my Mother at around the same time) sent me as a Christmas present slippers I sent her 3 years ago!

They were bloody lovely, expensive slippers and I'm not upset she didn't use them (some long story about them not feeling right), but what is the logic in sending them back to me?!

Asking as, am I'm wondering whether it's my Autistic brain, or is this weird?!

I sent them to her 3 years ago. She'd asked for the same brand and style as mine, which are very expensive and recommended for people with our foot conditions.
I don't care about her not wearing them. I care about her telling me 3 years later that they did not work and they are my Christmas present.

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Gettingbysomehow · 23/12/2025 16:24

My daughter in law did this, I felt very pissed off. I spent £100 on the gift and would much rather she had sent them back straight after xmas so I could get a refund and give her the money. As it is I wasted £100.
What is the point in doing that three years later - you can't return them. She would have been better off regifting to someone else or giving them to a charity shop. I'd only want them back if they were unworn and we were the same size.
I think it's pretty rude.

Thepeopleversuswork · 23/12/2025 16:24

I assume she’s just forgotten that you gave them to her in the first place?

BillieWiper · 23/12/2025 16:23

Thirstygherkin · 23/12/2025 16:20

No she’s not regifted

she has told the op they don’t work for her so she’s sent them back.

She has probably she just come across them after putting them in a cupboard!

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Ah ok. So that's kind of fair enough I suppose. If there was a chance OP might like them. It would have been better to include a receipt then she could've just returned it to the shop sooner. But it's not as bad as regifting it.

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 23/12/2025 16:21

Maybe she thinks that you really liked them and would want to have them yourself rather than her donate them to a charity shop or whatever. But even so, it is still odd to give them back to you as a present.

CutePixieGirl · 23/12/2025 16:20

I reckon she has forgotten who originally gifted them to her.

If you like them, be happy about it and enjoy them!

Thirstygherkin · 23/12/2025 16:20

BillieWiper · 23/12/2025 16:19

It is rather embarrassing for her. She must have forgotten it was you who gifted them in the first place. Unless you discussed the fact they didn't feel right and you expressed interest in having them instead?

If they're nice and comfy then I guess no harm done. But yeah, it's not normal to do that. It's considered a massive social faux pas.

No she’s not regifted

she has told the op they don’t work for her so she’s sent them back.

She has probably she just come across them after putting them in a cupboard!

TinselTitts · 23/12/2025 16:19

She probably just forgot who bought them for her 🤷‍♂️

BillieWiper · 23/12/2025 16:19

It is rather embarrassing for her. She must have forgotten it was you who gifted them in the first place. Unless you discussed the fact they didn't feel right and you expressed interest in having them instead?

If they're nice and comfy then I guess no harm done. But yeah, it's not normal to do that. It's considered a massive social faux pas.

Thirstygherkin · 23/12/2025 16:19

Wait so she’s not regifted

She has said that they weren’t right for her. Clearly she’s doing a sort out and just come across them for the first time in ages

Rattai · 23/12/2025 16:18

She must have forgotten where they came from surely?

Thirstygherkin · 23/12/2025 16:18

Have they been worn? Still got labels attached?