To not want DD to go out to a club/nightclub on Christmas Day?

Boxing Day was the day for us, always a big rave !!

Let her crack on - what can you do at this point. In the meantime, you can enjoy your day without a stroppy teenager/kidult around ruining the atmosphere. Pour yourself a drink and practice some radical acceptance - teens are meant to try their parents, it's the life stage they're in. She may look back on what she did today at some stage and feel a bit ashamed, but clearly at the moment she's all about her peer group and your protests are only likely to drive more of a wedge between you. Speak to her about it later when the dust has settled, calmly.

Enjoy a more peaceful, teenage strop free few hours in the meantime!

If you carry on like this, you’ll likely never spend Christmas with her again. I understand it’s hard but she’s 18. You have to let go. She’s an adult. Asking her to justify and prove that the club is open is just going to push her away.

As I have already said, the OP is quite within her rights to refuse to be a taxi service. What is is not within her rights to do is to insist that her daughter stays at home until she is given permission to go out. And yes, I think the OP is overrreacting.

the days of wanting to go clubbing and spending Christmas with your friends are short. Let her go with good grace.

Very little is open, most pubs close at 2pm on Christmas Day. There are clubs but nothing early evening here

Really?
He's offered the OP up to pick up their joint kid because she wouldn't pre-book a taxi. He won't do it himself because he won't be able to have a beverage then but it's ok because good ol' mum will traipse around 🙄 just no....

Read the fucking thread lol she's gone out already today. The daughter has fucked off without a bye or leave to her DM and she wasn't going to go out until 2pm.... There's nothing in at the venue shes supposedly going to, not a publicly advertised gig anyway.... She has a shitty 18 year old attitude

Let her go . If she forced to stay in she will sulk or retreat to her room . She is 18 an adult let her make her own choices.

The good ol' days 😁🤪😍

I assume she’s spending Christmas Day with you? Let her go out and have some fun with her friends Christmas evening

After harassing her for days demanding that she justifies her plans, provides evidence FGS etc - I’m not remotely surprised she’s escaped.

I hope she has a great day.

I hope you try to have a good day too and find the grace within you and Christmas spirit to welcome her home later.

Team DH here.

Do not pick her up op!

Did you find out any more information about Rooftop 525? It's located in the same building as Horseshoe Bar and Globe Theatre

Nightclubs aren't open at 2pm on Christmas Day and I doubt her friends will be allowed either. If it's 11pm then it's fine

Yes, the DD's friends will be with their families. She's moon-eyed over some male, who's probably a bad lot if he's wanting her to skip Christmas instead of seeing her at a time that's normal for young people over the holidays. I dread to think it might be an older divorced man whose kids are with their mother, so he's free, but it would make sense.

It is up to her parents on days like Xmas Day because she is a part of the family unit and a dependent child. She's an adult in law only, not in actuality. I'm assuming that like most 18-year-olds, she is not running her own household, putting her own roof over her head, paying all her own bills, and being completely independent of her parents.

When she's an actual adult, instead of one just on paper, then she can skip Christmas.

In the kindest way, it’s not up to you what she does at 18 years old. I appreciate it is upsetting that she doesn’t want to do things your way, but you have to accept that she’s an adult and wants to do things her way. You can’t (and shouldn’t) be trying to control an 18 year old. It will backfire.

Well if you're talking legally - legally OP can't physically stop her and legally she can throw her out.

This is AIBU, not HBCPLTEO (how badly can people legally treat each other).

Yes!! we often went to the Chunnel after! 🤣
or sometimes we would just stay up all night at home and then go to Chunnel on Sunday mornings as we lived in Balham!

What rights?

She won’t be paying rent, if she has a job it will pay for nights out and the odd bit of clothing. Her life will be funded by her parents.

She doesn’t get to do as she wants with no consideration for the people who make that life possible.

My eldest two are away out tonight for the first time. It's weird because it's different, but this is their Xmas eve and they've worked so hard the last couple of weeks, so I want them to do whatever makes them happy.

Edited because I've deleted a whole paragraph before posting. Going out at two pm Xmas day sounds really strange at her age. Surely her friends will be with their families, I've never heard of anyone going out at 2pm on Xmas day.